The Post Your Problems Thread

[22sa]

I have a problem and its killing me.

I broke up with my girlfriends last week and my whole family and friends hate her but I am still totally in love with her. I have no idea why I just can't get over it. It is driving me crazy. It really is ruining my life. I have no one I can talk to about it or anything. I just can't seem to move on

It ended in a complete shock to me. She has already moved on but I can't.

... About it driving you crazy.. it must be because you're not approaching your problem correctly. She was so important to you and the break up was such a shock that you can't help but break down and get even more emotional. Let's see, I'm guessing this is your most pressing point of concern: You love her. Now that you've broken up with her, what are you going to do?

You have two options: a) Forget her, focus on more important things to you. Hate her, blame her for all her misses & her infidelities, and ditch her. b) Continue loving her.

You said you can't stop loving her, can't move on, so it must be b) for you, then.

But you may want to keeping her. Let's assume you do though:

Maybe you think... Forgetting her is boring. You don't even want to think about your life without her. She fit the image of the girl of your dreams.

If that's true you can do one of two things----> 1) Take her back! 2) Acknowledge that you weren't the best person for her, but still love her so you want to continue being her friend, and perhaps you may want to make sure she is happy with the next person she chooses, and that that person will definately make her happier then you did, which would give you full reason to accept your break up.

Now let's take a look at what if you don't care and you absolutely want to forget about her. It will be harder for you because you're working against the fact of your love. But you can do it. You'd have to gather all the courage you have and convince yourself that you don't need her, your life doesn't suck without her; you've got other goals, other ways to get the girl of your dreams eventually, other hopes, other ideas, other things you wanted out of life besides this specific girl. Work on the other things you want in life. You've accepted that she's moved on and want to do the same. Who was she, anyway? A beautiful, popular, sweet girl whom can get almost any guy she wants, but went out with someone like you. For a whole year year. It's not wrong that you feel as much for her as much as you do. Anybody would. So don't doubt yourself and wonder why you love her so much.

Knowing that it's over and you've got to move on, what is still stopping you from doing just that? What is it that you still want from this girl? Did you have something left to say? Or are you just hoping for something from her?

Whatever you still want from her, hurry up and get it or drop it, then move on. (Or did you just some answers? I can help you find them ^^)

Btw, your family and friends hate her because she was a cheater and made you behave unlike yourself, correct? They see that she made you seriously fall for her, then cheated on you and left you eventually; played with your feelings and then threw them out. Is that bad? o.o In any case, you seem to wonder why you can't hate her as much as your famliy & friends do. But that's a bad comparison. Your family & friends don't care about her like you do; they only want you back to normal. o.O

I wouldn't say you have NO ONE you can talk to about it. ¬¬ *holds up a huge banner pointing at me*

Not here though. You know where you can reach me. :3

Oh, shnap. I obviously luv Kuchiki more.

Haha! I hope this post helped, Kuchiki :x. If it did... Shaydeh was the one who told me about this thread and suggested I help you. If not, lol sorry, =D blame Shaydeh!! It was hissss ideaaaaaaaaaaa! xDDDD

 

[Rob-120]

Okay I have a problem...

I'm trying to get PNG images onto PC, but when I put a PNG image on Photobucket it turns into a JPEG. Since I couldn't get Photobucket to work I tried putting the picture in my album, it keeps saying "Invalid file" . So what I need help with is...how am I supposed to get PNG images onto PC?

 

[22sa]

Okay I have a problem...

I'm trying to get PNG images onto PC, but when I put a PNG image on Photobucket it turns into a JPEG. Since I couldn't get Photobucket to work I tried putting the picture in my album, it keeps saying "Invalid file" . So what I need help with is...how am I supposed to get PNG images onto PC?

I always use PNG banners. Just use tinypic.com or imageshack.us (see my signature's image for example)

 

[Kura]

I'm having that problem again.. only now it's really complex..

-_- I don't know who to go to for help.. no one seems to understand how hard this is for me to cope with..

I feel like everything about my future.. even that one person who I've been in love with for 6 years.. is on the line..

and in a way.. it really is..


But no matter what I do... I always turn out to be a failure..

 

[Spinor]

My dad is just soooo anoying. He is still such an annoyance in threatening to cut my hair off, I say I want it like that, I even tried to put resistance once, but he harshly said the more resistance I put, the balder he'll make me. Luckiely, It's still in 9/10 piece, but he is demanding a straight A grade in my first 6 weeks of school or he'll cut it very strongly, and not buy GHAerosmith :(. I don't know of a way to tame him, My dad is the very busy, Amnesiatic, somewhat dumb type. He's back from his trip, and I swear I'll blow if he starts with the hair. :pirate:

 

[Cerpin Taxt]

My dad is just soooo anoying. He is still such an annoyance in threatening to cut my hair off, I say I want it like that, I even tried to put resistance once, but he harshly said the more resistance I put, the balder he'll make me. Luckiely, It's still in 9/10 piece, but he is demanding a straight A grade in my first 6 weeks of school or he'll cut it very strongly, and not buy GHAerosmith :(. I don't know of a way to tame him, My dad is the very busy, Amnesiatic, somewhat dumb type. He's back from his trip, and I swear I'll blow if he starts with the hair. :pirate:

Well, it's your hair. I used to have pretty long hair and my dad also wanted it cut. He'd annoy me to cut it, but he'd never force things on me because that's just plain stupid. Your dad can't force anything on you because it's your hair. If you just stand up to him maturely and don't raise your voice, he might listen. Whether or not he likes your hair doesn't matter, he's not the one wearing it. It's your hair, you can style it and wear it the way you want.

As for the straight A's, you should be getting those even if your dad doesn't want them because education is the most important thing in your childhood. :x

 

[Fallen Angel_Messiah Of Black Roses]

Problem: I've been trying to write a novel, but

1. I Procrastinate!

2. I have trouble finishing things ( ANY creative things...Always wanting to add and add...)

What should I do?

 

[Percy Thrillington]

Problem: I've been trying to write a novel, but

1. I Procrastinate!

2. I have trouble finishing things ( ANY creative things...Always wanting to add and add...)

What should I do?

Well, to start advising, procrastination isn't necessarily a bad thing. While you're not writing your novel, you'll be doing other things and anything can give you an idea. Of course, the book is never going to get finished if you never write it, so try and find ways around your procrastination. A very long time ago when I was younger and much more innocent than I am today, I was writing a novel. Well, what I thought was a novel at the time. Normally eight year-olds can't write proper novels and I was no exception. Anyways, my attention span wasn't good enough to get down to it and type the letters I wanted to type so I got my parents to lock me in one of the rooms in my old house which only had a piano and a table in it. I couldn't play the piano so it wasn't really a distraction and when they let me out of the room, I had written a page. I was fairly slow at typing at the time, don't make fun of me.

Try and do something along the lines of that. Put yourself in a situation where it is just you, the pencil and the paper. You'll get something written down then, I assure you.

By finishing creative things, I assume you mean describing things, correct? Well, you need to tell yourself that no one really wants to read three pages that tell them the appearance of a tree in great detail. Okay, some people might want to read that but a majority of them won't. Think to yourself, does the object, person or thing in question need to be described? If not, then just write its name and allow that to suffice. Ask yourself how other people would describe things and work from there, it's the best advice I can give you.

 

[Tokin]

I'm having that problem again.. only now it's really complex..

-_- I don't know who to go to for help.. no one seems to understand how hard this is for me to cope with..

I feel like everything about my future.. even that one person who I've been in love with for 6 years.. is on the line..

and in a way.. it really is..


But no matter what I do... I always turn out to be a failure..

The mind is quite powerful, a change in attitude can yield more changes than you think, if you start thinking positive and instead of thinking you will do wrong or mess up, think of the situations as a challenge, one you will accomplish, by thinking positive while trying to solve your problems you will notice it is easier and that you will be able to conquer your problems effectively, it will sound cliché but believe in yourself

 

[Asura Nirosuki]

I thought this thread would be useless but Its good people actually listen and dont blow you off.. as of my problem, For anyone thats know alot on PTSD please private message me, its more of a dilemma recently than most of my life.

 

[SwampertTrainer]

If anyone here uses Pokemon Epiphany (currently under reconstruction), do you know when it's going to be back up?

 

[Percy Thrillington]

If anyone here uses Pokemon Epiphany (currently under reconstruction), do you know when it's going to be back up?

Er, if I remember correctly, this thread is for those of you seeking counsel for the things in life that ail you. You're meant to post the problem and one of the community specialists will be on the case as soon as possible. What you posted wasn't exactly a dilemma that you are facing, more a practical question.

But I'll answer it because I can. Basically, the forums in question weren't actual forums and were hacked or something (you can talk to AJ for the complete story later on) and VBulletin took it down. Now you can find the forums with the same url, except this time, Pokémon Epiphany is on a MyBB board.

 

[SwampertTrainer]

Oh. I'm not sure of the diff, but thanks for answering nonetheless =)

 

[.Seth]

OK. Here goes (again XD):

I don't know why, but, I've been feeling so depressed lately. I don't know what's causing it.
Every time I think about something (even ROM-hacking) I just get this feeling that I either can't do it, or It's not the time for me to be able to do it.
Every time I think about anything, I can come up with some situation where something terrible happens, and I can't reverse it.
I've given up on lots of things, and I'm too lazy to ever actually attempt to do them.
Maybe I just need a little motivation or something?
*Sigh* Who knows?

Maybe I've been feeling this way because of the way my life has taken a turn in the past few weeks.
I've started to cuss more and more (Just D. and A.).
I'm so easily angered.
School is just a pain in the butt. I usually near-fail or just above that.
I don't know why, but ever since I've grown into a teenager, I've always had a rather negative outlook upon the world. (For example: Almost always expecting the worse, even when it never turns out that way.)
I used to be such a pervert, laughing in my head at everything (or even something that related to) "it".
Even though I'm not nearly as much of one now, I still get that feeling of guilt because I was such a pervert back then. I just feel really bad about everything that's happened. I've overcome many of my childish fears, but that doesn't seem to affect how I feel.
I don't know what could be wrong with me.
I'm not suicidal or anything crazy like that. It's just I've always been called a dumb nickname or something, and several times, I've felt that no-one really cares about me. (I know my parents do, but that's a different story.)
I haven't been sick in forever. (Years...)

*Sigh*, well, is there anyone out there that thinks they might be able to help?

 

[Tokin]

OK. Here goes (again XD):

I don't know why, but, I've been feeling so depressed lately. I don't know what's causing it.
Every time I think about something (even ROM-hacking) I just get this feeling that I either can't do it, or It's not the time for me to be able to do it.
Every time I think about anything, I can come up with some situation where something terrible happens, and I can't reverse it.
I've given up on lots of things, and I'm too lazy to ever actually attempt to do them.
Maybe I just need a little motivation or something?
*Sigh* Who knows?

Maybe I've been feeling this way because of the way my life has taken a turn in the past few weeks.
I've started to cuss more and more (Just D. and A.).
I'm so easily angered.
School is just a pain in the butt. I usually near-fail or just above that.
I don't know why, but ever since I've grown into a teenager, I've always had a rather negative outlook upon the world. (For example: Almost always expecting the worse, even when it never turns out that way.)
I used to be such a pervert, laughing in my head at everything (or even something that related to) "it".
Even though I'm not nearly as much of one now, I still get that feeling of guilt because I was such a pervert back then. I just feel really bad about everything that's happened. I've overcome many of my childish fears, but that doesn't seem to affect how I feel.
I don't know what could be wrong with me.
I'm not suicidal or anything crazy like that. It's just I've always been called a dumb nickname or something, and several times, I've felt that no-one really cares about me. (I know my parents do, but that's a different story.)
I haven't been sick in forever. (Years...)

*Sigh*, well, is there anyone out there that thinks they might be able to help?

Most of this can be attributed to normal hormonal changes during puberty, you are growing up, and thus you are leaving behind a lot of things, some things you used to do, you regret, other things, you have stopped enjoying, and since it's such a subtle change it can make things seem like they're going badly. Another thing that in itself might not be causing your depression, but is makigng it worse, is the spirit of negativeness, someone who has a negative attitude about the present situation and thinks it will continue this way is way less likely to improve such conditions that someone who is optimistic, this is a stage, and if you're optimistic about learning from it and turning the tables around so that you actually enjoy it, the results will be great^^

 

[Kitty-Kat]

OK. Here goes (again XD):

I don't know why, but, I've been feeling so depressed lately. I don't know what's causing it.
Every time I think about something (even ROM-hacking) I just get this feeling that I either can't do it, or It's not the time for me to be able to do it.
Every time I think about anything, I can come up with some situation where something terrible happens, and I can't reverse it.
I've given up on lots of things, and I'm too lazy to ever actually attempt to do them.
Maybe I just need a little motivation or something?
*Sigh* Who knows?

Maybe I've been feeling this way because of the way my life has taken a turn in the past few weeks.
I've started to cuss more and more (Just D. and A.).
I'm so easily angered.
School is just a pain in the butt. I usually near-fail or just above that.
I don't know why, but ever since I've grown into a teenager, I've always had a rather negative outlook upon the world. (For example: Almost always expecting the worse, even when it never turns out that way.)
I used to be such a pervert, laughing in my head at everything (or even something that related to) "it".
Even though I'm not nearly as much of one now, I still get that feeling of guilt because I was such a pervert back then. I just feel really bad about everything that's happened. I've overcome many of my childish fears, but that doesn't seem to affect how I feel.
I don't know what could be wrong with me.
I'm not suicidal or anything crazy like that. It's just I've always been called a dumb nickname or something, and several times, I've felt that no-one really cares about me. (I know my parents do, but that's a different story.)
I haven't been sick in forever. (Years...)

*Sigh*, well, is there anyone out there that thinks they might be able to help?

Hm... this might be a seasonal mood swing, depending on how long it's been going on.

You might want to talk to your doctor about how you're feeling. Has anything big happened in your life that might trigger these kinds of feelings? If not, maybe some prescription meds could help you. They probably don't sound ideal, but they can help you to perk up and sort things out in your life [they've helped me a lot =)] You may even want to consider talking to someone really close to you about this. Talking always helps. Or maybe even talk to a therapist.

Sorry if that doesn't seem like much help ^^; The only advice I can give you is advice I was once given and took, myself. I used to feel probably close to how you're feeling, only a lot worse. [I used to be very suicidal.] Eventually my friend told me to talk to my doctor about it, and I did. She gave me a pill called Prozac and had me go to a counselor. Now I'm seeing a therapist as well as taking the meds, and I'm doing a lot better. =]

 

[kissing. raindrops]

Weeeeell, since everyone's posting their problems, I guess I'll post mine? So.. basically I went out with this amazingly gorgeous guy for 6 months, my longest relationship ever, and he took things from me that I'll never get back and vice versa. He broke up with me around 5 months ago, I was devastated, but could have seen it coming. A lot of **** happened. We didn't go to the same schoool (but I switched to his school now), and haven't talked ever since we broke up.. Until a few days ago... I was texting my friend, who is his best friend.. Aand, I thought it was only my friend who was coming to meet me, but HE showed up too, and started talking to me. After that, the whole hour it took me to walk home, I was crying so hard. I was relieved that he started talking to me again. I can't get over him.. I'm trying my best, but I can't forget him. It's been 5 months, and I think about him everyday. I still cry over him. That's my problem.

 

[Tokin]

Weeeeell, since everyone's posting their problems, I guess I'll post mine? So.. basically I went out with this amazingly gorgeous guy for 6 months, my longest relationship ever, and he took things from me that I'll never get back and vice versa. He broke up with me around 5 months ago, I was devastated, but could have seen it coming. A lot of **** happened. We didn't go to the same schoool (but I switched to his school now), and haven't talked ever since we broke up.. Until a few days ago... I was texting my friend, who is his best friend.. Aand, I thought it was only my friend who was coming to meet me, but HE showed up too, and started talking to me. After that, the whole hour it took me to walk home, I was crying so hard. I was relieved that he started talking to me again. I can't get over him.. I'm trying my best, but I can't forget him. It's been 5 months, and I think about him everyday. I still cry over him. That's my problem.

well, it's pretty natural to feel some attachment to him, if you two can keep being friends after this, then do, but if you either think you can't stand him or that you will want to get back together, then it's up to you, whether you detach yourslf from him, or just try it again if you want to get back together, but think about your choices and use your past experiences to learn, if you don't get back, thnen getting over him will be very difficult, but if you move on and look for new people and experiences, you'll find that it's possible^^

 

[kissing. raindrops]

well, it's pretty natural to feel some attachment to him, if you two can keep being friends after this, then do, but if you either think you can't stand him or that you will want to get back together, then it's up to you, whether you detach yourslf from him, or just try it again if you want to get back together, but think about your choices and use your past experiences to learn, if you don't get back, thnen getting over him will be very difficult, but if you move on and look for new people and experiences, you'll find that it's possible^^

Well it's obviously never gonna be the same between us, like he dumped me because he didn't love me like that anymoree, soo, it's not like he'll give me a second chance because I KNOW that he's moved on... So I'm aiming to be friends with him now, I just hope we can be, because I'd die if we never talked...

 

[Tokin]

Well it's obviously never gonna be the same between us, like he dumped me because he didn't love me like that anymoree, soo, it's not like he'll give me a second chance because I KNOW that he's moved on... So I'm aiming to be friends with him now, I just hope we can be, because I'd die if we never talked...

what's important is to move on as well, since he has moved on, his priorities will or may already have changed, which means that you might get hurt if you center on him, take it easy, slowly, and be good friends^^