The Post Your Problems Thread

[doesn't matter]

Those aren't the sort of problems that this thread is concerned with, particularly since they concern another forum that we have no relation with (besides the obvious fandom). You got banned there due to your own actions, and that's that. I doubt it's permanent, so you shouldn't worry about it so much.

 

[Orange Meganium]

It certainly is permanent,pardon me.

 

[The Confuzzler]

Well i uh have girl problems.. yeah i know a nine year old sue me.. but yeah uh aanyway this is what is happening.

Well a few weeks ago i told some of my friends i liked this girl - who is also my friend but she were not there - So this sneaky guy in my class comes and listens in. He goes and tells them and i get very angry.

So she tells me no because she likes this guy - who is my best friend! - and he does not like her a bit. So i tell her the next day i actually dont when i still did. Then about two weeks later one of my friends tells me that she likes me - kind of an omg moment - And she didn't get angry one bit. But now she moved on to my best friend again. And the other day we were playing this weird word game and nobody could figure it out. My friend looked like he knew it and i said to him if he got it he'd be more popular than me - since i'm popular - and then she gives me a weird stare like she's angry. sOMEONE HELP ME PLEASE!

 

[Razer302]

I think you are to young to even be thinking about things like this right now. I doubt it would last long. So justb wait till your older and then see what happens. If she really liked either of you she wouldn't change so quick between you both. Just wait till your older and concentrate on school for now.

 

[Anxiety.]

Well i uh have girl problems.. yeah i know a nine year old sue me.. but yeah uh aanyway this is what is happening.

Well a few weeks ago i told some of my friends i liked this girl - who is also my friend but she were not there - So this sneaky guy in my class comes and listens in. He goes and tells them and i get very angry.

So she tells me no because she likes this guy - who is my best friend! - and he does not like her a bit. So i tell her the next day i actually dont when i still did. Then about two weeks later one of my friends tells me that she likes me - kind of an omg moment - And she didn't get angry one bit. But now she moved on to my best friend again. And the other day we were playing this weird word game and nobody could figure it out. My friend looked like he knew it and i said to him if he got it he'd be more popular than me - since i'm popular - and then she gives me a weird stare like she's angry. sOMEONE HELP ME PLEASE!

Razor302 hit the nail on the head there. Just see what happens, from what I can tell, she is confused too. So just let her be for a bit, she will sort it out. Anyway, you're only 9, just concentrate on keeping your friends and getting good grades, or marks, or whatever xD
Don't take my word for it though, when I was nine, I had three friends, two of which can't even remember me :( So I don't know much about love between 9 year olds.

Tell you what, think about it, if you really, and I mean really like her, and then PM me, I'll talk you through it, unless you want to carry on posting in this thread. I'm a novice when it comes to love though :(

 

[Kura]

I dunno if this is a solvable problem.. probably isn't..
But I started work today.. and it's pretty good.. I just.. hate hate hate having to travel like.. an hour to an hour and a half to my workplace.. and then another hour or hour and a half back =_=
Work starts from 9:30 AM to 6PM.. long hours.. I get an hour for lunch..
But I dunno.. I feel like.. my summer is just.. gone. Sure.. I'll have weekends.. but it feels like.. ongoing school or something..
=_= I feel like.. part of my life has ended I guess.. no more summers.. it's just gonna be work work.. and more work..

I dunno how to handle this thought.. it makes me so stressed.. and it makes me tired from having to be stressed all the time..

I want to be able to move on when I'm older and work at a place that I'll love. I feel like I'm putting all this effort in and getting uncertainty in return..

It's scary.


No one can offer me any advice for this at all.. =_= And that's the worst part about this problem.

Maybe my expectations are too high or glamourous or something..

 

[Bug Catcher Nick]

Can't you move closer to work?

Do you drive there, or use public transport?

 

[txteclipse]

I dunno if this is a solvable problem.. probably isn't..
But I started work today.. and it's pretty good.. I just.. hate hate hate having to travel like.. an hour to an hour and a half to my workplace.. and then another hour or hour and a half back =_=
Work starts from 9:30 AM to 6PM.. long hours.. I get an hour for lunch..
But I dunno.. I feel like.. my summer is just.. gone. Sure.. I'll have weekends.. but it feels like.. ongoing school or something..
=_= I feel like.. part of my life has ended I guess.. no more summers.. it's just gonna be work work.. and more work..

I dunno how to handle this thought.. it makes me so stressed.. and it makes me tired from having to be stressed all the time..

I want to be able to move on when I'm older and work at a place that I'll love. I feel like I'm putting all this effort in and getting uncertainty in return..

It's scary.


No one can offer me any advice for this at all.. =_= And that's the worst part about this problem.

Maybe my expectations are too high or glamourous or something..

I'm breaking my rule of no posting until I get a fanfic chapter done, but what the heck. I think I can help you out.

Alrighty then: first off, I started working in the summer after my junior year of high school. I wasn't full time, but I worked about 8 hours a day, 4-5 days a week iirc. I was a little bummed out to be working during what was supposed to be my time off, but I got over that pretty much immediately after receiving my first paycheck. I believe I got a DS Lite and Pearl version with that money alone. That's the big thing about work...the money. It may feel like a chore now, kinda the same as school, but school doesn't pay you. So hang in there until your first paycheck, and as long as you don't have to pay rent and such, it will be a big boost.

As for how far you are from work, that's a bit more difficult to negotiate. I live roughly 30 minutes from my job, so I'm not too sure what to say on that...

 

[Xairmo]

I have somewhat of a problem. Ive been having a lot of drama with my parents lately an d I just cant handle it. I think if I keep going as I am now I'll end up doing something self-destructive. So Ive been considering legal emancipation lately. So I just need a tad bit of help.

 

[Ageless Irony]

I have a bit of a problem that I feel like posting here. *Trying to be more active, and if I need my problems to help me do so, so be it*

Anyway...I'm having trouble with my parents...
See, they think I'm suicidal :/
I had a similar deal with them in seventh grade about this same subject that pretty much changed our relationship forever. I was reading a book called "Give a boy a gun" (Think Columbine) and I was currently getting bad grades and stuff so they thought I might try something like that. Even though I told them I'd never do that, And I will NEVER do that, they still kept close watch on me and were always talking about my feelings and if I was sad or angry or if I was getting bullied at school...

Anyway, skip forward 5 years or so, and it's happening all over again. A couple months ago I broke up with my girlfriend of 6 months who I was very much "in love" with. I'm still too young to know if it was actual love or not. Anyway, I was really depressed and sad and heartbroken...But I'll spare you the details on how we broke up, I just felt really weak and unwanted. So I was sad and wrote some stuff I regret writing (Nothing too creepy, just sad poetry and stuff) And I kept that all in a notebook which I hid pretty well...

Okay, enough back story, heres my real problem. My Dad found the notebook and read EVERYTHING. A lot of very personal stuff was in there. And as a coincidence, the same day he found the notebook, I had spilled some red ink all over my wrist, and he thought I was morbidly imitating hurting myself. So suddenly, he rings up all this stuff to further prove his point, and I keep telling him that it isn't like that and that I'm not hurting myself or going to kill myself. Now they're really protective and won't really let me be alone at all, they keep asking me how I'm feeling. Our relationship is just weird now, and I hate it.
And on top of all that, I heard him talking to my Mom aobut how he doens't want to come home to find his son in a puddle of his own blood, so he thinks he might send me away to camp for a retreat thingy for emotionally disturbed kids.

I just want them to trust me that everything is okay. But they won't believe me...Anyone got any advice on how I can get them to listen? Talking doens't seem to work much...

 

[Hazuki]

I have somewhat of a problem. Ive been having a lot of drama with my parents lately an d I just cant handle it. I think if I keep going as I am now I'll end up doing something self-destructive. So Ive been considering legal emancipation lately. So I just need a tad bit of help.

Drama with your parents? Such as yelling at them, getting into fights? That's not cool. Your parents are the ones that are here to support you. When you are first born, the first people you see (other than your doctor) is your parents. And when your parents see you, they can't help but love you. That's why you should show them some love, you should let them know everyday you are there for them, and they are there for you.

I would suggest, going up to them and talk about the situation. And then at the end apologize and forget about the whole thing. ^^

I have a bit of a problem that I feel like posting here. *Trying to be more active, and if I need my problems to help me do so, so be it*

Anyway...I'm having trouble with my parents...
See, they think I'm suicidal :/
I had a similar deal with them in seventh grade about this same subject that pretty much changed our relationship forever. I was reading a book called "Give a boy a gun" (Think Columbine) and I was currently getting bad grades and stuff so they thought I might try something like that. Even though I told them I'd never do that, And I will NEVER do that, they still kept close watch on me and were always talking about my feelings and if I was sad or angry or if I was getting bullied at school...

Anyway, skip forward 5 years or so, and it's happening all over again. A couple months ago I broke up with my girlfriend of 6 months who I was very much "in love" with. I'm still too young to know if it was actual love or not. Anyway, I was really depressed and sad and heartbroken...But I'll spare you the details on how we broke up, I just felt really weak and unwanted. So I was sad and wrote some stuff I regret writing (Nothing too creepy, just sad poetry and stuff) And I kept that all in a notebook which I hid pretty well...

Okay, enough back story, heres my real problem. My Dad found the notebook and read EVERYTHING. A lot of very personal stuff was in there. And as a coincidence, the same day he found the notebook, I had spilled some red ink all over my wrist, and he thought I was morbidly imitating hurting myself. So suddenly, he rings up all this stuff to further prove his point, and I keep telling him that it isn't like that and that I'm not hurting myself or going to kill myself. Now they're really protective and won't really let me be alone at all, they keep asking me how I'm feeling. Our relationship is just weird now, and I hate it.
And on top of all that, I heard him talking to my Mom aobut how he doens't want to come home to find his son in a puddle of his own blood, so he thinks he might send me away to camp for a retreat thingy for emotionally disturbed kids.

I just want them to trust me that everything is okay. But they won't believe me...Anyone got any advice on how I can get them to listen? Talking doens't seem to work much...

Huh how wierd. Well I'll just skip to the part of your problem. Wow I am so sorry about that. I don't understand why your parents won't listen to you...

Well I hope this doesn't sound offending or anything, but is there any backgrounds around them, and do they do drugs?

 

[BeachBoy]

I have a bit of a problem that I feel like posting here. *Trying to be more active, and if I need my problems to help me do so, so be it*

Anyway...I'm having trouble with my parents...
See, they think I'm suicidal :/
I had a similar deal with them in seventh grade about this same subject that pretty much changed our relationship forever. I was reading a book called "Give a boy a gun" (Think Columbine) and I was currently getting bad grades and stuff so they thought I might try something like that. Even though I told them I'd never do that, And I will NEVER do that, they still kept close watch on me and were always talking about my feelings and if I was sad or angry or if I was getting bullied at school...

Anyway, skip forward 5 years or so, and it's happening all over again. A couple months ago I broke up with my girlfriend of 6 months who I was very much "in love" with. I'm still too young to know if it was actual love or not. Anyway, I was really depressed and sad and heartbroken...But I'll spare you the details on how we broke up, I just felt really weak and unwanted. So I was sad and wrote some stuff I regret writing (Nothing too creepy, just sad poetry and stuff) And I kept that all in a notebook which I hid pretty well...

Okay, enough back story, heres my real problem. My Dad found the notebook and read EVERYTHING. A lot of very personal stuff was in there. And as a coincidence, the same day he found the notebook, I had spilled some red ink all over my wrist, and he thought I was morbidly imitating hurting myself. So suddenly, he rings up all this stuff to further prove his point, and I keep telling him that it isn't like that and that I'm not hurting myself or going to kill myself. Now they're really protective and won't really let me be alone at all, they keep asking me how I'm feeling. Our relationship is just weird now, and I hate it.
And on top of all that, I heard him talking to my Mom aobut how he doens't want to come home to find his son in a puddle of his own blood, so he thinks he might send me away to camp for a retreat thingy for emotionally disturbed kids.

I just want them to trust me that everything is okay. But they won't believe me...Anyone got any advice on how I can get them to listen? Talking doens't seem to work much...

Wow... that's a terrible coincidence for him to find ink on your wrist the day he finds the notebook, ouch. If I were put in this situation, I would sit down and talk it over with them. Usually it doesn't work, but it's the option I would take. If they aren't listening to you sincerely or keep interrupting and such, then maybe make your case on a computer of how there's no way you would ever commit such a stupid task (Taking your life) and that you really don't want to go to such a camp and write it on word and print and give it to both of them so then they have to read it and here your side of everything. However, that's what I would do. Hmm... it's a tough situation, and I think if you really want to show you won't commit suicide and turn their opinion around, I say you kick up your school work (If it's low) and become positive. I'm not sure whether you still haven't moved on about the relationship deal, but you should. Sort of like, become positive and so you appreciate your life to not commit it I guess. I'm not entirely sure how to handle the situation, but yeah... That's all I can currently come up with to aid the situation, hopefully.

Hope things go well~

 

[LaurenLOVESTONED]

I have a bit of a problem that I feel like posting here. *Trying to be more active, and if I need my problems to help me do so, so be it*

Anyway...I'm having trouble with my parents...
See, they think I'm suicidal :/
I had a similar deal with them in seventh grade about this same subject that pretty much changed our relationship forever. I was reading a book called "Give a boy a gun" (Think Columbine) and I was currently getting bad grades and stuff so they thought I might try something like that. Even though I told them I'd never do that, And I will NEVER do that, they still kept close watch on me and were always talking about my feelings and if I was sad or angry or if I was getting bullied at school...

Anyway, skip forward 5 years or so, and it's happening all over again. A couple months ago I broke up with my girlfriend of 6 months who I was very much "in love" with. I'm still too young to know if it was actual love or not. Anyway, I was really depressed and sad and heartbroken...But I'll spare you the details on how we broke up, I just felt really weak and unwanted. So I was sad and wrote some stuff I regret writing (Nothing too creepy, just sad poetry and stuff) And I kept that all in a notebook which I hid pretty well...

Okay, enough back story, heres my real problem. My Dad found the notebook and read EVERYTHING. A lot of very personal stuff was in there. And as a coincidence, the same day he found the notebook, I had spilled some red ink all over my wrist, and he thought I was morbidly imitating hurting myself. So suddenly, he rings up all this stuff to further prove his point, and I keep telling him that it isn't like that and that I'm not hurting myself or going to kill myself. Now they're really protective and won't really let me be alone at all, they keep asking me how I'm feeling. Our relationship is just weird now, and I hate it.
And on top of all that, I heard him talking to my Mom aobut how he doens't want to come home to find his son in a puddle of his own blood, so he thinks he might send me away to camp for a retreat thingy for emotionally disturbed kids.

I just want them to trust me that everything is okay. But they won't believe me...Anyone got any advice on how I can get them to listen? Talking doens't seem to work much...

boy is that a tricky situation. heres a thought, how about going to a counsellor? if you're still upset over losing you're girlfriend its a perfect chance to talk about it and it'll get your parents off your back, hopefully they'll see that you're trying to deal with your "issues" and stop thinking that you're going to try and take your own life. hey, it can't hurt can it?

 

[Ageless Irony]

Wow... that's a terrible coincidence for him to find ink on your wrist the day he finds the notebook, ouch. If I were put in this situation, I would sit down and talk it over with them. Usually it doesn't work, but it's the option I would take. If they aren't listening to you sincerely or keep interrupting and such, then maybe make your case on a computer of how there's no way you would ever commit such a stupid task (Taking your life) and that you really don't want to go to such a camp and write it on word and print and give it to both of them so then they have to read it and here your side of everything. However, that's what I would do. Hmm... it's a tough situation, and I think if you really want to show you won't commit suicide and turn their opinion around, I say you kick up your school work (If it's low) and become positive. I'm not sure whether you still haven't moved on about the relationship deal, but you should. Sort of like, become positive and so you appreciate your life to not commit it I guess. I'm not entirely sure how to handle the situation, but yeah... That's all I can currently come up with to aid the situation, hopefully.

Hope things go well~

My Parents are overly successful (Dad is a pro-trainer for boxing/Principle at a rich people school. Mom is a successful fitness/self defense trainer) Which intimidates me. I'm starting to think that they're in denial that I'm not perfect and Successful like them (I'm a scrawny, skinny 15 year old that gets Cs) so I must be angry at life. Which I'm really not...I've just been unlucky. (They've sent me to therapy before because of my grades and a close friend's passing)
I'm going to do what you said though and write a letter type thing. Hopefully they won't freak out and think it's a suicide note at first.

If the situation doesn't get any better after that and they still won't listen and try sending me off to some dumb camp, I just...don't know what else I should do.

I'm afraid to tell a cousiler or something,because I might get my parents in trouble, and I really don't want that. They may not listen much, but I do love them and stuff...

 

[Midnight Beat]

I have a bit of a problem that I feel like posting here. *Trying to be more active, and if I need my problems to help me do so, so be it*

Anyway...I'm having trouble with my parents...
See, they think I'm suicidal :/
I had a similar deal with them in seventh grade about this same subject that pretty much changed our relationship forever. I was reading a book called "Give a boy a gun" (Think Columbine) and I was currently getting bad grades and stuff so they thought I might try something like that. Even though I told them I'd never do that, And I will NEVER do that, they still kept close watch on me and were always talking about my feelings and if I was sad or angry or if I was getting bullied at school...

Anyway, skip forward 5 years or so, and it's happening all over again. A couple months ago I broke up with my girlfriend of 6 months who I was very much "in love" with. I'm still too young to know if it was actual love or not. Anyway, I was really depressed and sad and heartbroken...But I'll spare you the details on how we broke up, I just felt really weak and unwanted. So I was sad and wrote some stuff I regret writing (Nothing too creepy, just sad poetry and stuff) And I kept that all in a notebook which I hid pretty well...

Okay, enough back story, heres my real problem. My Dad found the notebook and read EVERYTHING. A lot of very personal stuff was in there. And as a coincidence, the same day he found the notebook, I had spilled some red ink all over my wrist, and he thought I was morbidly imitating hurting myself. So suddenly, he rings up all this stuff to further prove his point, and I keep telling him that it isn't like that and that I'm not hurting myself or going to kill myself. Now they're really protective and won't really let me be alone at all, they keep asking me how I'm feeling. Our relationship is just weird now, and I hate it.
And on top of all that, I heard him talking to my Mom aobut how he doens't want to come home to find his son in a puddle of his own blood, so he thinks he might send me away to camp for a retreat thingy for emotionally disturbed kids.

I just want them to trust me that everything is okay. But they won't believe me...Anyone got any advice on how I can get them to listen? Talking doens't seem to work much...

This is an unfortunate situation indeed. I realize that events such as the ones you have gone through are emotionally crippling, but you may have talk it out with your parents. If you can get it all out in the open, one, they may see where all this sadness is coming from, and two, it very well may strengthen your relationship in which they trust you more. Not to offend, but it seems that your parent-child trust has been severely damaged by the events with the "Give the Boy a Gun" book. In my mind, the first step to bettering the situation is to repair that trust relationship.
Now about the whole book and pen ink thing. Honestly, and again I mean no offense, it sounds a little far fetched...the pen part, anyway. Regardless, red pen ink and dried blood look rather different. If your parents got the two mixed up, it was only in a worrisome rage. I promise you that they care about you, if they didn't, they wouldn't be freaking out about this whole situation.
And about the camp, you should speak up about this one. You may not need to go to a camp, but maybe therapy could help you out. And if it doesn't, and if you are telling the truth, than the therapist should be able to report to your parents that you are in fact, not suicidal and that you are just in a slump.

Well, there's my two cents, take it or leave it, your choice. =]

 

[Ageless Irony]

Now about the whole book and pen ink thing. Honestly, and again I mean no offense, it sounds a little far fetched...the pen part, anyway. Regardless, red pen ink and dried blood look rather different. If your parents got the two mixed up, it was only in a worrisome rage. I promise you that they care about you, if they didn't, they wouldn't be freaking out about this whole situation.
And about the camp, you should speak up about this one. You may not need to go to a camp, but maybe therapy could help you out. And if it doesn't, and if you are telling the truth, than the therapist should be able to report to your parents that you are in fact, not suicidal and that you are just in a slump.

Well, there's my two cents, take it or leave it, your choice. =][/QUOTE]

He didn't think it was blood, he thought I was imitating blood with ink, like I put the ink there on purpose, because apparently I'm not well -.-;;
Really should've not been lazy and washed that off...

I know they care about me, I just wish they would listen instead of denying me and only hearing and seeing the bad side of things.
And I don't wanna bring up the camp thing with them yet, I was sort of listening to them talking when I shouldn't have been. So I'm waiting for them to bring that up first...

Thanks for the advice though, everyone, really, thanks a lot for listening. ^^
Now I'm going to go to bed because I have 3 finals to take tomorrow morning...
Hopeful everything will get better...I'll definatley write them that note.
Later!

 

[Lady Nicole]

I have an exam tomorrow and I feel too depressed to finish revising.

EDIT: It made me feel very slightly better just to post that.

 

[sims796]

Funny, I know Lady isn't too sad to study. Sure, I do believe she knows that with good enough grades, she can get better jobs, and with better jobs, she can afford ot stay with Danny boy forevah. So, using the powah of deduction, she will study for that test.

She will also eat Cherry Pie, as that always cheers me up.

 

[Lady Nicole]

I'm not being funny or anything, but I don't want to be with someone who admits he prefers talking in group convos with other people to talking with me :'(

 

[Percy Thrillington]

I'm not being funny or anything, but I don't want to be with someone who admits he prefers talking in group convos with other people to talking with me :'(

Perhaps you should talk to him about it rather than posting it here so everyone who wanted to could see it.