Most suicides arise from situations of immense turmoil, such as losing a job, being taken out of your house or losing another important part of your life. Everyone is different and thus have different triggers, but when it triggers, that person can fall into a despair so intense it is incomprehensible. As I said, it's all encompassing. It's not just something that you are reminded of every now and then that makes you a bit blue - every aspect of your life becomes shrouded in it. With me, it is when I lost my hope in when everything could get better when I wanted to die. Of course, I now know that things can get better, that hope isn't an empty purpose. But when one falls into that stage, it feels like everything is a lie.Mental disorder I understand, but just having a mindset of "I want to kill myself"? I can't comprehend that. Would you mind giving me an example, please?
That's true, but you're forgetting that people in such a depressed state usually don't see everything the way that others do. That's one of the horrible parts of depression - in reality it's self-crippling and can be cured by oneself, but without hope it feels it will last forever.There's always another option. The quality of that option may vary, but there's always an option, and the vast, vast majority of the time it's preferable to live.
Do you honestly believe that's the only reason why teenagers commit suicide? Usually school is a trigger - it's usually a cascade of events that gets worse and worse, and grades may be the last straw - similar to how some people may "snap" when consistently provoked.I agree completely. There are other alternatives. I especially think teen suicide is selfish. You're going to get out of school eventually, suck it up. It also must devastate the parents who have had to go through the suicidal death of their child.
Exactly, but everyone is different. Usually a constant form of stress that makes someone depressed can do that - it doesn't have to be as severe as the kinds you listed though. A constant reign of failure over years and years can often cause people, including myself, to become suicidal.It would be stupid to suicide because of a break-up. But if its something that has happened that was too horrible to heal from, (extreme: abuse, rape, etc.), then it would be understandable for me. Some kids go suicidal when they aren't raised properly, and then its not really they're fault.
True. I cannot deny that there are people who do it to receive attention, which is despicable, considering that I suffer from depression myself. It's important you bring up mental disorder/frame of mind, however. The majority of suicides are from this. Almost all suicides after the age of 18, I will bet, are due to a combination of severe losses, such as losing a job and foreclosure, that seem so horrible there is no way to escape.Understandable; and I agree fully.
But from my friends and personal experience of this, the actual suicidal people who have no option because of a mental disorder/frame of mind is different from the attention seeking percent.
This is exactly what went through my mind when I loaded myself with pills over a year ago:
"Jesus Christ. What have I done? Everything is falling apart around me. I feel hollow - I feel like everyone hates me. Whenever I try to do something it always backfires and hurts others. There's something wrong with me - something that makes me unconsciously hate everyone and everything around me, and it's making me destroy everything around me. What's the point?"
Of course, everyone is unique, as are such experiences, but anyone who feels that those who are suicidal are "selfish" or "petty" have obviously never found themselves in that situation. It isn't about thinking about oneself - it's an all-encompassing blight that takes all joy and colour and freedom and hope from your existence. Everything shuts down, everything just spirals more and more downward, biting through your flesh like a mad dog.
I don't think that people should be allowed to just kill themselves though. It's not because its wrong, but it's because their vision becomes so narrow due to their despair they have no idea how things could improve. With hope absent, there's no point in living. Someone who wants to commit suicide should not be looked down upon as someone with some kind of "kook disorder" or someone who's "petty", but rather as someone who needs emotional strength for them to rise again.
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Most suicides arise from situations of immense turmoil, such as losing a job, being taken out of your house or losing another important part of your life. Everyone is different and thus have different triggers, but when it triggers, that person can fall into a despair so intense it is incomprehensible. As I said, it's all encompassing. It's not just something that you are reminded of every now and then that makes you a bit blue - every aspect of your life becomes shrouded in it. With me, it is when I lost my hope in when everything could get better when I wanted to die. Of course, I now know that things can get better, that hope isn't an empty purpose. But when one falls into that stage, it feels like everything is a lie.
That's true, but you're forgetting that people in such a depressed state usually don't see everything the way that others do. That's one of the horrible parts of depression - in reality it's self-crippling and can be cured by oneself, but without hope it feels it will last forever.
I know that from your side of the fence that must seem obvious to consult your religion. But what about the people who aren't religious, or even those who are contemplating suicide because they think they will be better off going to heaven.
First off, I am sorry you have been in that situation before. I would never wish that on anyone. Not a single person.
This is what I have been trying to put across. No one has experienced this feeling of pure depression and hopelessness; I haven't, but from the letter my friend left me, he had.
I will stop there because I feel I am being too heated in my discussion and I feel too strongly for some people to understand.
I agree with most of what you're saying, actually. Most people don't know what it's like though and are too quick to make judgments. You did catch me while editing, though, so I'll reemphasize an important point:First off, I am sorry you have been in that situation before. I would never wish that on anyone. Not a single person.
This is what I have been trying to put across. No one has experienced this feeling of pure depression and hopelessness; I haven't, but from the letter my friend left me, he had.
I will stop there because I feel I am being too heated in my discussion and I feel too strongly for some people to understand.
Of course, there exist people who just do it because "Boo hoo Johnny broke up with me". Admittedly a breakup is probably emotional, but not so much that it tears your life right open. People who pull that **** have no idea what it feels like to really be depressed - it comes from a succession of failures, horrible experiences or events provoking hopelessness that make those thoughts come to mind.
I agree with most of what you're saying, actually. Most people don't know what it's like though and are too quick to make judgments. You did catch me while editing, though, so I'll reemphasize an important point:
I was going to say a lot more, but Corvidae covered quite a lot so I won't go into too much.
I attempted suicide. Was I constantly thinking about myself? Hell yes. Was I only thinking about myself? Hell no.
I was thinking about a million things: people who had hurt me and hated me, people who had helped me and loved me. I thought about my future and what I imaged it would be like. Would there be more people out to hurt me or more out to help me? Would I cause more harm or good in the future? In my mind I was something awful that happened to the world and I didn't want to hurt others (or be hurt either) so in my mind I was even trying to help other people. Hardly selfish if you ask me, even if I also wanted the suffering to stop. Please stop all this "selfish" talk.
And that's all I really feel like going into.
The mentality I see most often is, "Life is too much to live through, so I'm quitting now". It's the ultimate form of selfishness. I think I can't make it, so I'm going to kill myself. How is that not a selfish suicide?Suicide people rarely commit for selfish reasons. If someone was selfish and this drastic, s/he doesn't feel the need to kill him- or herself: instead, s/he would try and improve the situation through whatever means necessary, no matter how much pain it could bring to others.
In cases of suicide however, you feel that you are so worthless that you only bring pain to others. In the scenarios where you want to die for nothing more than an end to suffering, well, it's quite the victim there, so I don't think their "selfishness" is uncalled for.
How is suicide a selfish act? Come on, seriously.
Guillermo said:You've got to put yourself before others. That's life.
Oh, I'm sorry. Did I upset you by stating that everyone puts themselves before others?Is anyone else seeing the irony here?
I don't quite understand how such a thing could amuse you, really. Stating that suicide isn't a selfish act, and that you need to put yourself before others have no relevance.Actually, you amused me with the discord between those two statements.
How is suicide a selfish act? Come on, seriously. You've got to put yourself before others. That's life. If someone really wants to end their life, then considering that person selfish because someone can't deal with their decision is a bit rude. You've got no right to justify why that person did what they did, and you've got no right to call them selfish over it.
Just because someone apparently cares about you doesn't outweigh all the other crap that can be going on in their life. Wow, you might be sad if they die, but you're being selfish yourself to call them selfish for not thinking about you.
Not supporting suicide, I think it's a silly way to solve your issues, but.
Can you honestly make that judgement?In the case of depression, suicide is often selfish. Some people when they hit that low point can't help being selfish, their judgement is impaired and they're not in their right mind.