Spikey-Eared Pichu
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I don't exactly know what to do. I'm literally numb emotionally. I'm not depressed, upset, pissed off, angry or anything, I'm totally numb.
I don't exactly know what to do. I'm literally numb emotionally. I'm not depressed, upset, pissed off, angry or anything, I'm totally numb.
Okay, the situation is:
I have seriously strong feelings for him. I've felt this way about him for a year now. He is sexually confused. He's actually offered to mess around with me if you catch my drift. We've not done anything sexual yet. I've helped him through his last two relationships and the girls have admitted that without my help that she would have most likely broken up with him a lot sooner. I don't intend to ruin his relationship, far from it. I want the best for him. I want him to be happy.
But, I also want him to acknowledge that I have feelings for him and that I've trusted him with something deeply close to me (in the closet to a vast majority of my community) and that he shouldn't be telling his girlfriends about me. I assume he told the one he's with right now because she's bisexual and he figured that me and her would get along because I'm gay. He doesn't seem to understand that I don't want his girlfriends as friends. It hurts to see him with girls and not pay me any attention. Out of everyone he knows, I'm the one he neglects the most. It's sad and pathetic on my part to have feelings for such an *******, I know, but I cannot help how I feel.
Yes that is true but we have an exact replica or marriage under the Family Code it's not called "marriage" but in practice it is essentially the same thing aside from one difference. You have to be residing together to get a Domestic Partnership but the legislature is considering doing away with the residency requirement.
Look, I'm all for equality. I'm just pointing out how futile challenging Prop 8 in Court is.
omg fail grammar.You mean like my best bes best friend (basically my brother), whom I have none since I was 3? D;
And anyways, I think my mom already knows...
She will still love you no matter what. She may be shocked, but don't feel bad about that if that is the case. It is shocking. Just remember to tell them to tell you what they are thinking.Personally, I'm waiting to be in a proper relationship before I come out to my parents, because they too will think that it's a phase I'm going through. x_x; Out of my family, my mum will be the first person I tell, but despite us being extremely close, I still don't know what her reaction would be. =/
I want some of your guys opinions. How did you come out, when was it, and who was it too? I havnt came out to anyone irl, and I really dont know if I should wait, and even when I am ready, what to do. Ya, help?
I want some of your guys opinions. How did you come out, when was it, and who was it too? I havnt came out to anyone irl, and I really dont know if I should wait, and even when I am ready, what to do. Ya, help?
I can't give advice from personal experience (still hiding), but most people I know first came out to their friends who were already out of the closet (if any of them are), then their other friends, then their sisters, then their brothers then their moms, and last to their dads (who are the scariest to come out to). Parents are most likely to flip out and your friends might not be great at keeping secrets so if you have sisters or brothers maybe they'd be good to tell. Again, I don't know from personal experience.I want some of your guys opinions. How did you come out, when was it, and who was it too? I havnt came out to anyone irl, and I really dont know if I should wait, and even when I am ready, what to do. Ya, help?
I want some of your guys opinions. How did you come out, when was it, and who was it too? I havnt came out to anyone irl, and I really dont know if I should wait, and even when I am ready, what to do. Ya, help?
I don't really suggest the "have a gf/bf route first. Firstly because it isn't as likely as one thinks that it will happen that way (a viscious circle of denial and inability to properly communicate etc). The last thing you want to do is spook your parents... Sure they will not mind it and such, but springing that on them might show you do not trust their judgment, so you need further proof (the bf/gf) to prove it. It can also be a form of denial, that is to say, you don't really care what your parents say (which in some cases is required), but if you trust them enough, don't let them slip away. ;)
My suggestion is tell someone that you trust very much, just one person for now. Then spread your wings there afterwords, as your confidence will build.
idk... that's just the way I see it, I don't want to say it's wrong or right, whatever feels best anyway.
And parents are generally more accepting than what Freaky seems to be suggesting.
Um, that isn't related to what I said..in any way. I said to explain how gay people had more rights than straight people, when they obviously don't. :| *puts you on my ignore list because all you do is post worthless and false information*@little monster - Challenging DOMA in federal court would be the best move for the LGBT community. Prop 8 can undone by a simple ballot initiative. I mean I understand that there might be a symbolic reason for challenging Prop 8 but legally it won't change much.
To my friends~I want some of your guys opinions. How did you come out, when was it, and who was it too? I havnt came out to anyone irl, and I really dont know if I should wait, and even when I am ready, what to do. Ya, help?
I want some of your guys opinions. How did you come out, when was it, and who was it too? I havnt came out to anyone irl, and I really dont know if I should wait, and even when I am ready, what to do. Ya, help?