Chit-Chat: the daily chit-chat (jan2019 - jun2019)

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I always find it difficult to jump into conversation in large, active servers - I feel like I'm either intruding or being ignored...usually both. If there are more than 4 or 5 people talking at once I tend to fade into the background. It kinda feels like I've forgotten how to really talk to large groups of people sometimes.
 
Yeah, I get that. Honestly, for the most part, I prefer smaller servers simply because it's easier to get to know more people in them. It also depends on the server because size does not always mean that you'll just be another person in the background. A well managed server knows how to make the environment fairly inclusive and close-knit, I believe.
 
I'm in a few pretty big servers so I'm kinda used to it at this point lmao. I need to be in smaller servers though because splitting my attention between the big servers sometimes can be a bit much aaaa
 
I have yet to find a server that is inclusive and close-knit, although I think that's a pretty big ask - cliques are a natural part of any gathering, and you'll always have people on the outside of them. There's a level of closeness that many just aren't privy to in large servers for whatever reason. It's just how things are, I think. It's nothing bad, it's just how it is. You can be friendly to everyone, but not friends with everyone.

I don't talk a lot on Discord these days...I have it because it's the thing to have. xD
 
Yeah, that's a fair point. Being new to any new group carries its own kind of "what if i I don't fit in/everyone already knows each other" kind of vibe (at least, for me). And like, sometimes it gets really intimidating to try to fit in because, at least personally, I sometimes wonder if I'm making a fool of myself doing so.

Still though, being included in any group comes with time and I think as long as you're (generally speaking, not specifically) genuine enough about wanting to be part of any group in particular and you're nice and all, I don't think most would have an issue.
 
Same, and that usually gets me in trouble because my opinions are unpopular, which automatically makes me wrong and makes other people dislike me. tbh I think I'm better off keeping my mouth shut in groups because it quickly turns into Me vs. Everyone Else and it's kinda...unpleasant.

Urgh, I've done nothing today and I have to work tomorrow. Joycons being rubbish really soured my mood =/
 
i used to have the hardest time trying to jump into conversations which is why i always lurked in like every chatroom i was in, including PC's. idk how exactly i managed to click back in november when i popped my head in there but now it's pretty much a staple for me to go and chitchat there and actually jump in and chat.

it's... amazing how different it feels vs all the other times i tried haha.
 
TY said:
I feel I'm too different from anyone else here to fit in tbh xD
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Honestly, same
I never fit in with giant groups either, and I'm always fearing people will ignore me (which usually happens)
But you never know until you try.. that's what gets me to actually attempt in the first place
 
Typing on Discord is like typing on Instant Messengers back in the day. Old school B.Net(and to a lesser degree B.Net 2.0) are like it as well. Its the voice chatting where I could understand being shy... *You shall never know my voice unless I get bribed and I have the opportunity to do so*
 
Meyling said:
Honestly, same
I never fit in with giant groups either, and I'm always fearing people will ignore me (which usually happens)
But you never know until you try.. that's what gets me to actually attempt in the first place
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Got a fair point there. Might just give it another go then
 
no one is ever going to catch me voice chatting lol I have terrible voice dysphoria

im content just chatting away as I am in text channels thank you very much
 
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