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kyuubi93 said:
I was talking to this girl, and she totallyyy screwed me over. I deactivated all my social media because I find social media to be a waste of my time. She took that time to post stuff about another guy she was talking too because she was under the assumption I wouldn't find out due to me having deactivated my account. Buuuut then one day a friend of mine sent me a screenshot of it, and the entire time she had still been talking to me, making me thing she was only talking to me, and that she wants to date and all this other stuff. Then when I find out, everything get's all weird, I drop her and then she comes running righhhhht back. She says she won't do it again but she could easillyyyy do it again if she already did, especially considering she's messed with my trust. I just don't know what to do because I have really strong feelings for her.
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How old are you? Just wondering, it will effect my answer.
 
kyuubi93 said:
I'm 21 years old, that's why I have a 93 in my username
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Right then, sorry, you never know nowadays. I had a 90 in mine and people would call me a kid.

Anywho.

I'd say move on.

One, the trust is gone. Give her another chance all you'd like, but the doubt will still linger in your mind. It will never really go away. The 'what ifs' will still plague you. Clear your head. Obviously, she didn't think much of you if she screwed you over, so she's not worth your forgiveness. And hell if she's worth a second chance. This is that moment where you can take pride in telling her, "No, you had your chance." and keep moving forward.

Don't let her manipulate you.

I'm speaking from experience here, mate.
 
kyuubi93 said:
I was talking to this girl, and she totallyyy screwed me over. I deactivated all my social media because I find social media to be a waste of my time. She took that time to post stuff about another guy she was talking too because she was under the assumption I wouldn't find out due to me having deactivated my account. Buuuut then one day a friend of mine sent me a screenshot of it, and the entire time she had still been talking to me, making me thing she was only talking to me, and that she wants to date and all this other stuff. Then when I find out, everything get's all weird, I drop her and then she comes running righhhhht back. She says she won't do it again but she could easillyyyy do it again if she already did, especially considering she's messed with my trust. I just don't know what to do because I have really strong feelings for her.
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I think you know the answer already. She has the carrot on the stick, and is enticing you with it, leading you around like a donkey. She knows you have feelings for her and she's using that whenever something else does not go her away. Regardless of your feelings for her, to try and be in a relationship with her is to accept you will get hurt by her. Is the pain you will suffer worth the few moments of happiness you might have with her? I guess only you can decide that. If it was me, I'd end it and tell her exactly why, then walk away.
 
Phantom said:
Right then, sorry, you never know nowadays. I had a 90 in mine and people would call me a kid.

Anywho.

I'd say move on.

One, the trust is gone. Give her another chance all you'd like, but the doubt will still linger in your mind. It will never really go away. The 'what ifs' will still plague you. Clear your head. Obviously, she didn't think much of you if she screwed you over, so she's not worth your forgiveness. And hell if she's worth a second chance. This is that moment where you can take pride in telling her, "No, you had your chance." and keep moving forward.

Don't let her manipulate you.

I'm speaking from experience here, mate.
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Dude, the funny thing is you are completely right about everything your talking about. I already have a feeling that it will happen again, and this is probably the kind of situation I should trust my gut on.

Jay0173 said:
I think you know the answer already. She has the carrot on the stick, and is enticing you with it, leading you around like a donkey. She knows you have feelings for her and she's using that whenever something else does not go her away. Regardless of your feelings for her, to try and be in a relationship with her is to accept you will get hurt by her. Is the pain you will suffer worth the few moments of happiness you might have with her? I guess only you can decide that. If it was me, I'd end it and tell her exactly why, then walk away.
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Dude, thank you. That metaphor was perfect haha sometimes a little harsh truth can go a long way. As I mentioned previously, I had accepted the high possibility that it will happen again. Besides, two of my friends called pretty much everything that happened. I think part of my feelings are afraid of seeing her with another dude, but I think I need to pound it into my head that I would probably be better off without her.
 
Help! I need advice. I've been having heartburn in other parts of my body that isn't my chest. It feels like heartburn but a friend of mine says it isn't. That heartburn is only in your chest. If that's true why am I getting burning sensations in other parts of my body that feel like heartburn? I get it in my arms, legs, neck and even my ears. Why is this happening? What's causing it?
 
Konekodemon said:
Help! I need advice. I've been having heartburn in other parts of my body that isn't my chest. It feels like heartburn but a friend of mine says it isn't. That heartburn is only in your chest. If that's true why am I getting burning sensations in other parts of my body that feel like heartburn? I get it in my arms, legs, neck and even my ears. Why is this happening? What's causing it?
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I'd go to an "urgent care" (idk if you have those where you live) and see a quick doctor, just to get an opinion.

I personally doubt it's anything; let us know
 
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Konekodemon said:
Help! I need advice. I've been having heartburn in other parts of my body that isn't my chest. It feels like heartburn but a friend of mine says it isn't. That heartburn is only in your chest. If that's true why am I getting burning sensations in other parts of my body that feel like heartburn? I get it in my arms, legs, neck and even my ears. Why is this happening? What's causing it?
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There aren't any doctors on PC, and the human body is so complex that it could be any number of things. Go to the doctor.
 
Just echoing what the others have said really.

Get to a doctor. There's an extremely large range of things that the symptoms you have described could be. If the pain is too bad go to the emergency department. It's better safe than sorry and even the most knowledgeable non-doctors of us here can't compare to the knowledge of a trained professional.

Let us know, we might not have the slightest idea who you are (well some of us anyway) but we can still worry!
 
Konekodemon said:
Help! I need advice. I've been having heartburn in other parts of my body that isn't my chest. It feels like heartburn but a friend of mine says it isn't. That heartburn is only in your chest. If that's true why am I getting burning sensations in other parts of my body that feel like heartburn? I get it in my arms, legs, neck and even my ears. Why is this happening? What's causing it?
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Let's see, going by life experience, this may be a symptom of hot flashes. Being male, I have not experienced hot flashes first hand, but being around numerous women that have experienced it (Family members, as well as personal relationships) it was best described as a 'prickling sensations akin to heart burn'. Now, while I am no physician and I am sure it is difficult to get an accurate feel for symptoms over the internet, I urge you to contact your PCP and explain to them the goings ons with your body to get a more accurate reading.

Hot flashes are not just a symptom of menopause, either, and may be caused in numerous ways. Foods, drinks, stress, fatigue, smoking, caffeine, dehydration, poor diet and/or lack of regular exercise may be contributing factors or even cause them on their own individually. Again, my ideas and thoughts should in no way influence you to purchase any medications or prescriptions. Consult your PCP as soon as possible to determine what it is that is causing these 'heartburn' sensations all over your body. Make an appointment as soon as you are able to do so. It may also be wise to make yourself a list of all your symptoms by writing them down. Do some research on these symptoms and some potential causes and bring your notes to your PCP. While your notes may be off, and you may sound silly, they help you and your PCP to pinpoint the problem. It is better to look silly than it is to be dealing with some harrowing disease later down the line.

Thought for the Day: My armour is contempt.
 
*sigh* I have a major issue. All my closest friends are moving on to college and the after high school life and I am still stuck with this year and then Senior year left to go for high school. They never talk anymore, and when they come online they don't want to talk, and it's really depressing me. I don't really want to make new friends, because I feel like I'd be replacing physical people but keeping painful memories of them because I'll never see them again. I really don't know how to go about looking for new friends. I know I can make some here but since I was in the mental hospital the past 2 weeks my social outcastness really got out of hand.

It's so hard ;~;
 
DDDchu said:
*sigh* I have a major issue. All my closest friends are moving on to college and the after high school life and I am still stuck with this year and then Senior year left to go for high school. They never talk anymore, and when they come online they don't want to talk, and it's really depressing me. I don't really want to make new friends, because I feel like I'd be replacing physical people but keeping painful memories of them because I'll never see them again. I really don't know how to go about looking for new friends. I know I can make some here but since I was in the mental hospital the past 2 weeks my social outcastness really got out of hand.

It's so hard ;~;
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Unfortunately you're going to have to wait it out until you see them again in person or they come to their senses. Making new friends is obvious, but so much easier said than done. You don't need to worry about replacing your friends, think about Toy Story (You're Andy in this analogy) and internally your Buzz and Woody conflict is essentially the same.
If you are open to making some new friends, find a job, plenty of lifelong friends will come through work and it's a situation where everyone is cornered into a social environment by means of "teamwork". If you're still at school think of an ice breaker and literally go stand next to people, depending on which people you stand next to a conversation will happen and you can start getting to know people.
You shouldn't feel depressed ever if someone doesn't want to hang out with you because you have value and those people are either ignorant or stupid. So why try to impress them in the first place? Just do you, don't worry about other people. Find out what you want to do with your life and really focus on achieving it. Good luck :)
 
Plumpyfoof said:
Unfortunately you're going to have to wait it out until you see them again in person or they come to their senses. Making new friends is obvious, but so much easier said than done. You don't need to worry about replacing your friends, think about Toy Story (You're Andy in this analogy) and internally your Buzz and Woody conflict is essentially the same.
If you are open to making some new friends, find a job, plenty of lifelong friends will come through work and it's a situation where everyone is cornered into a social environment by means of "teamwork". If you're still at school think of an ice breaker and literally go stand next to people, depending on which people you stand next to a conversation will happen and you can start getting to know people.
You shouldn't feel depressed ever if someone doesn't want to hang out with you because you have value and those people are either ignorant or stupid. So why try to impress them in the first place? Just do you, don't worry about other people. Find out what you want to do with your life and really focus on achieving it. Good luck :)
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Thanks for the advice. Can't wait to go back to school tomorrow. I think the whole summer of not being around any friends physically is what got to me.
 
Ok, I found out my friend was wrong. It is heartburn. My mom told me so.
 
Konekodemon said:
Ok, I found out my friend was wrong. It is heartburn. My mom told me so.
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Whilst I have no doubts that your mother is a plenty intelligent woman unless she's a medical professional I'd still recommend seeing a doctor. What you described sounds pretty unusual for heartburn.

Then again, I'm not a doctor either. That's just my two cents.
Thanks for keeping us up to date though!
 
Konekodemon said:
Ok, I found out my friend was wrong. It is heartburn. My mom told me so.
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Can you recall when it started happening/any events that occurred around that time? Diet habits/exercise plan?

Only asking because I'm a Nursing student and by the description you gave that does not sound like heartburn.
 
Konekodemon said:
Help! I need advice. I've been having heartburn in other parts of my body that isn't my chest. It feels like heartburn but a friend of mine says it isn't. That heartburn is only in your chest. If that's true why am I getting burning sensations in other parts of my body that feel like heartburn? I get it in my arms, legs, neck and even my ears. Why is this happening? What's causing it?
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I'm probably as close as you can get to a doctor here on PC. (EMT) Though note, my advice is merely as an observer of the information you've shared over the internet.

Heartburn is all about acid, it can feel like it's in your chest, but you'll feel it in the back of your throat too.

Any other symptoms? How long?

It does not sound like a heart attack, if anything it sounds like a fever/inflammation. It sounds like you're feeling it in the hot points on your body. Try cooling down a bit and seeing if that helps. Run your wrists though cool water for a minute, put an ice pack on your forehead. Do you feel cooler? I would suggest, with parental permission of course to take a fever fighting med, like ibuprofen, just to see if that helps.

If there are other symptoms like body aches, etc, I would suggest going to a doctor.

If it's really heartburn, take an antiacid. Tumtumtumtumtuuuuums.
 
Hey, everyone... I'm going through a very difficult time right now. In just one week, I've lost a handful of friends. All of which are very close to me. Or were, in this case.

I said things I shouldn't have, one of which out of frustration for things in my life. The other in which I need to share, but wanted them to keep secret. Obviously, she couldn't. So, now I feel like a fool, and I learned what I fear most of all.

Being alone. To be honest, I feel even more depressed than ever.

And yes, I've already tried to patch things up with both my only local friend and two of the three friends I had that I played games with every night. Neither of which will talk to me, and I feel lower than low.

The sad thing is I try to convince myself I'm this awful, horrible person. I'm just socially awkward, and say the wrong thing without actually realizing it most of the time.

I guess what I'm trying to say is that I need someone (or some people) to talk to.

That would be nice.
 
Alright, there are two things I would like comments on:

1. Lately, i've been feeling a lot of bends in my stomach area. That's kind of hard to describe, but they're getting frequent. Oftentimes it hurts to even stretch. Does it mean anything? Because I don't know if I should be scared or not. /:

2. My parents have told us to get flu shots, and since the beginning of the month. My school is offering them, but where I work is also offering them, for free no less. But the thing is, i'm suggested not to get the flu shot if I have an actual cold, instead of allergies. What if i'm just feeling a few sniffles and some coughs? Would that be considered a cold that would keep me away from it? The college nurse suggested there isn't much pollen, meaning that it may be a cold, but I haven't been seriously ill.

Would like some insight here... Thanks!
 
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