The way my voice sounds actually varies. In the morning, it's really raspy- think Abby from NCIS, only worse. T: The rest of the day, it's still a bit raspy, but certainly not that much. I don't like my voice and honestly used to talk in a slightly different way to cover up the grate-y sound it has.
However, when I'm singing, my voice sounds quite feminine (my normal voice seems pretty neutral to me) and is very gentle. Doesn't even sound raspy. I don't understand that, but nobody hears me sing, anyway.
On video, though...I don't watch the video digest on my camera (I didn't even know it does that until I found some of the videos) unless the volume is turned off. If that's what my voice really sounds like, it's no wonder why people don't like me. T: