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    Are you a negative Nancy or a positive Polly? Why do you think you're this way? How do people react to you? Are you only neg/pos on yourself or only on others? Give some examples if you want.

    Because I can already tell some people are going to read this and have no idea what I'm asking: Are you a negative or a positive person?
     
    I think im a positive Polly! Im almost never pessimistic about things and always believe things will turn out well until the very end. I think im this way because i like to have fun and enjoy anything i do to the fullest, so thinking in a negative way would get in the way of that. People usually like my positive thinking, although in some times it annoys them...well what can i do, thats just how i like to think. I also tend to be very positive regarding others, unless i know from experience is safer to assume the negative sight of things.
     
    I'm a negative Nancy on a deathspiral :( I can "think positively" but deep down my brain buzzes and there seems to be an all-too-present palpable tension gripping my heart. I try hard not to show this side of me in real life, but obviously it doesn't always work. On the other side of things, I think positively of other people and have faith in them.
     
    I am a negative Nancy about everything and have been for years now. The worst thing possible will always happen no matter what and why should I look forward to anything?? I try not to drag people down with it, but it's hard. I wish I could think positively more often. :/

    I think I keep a negative mindset so if the worst does happen, I'm not disappointed. Also, at this point, it's just my nature. D:
     
    I try my best to be positive so that I can have as much fun as possible, but sometimes I can't help but be pretty negative. Whenever I have a bad day, I'll just be a grumpy ♥♥♥♥ for ages until I get some food or watch TV :]

    People can get really clingy whenever I'm in a bad mood and just pester me over what's wrong, even though it only worsens my mood. Positivity tends to make others smile though, which I like.
     
    Macarous said:
    I try my best to be positive so that I can have as much fun as possible, but sometimes I can't help but be pretty negative. Whenever I have a bad day, I'll just be a grumpy ♥♥♥♥ for ages until I get some food or watch TV :]

    People can get really clingy whenever I'm in a bad mood and just pester me over what's wrong, even though it only worsens my mood. Positivity tends to make others smile though, which I like.
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    I think I'm going to scratch out my previous thoughts and identify with what you've written right here. It's important not to be too hard on yourself.

    I remember the first time I've seen you grumpy and thought you'd never talk to me again! How wrong I was. now i don't give a ♥♥♥♥ about pissing you off haha jk i do i do

    I think, sammi, that's what happens when you've been negative so long - that you give up hoping for the best and end up expecting the worst. As comforting as that is, I think there's a better way to live. It's not much to figure out what that is - the real struggle is internalizing it and believing it.
     
    Most people (in my experience) try to be positive; I am neutral, so I come across as negative in relation.
    I suppose most people try to be positive for the sake of feeling good about what concerns them, but I don't think that actually does any long-term good.
     
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    Oh, if I wasn't positive I'd be dead. I really would be. March has always been an awful month for me, I was even born at the end of it! But despite all the stuff that's happened I'm having a really great day. I got short listed for the job I really wanted so now I'm chillin waiting for a phone call or email to tell me I'm gonna get a phonecall to get an interview.

    I think the best way to put it is this: when asked if I was a glass half full or half empty person I replied "Well in the real world when you half fill a glass with water the other half is air, we're not talking about hypothetical vacuums here. The question is, is the glass full of what you want it to be full of?"
     
    Most of the time I'm definitely more of a positive person. If I wasn't I would probably not be here. Being positive has helped me get through all my health issues this years.

    I definitely have my negative moments, though. I think most people have both positive and negative moments, the prevalent being the one they use to describe themselves. It would be very hard for someone to be negative or positive in every aspect. Hard but not impossible, don't get me wrong.
     
    I'm a Negative Nancy, lol. I wish I were more positive about things, but its hard to be when nothing works out for me. For me, it's always one step forward, and then two steps back. I try so hard to be positive, but it doesn't last long :/
     
    I definitely have moments on both ends of the spectrum. I'm far more negative most of the time, but I have my positive moments. As others said -- if I weren't positive sometimes, I wouldn't still be here. But, given those very circumstances, I'm still rarely positive/happy.

    Out of all of the posts so far, the only I can really relate to is Sammi's:
    Things are usually bad. Things usually don't turn out well. I've just sorta come to expect it out of everything.
     
    Cassino said:
    I tend to be more negative than most folk are willing to be, as I feel many people are decidedly positive to their detriment. Ideally, this is such that I be neutral and a realist.
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    You make the most difficult to understand posts I've seen on the forum.

    I'm pretty positive, except when it's something that I'm worried about.
    With experiences I've gone through, I always try to find the silver lining.
    When something's going on at the current time, I'm usually pretty negative. I just worry the worst. I try not to, but it's just something that I've done for a long time. If someone doesn't arrive when they said they would, I worry they got into a car accident or something like that happened. That's the best example I can think of that I think people can relate to the most.
     
    I try my best to be a positive and supportive person so that others will naturally gravitate towards me and feel comforted by me being there, but at the same time, I'm viciously negative about myself and it tends to push others off because they think I'm either fishing for compliments, suicidal/depressed, or just a whiny ♥♥♥♥♥. Unfortunately, I'm all three. Overall though, if someone else is having a bad day, I push my problems back so that they feel they have my full attention and support.

    For me, being positive isn't easy. I go through boatloads of stress every day, from love interests to schoolwork to family to friends to the future to how I look and act and talk and everything in between, and that amount of stress makes it hard for me to feel good about myself and enjoy things, which makes me upset because I really wanna enjoy things. It also makes it harder to do anything because I harshly judge myself based on the things that I do, which is no fun because everyone says I'm really good at the things that I do, when I don't think I am.

    Therefore, I am hella negative.

    /end pity party
     
    I like to think I'm... pessimistically optimistic (wut?), but I'll explain.

    I try to think of the worst things that can happen, so when the worst happens, I can be more "ready" for it. On the other hand, if things turn out to be better, I feel much better.
     
    When it comes to change, I could be sort of negative. Unless I see anything good coming out of it, I'd do whatever I can to prevent it from happening. For some people, changes are hard to accept. Unfortunately, I'm one of them. :( Aside from that, I always try to be happy and positive.
     
    I'm the most positive person that I know! :D I used to frown on everything but now I always look at the bright side to everything and try to find the best outcome/solution to it :}
     
    I come across as being a negative person; all the bad stuff always happens yet you are ready for it. When I've tried to think positive, it's been negative again and it makes me even more sick if I didn't think that the negative thing was gonna happen.
     
    In private, as to not influence any one with my way of thinking, I'm quite a negative person. Being raised in a household where my parents hold certain expectations it's honestly been tough, but I recently realized that as time went, those expectations to an extent disappeared and now I'm living for myself, placing these high standards regarding everything in my life. Academics is a humungous trigger in terms of my negative way of thinking, and it's mainly where that negativity is geared towards. Outside of school, I'm generally quite positive as a person; majority of my friends do not know that I've been through depression for a year and everything seemed normal to them. I hide behind this facade and mask as to not affect them and become a burden. So in essence, I can be positive when needed or appropriate because negativity probably isn't well received socially \: I try my best everyday to put on a smile for the benefit of others.
     
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