Having a Successful Life With Low Self-Esteem

I just don't understand why anyone would willingly choose the beta life
 
McCree said:
I just don't understand why anyone would willingly choose the beta life
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As I said before, it's because of the negative political stigma towards alpha males as being misogynists based on their appearance and behavior towards women. But there are also some men who are into dominant women, so they choose the beta life in hopes that they get chosen to be submissive to and worship one of these women. For me, I chose the beta life to find a woman who is both smart and nice, which alphas don't go for.
 
Pinkie-Dawn said:
As I said before, it's because of the negative political stigma towards alpha males as being misogynists based on their appearance and behavior towards women. But there are also some men who are into dominant women, so they choose the beta life in hopes that they get chosen to be submissive to and worship one of these women. For me, I chose the beta life to find a woman who is both smart and nice, which alphas don't go for.
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For your sake and that of others, I hope you stop living your life in accordance to stereotypes.
 
McCree said:
For your sake and that of others, I hope you stop living your life in accordance to stereotypes.
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/thread. I couldn't have said it better.

I mean come on man. Living in accordance to stereotypes only contributes to strenghten said stereotypes. We've all had to deal with self-esteem issues at one point in our lives. Some worst than others. But we are all able to find solutions to overcome them.

Having self-esteem doesn't make you a misoginystic douchebag. Fuck anyone who might think that.

Finding excuses to try to justify your lack of motivation for a change in your lifestyle won't do you any good in the long run, but if you choose to go down that path, then you do you my man. You're the captain of your own boat. Just know that there are other options out there.

A role model of mine once told me "If you lack self-esteem, fake it. It'll comme eventually".
 
i had a time where i just let myself be the victim of my own self esteem and it was paralyzing on my life goals. you said you're going to start substitute teaching soon which shows that you're capable of starting the path you want to go down. so to me it seems like you're already pretty capable of having a successful future because you have the ambition to go for it regardless.

honestly i think the best way for you to be successful right now regardless of how you feel about yourself is to just focus on your career. if you have really low self esteem issues i wouldn't advise a relationship anytime soon, but it can def be a far future goal. i understand having low self esteem, but give yourself some credit for getting out there. also the whole "beta male" isn't necessarily a bad thing? you're falling into the mindset that you have to be an a-type personality to be successful which is entirely untrue.
 
I had shit self confidence for years, but I find that I'm pretty happy and have a decent job and am more social nowadays. A big one was being out of school for a long enough time to build my confidence up, and also having a job where you're forced to be social helps. It's also fair to say that even if you have anxiety or low self confidence, if you just act like you have your shit together, and act confident, no one you're talking to will know any different, and eventually you actually start to gain self confidence and it's not just for show.

It helps if you have a goal in mind, that way you have something to aim for. Though, a family... idk, I wouldn't go looking for love. You kinda have to learn how to live yourself and be happy that way, and then relationships will find you.
 
Pinkie-Dawn said:
As I said before, it's because of the negative political stigma towards alpha males as being misogynists based on their appearance and behavior towards women. But there are also some men who are into dominant women, so they choose the beta life in hopes that they get chosen to be submissive to and worship one of these women. For me, I chose the beta life to find a woman who is both smart and nice, which alphas don't go for.
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Snap out of it, soldier!

You don't have to be an 'alpha', but you also don't have to be a 'beta' in order to meet the right woman. Just keep putting yourself out there and don't give up on yourself. Do you think the low self-esteem is self induced, or does it come from others currently in your life or in your past, if you don't mind me asking?
 
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Personally, I don't believe much can be done with a low self-esteem. If you don't place a high enough value on yourself and what you do, there will be no incentive to succeed in life. Bottom line, even though a low self-esteem doesn't mean you'll live an absolutely miserable life, it will definitely not be as good of a life as it would have been with high self-esteem.
 
string555 said:
Snap out of it, soldier!

You don't have to be an 'alpha', but you also don't have to be a 'beta' in order to meet the right woman. Just keep putting yourself out there and don't give up on yourself. Do you think the low self-esteem is self induced, or does it come from others currently in your life or in your past, if you don't mind me asking?
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It comes from both others in my life and from mediums I watch and read.
 
Pinkie-Dawn said:
It comes from both others in my life and from mediums I watch and read.
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Maybe you need to seek out some good role models from the mediums you watch and read. Even if they're a fictional character, you could try and strive to be like them. Sorry to use myself as an example, but I looked up to Gaara from Naruto. He used to be completely evil, but he turned good and ended up saving people. I went through a kind of evil phase in my life, but I strived to become better and try to help people, so that's what I do.

There's tons of examples of these good characters like that, why not just pick a mixture of them and base yourself off of that mix?
 
string555 said:
Maybe you need to seek out some good role models from the mediums you watch and read. Even if they're a fictional character, you could try and strive to be like them. Sorry to use myself as an example, but I looked up to Gaara from Naruto. He used to be completely evil, but he turned good and ended up saving people. I went through a kind of evil phase in my life, but I strived to become better and try to help people, so that's what I do.

There's tons of examples of these good characters like that, why not just pick a mixture of them and base yourself off of that mix?
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I grew up with fiction where the confident good guys always win, but then I was introduced to shows where the main protagonists are beta males who has somehow attracted a lot of women in his life despite their low confidence. Although McCree mentioned the concept of an alpha male is a stereotype, beta males are still reinforcing that stereotype in hopes finding a relationship. They would go as far as to claiming alphas don't exist.
 
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