PinkOmnimon
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How do I stop being such a lame-a-zoid and start being able to talk to people by getting out of my comfort zone? Without the use of alcohol.
You can always smoke weed!
I don't like to just throw myself into conversations though because I feel bad. If I go in then if I don't say something everything just gets awkward and usually if I do say something it's totally inappropriate. And I don't want to feel like a burden on other people.
That's the thing, don't. Just throw yourself in. If people don't like you, just forget about them, and find people who do. I promise there is someone who likes you. I don't even know you, but you seem interesting enough :D You won't be a burden to others, esp. if they know what your really trying to do.
I've been working on doing the same thing your trying to do. So far, I've just started talking to people I don't know, and they don't shove me away, they listen, and if they get bored, they leave. Don't worry about other people. Worry about yourself. Your the most important person you know!
Do you have something like Social Anxiety? Or do you just not talk to people. The latter is much easier to cure.
If you don't want to just throw yourself in, and want to take it slow, then here's what I would recommend:
Start talking to people. Maybe one person here and there, but over time, pick up the pace. Put yourself into more places where talk to people. Do it at your own pace, and don't go to fast for your comfort. No matter how long it takes, as long as you get it done, you've done great. Just talk to people. They won't just push you away, they'll tell you if they don't like you, and if it's a girl, they'll hide it if they do, but if they talk to you, they like you.
Don't feel like a burden, if people don't know anything about you, they'll want to learn about you. Humans, just like cats, have a curious nature. People want to know about the mysterious kid that doesn't talk. Trust me, just talk to them. That's the only advice I can really give. Sorry if that doesn't help, but it's all I got! Good luck :)
I don't really know what it is. I just like when I used to be in band I was friends with a few people in there and that was all the friends I really had. But I wouldn't go out of my way to talk to them. I only talk to people when I'm either not with a clear head or when they approach me first because I know I don't have anything important to say to them so they should go talk to people that matter and have something worth listening to.
At the end of the day, you will approach situations the way you want to. Changing this habit though will not only make you better as a person but better with people. It's that commitment that you have towards your goal that will dictate the outcome. If you're truly wanting to change and become an individual that can keep up with conversations you have to start from square one and work your way up.
Hearing people out is a nice way to start. If you know someone who's going through some bad times then be there for them; add your opinions. People love to vent and just being there will sharpen your social skills. One crucial thing. Don't create a false facade! Change... But change for the better. Always remember to be yourself.
Plant the seed and let time create the garden.