Why did you have to tell them ?

[Kikaito plush]

Was wondering how you guys feel about people who have to tell people stuff they were not meant to, like a secret that you told them, or something you did that you did not want them to share. If you ask me it is pretty rude of them when they tell someone the thing they should of kept to themselves. My Sister in law is one of these people who told someone me and my husband were going to treat my daughter today, we ended up not doing the treat cause of this.

Anyway enough about me what about you how do you feel about these kind of people ?

 

[Sirfetch’d]

It depends really. Sometimes people reveal the secrets of others because it may save their lives or just naturally be for the best. I know I was faced with a situation in high school where my friend told me that she was on drugs. She wanted me to keep it a secret and I told her that I would, but I cared about her too much to. I eventually told the teacher who found the drugs on her. She later gave them up completely and eventually stopped being mad at me and we came closer than ever. So yeah, I would say that it is situational. I would never want someone to tell my secrets to anyone else, but I can certainly see situations to where it would be plausible to do so.

 

[Legobricks]

I haven't fondness for indiscretion. It ultimately lies within the best judgement of anyone concerned... but since I don't trust the judgement of others to be any good, I'd have to admit that my disdain is almost principled.

 

[Nolafus]

I think it's all about judgement, like what Michonne said. Although, with some people, you don't have to keep the secret at all. Whenever my brother tells me something bad that he did I know that I won't have to tell my parents because he'll just tell them himself. It's not like he does this because he knows it's the right thing to do, but rather he just can't keep his big mouth shut. :P

I don't tell him any secrets either for the same reason.

 

[Broken_Arrow]

I don't say my secrets to anyone,i say it to people i trust well..when they say it to someone...i learn my lesson not to trust them again and then we both live happily ever after ^^...end of the story

 

[Hannah]

I don't trust people that easily with my secrets, but when I do, it's only to people who I know won't betray me and know how to keep their mouth shut. I'm not afraid to tell my secrets online in forums like this, though, since none of my real life friends go here.

 

[Guy]

Secrets are built on trust, and trust is something that is earned not given. If I tell someone a secret, it's after a strong bond of trust is formed between us. Likewise, if someone trusts me enough with something they don't want others to know, I respect that wish and keep it to myself. The only exception I have to this rule is if said secret is life threatening or truly concerning. For instance, if someone tells me they are contemplating suicide, I can't exactly keep that to myself. Now, I'm not just going to ask anyone for help with a problem this serious, but I will go to someone who I trust, who knows the person, and who can really help in such a situation. So I guess it all depends on the severity of the secret, but in more cases than most, your secret is safe with me.

 

[Mystify]

I'm careful about what I tell and who I tell it to. Sometimes it's best to not share something extremely sensitive even to someone you really trust because you never know what's going to happen. Whether they do it by accident or not, they could let it slip to someone else.

 

[goldengyarados]

I generally don't share my secrets ever, because it is a sad inevitability that those to whom I disclose any secret will soon tell all after a beer or two.

 

[Ch3lz]

I tend to keep all my 'secrets' secret! I'd rather no one knew than having the whole world know (which used to happen a lot in my family and 'friend' circle) :/ but I think it important to maybe tell someone you trust if it is something big as you just end up fretting + worrying about it by yourself which is no fun :(

 

[Honest]

It happens all the time, and I'm aware of that. That's why I'm careful with what I tell others, and who I tell them to.


As for what I think about the actual action of spreading gossip, I don't really care. Even if it's about me, let people think whatever the **** they want. Only people whose opinion I really care about would be of those who are closest to me.

 

[gimmepie]

There might have been a time when I was more trusting but these days I'm a really secretive guy. I won't give out any information I want to keep hidden unless

a) I know I can trust you and you have proved time and time again this is true.
b) I have so much dirt on you that you'd be terrified to share mine.
c) Both.

Ideally though, sharing information with the second group is just pointless because it is rare that they are the type who will emphasise with you or provide useful help or even comfort.

 

[acatfrommars]

Unless it's something that could be detrimental to a person, or the person you're telling on then you have no right to blatantly tell someone something that you have been trusted not to tell. I absolutely hate when people have big mouths, that is why I keep most secrets to my self.