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    TRUE LOVE... THE LAAAAASSSTTTING KIIIINNNNDDDD

    when you are interested in dating or wanting a relationship, how do you go about it? do you hunt it out or just see what happens?
     
    I tend to be rather direct and honest with them! I'll just tell them that I have a crush or something and most people take it ok. I have yet to have anyone really get angry over it.
     
    I pursue it and try to make something happen
     
    I've been in one relationship since I was 12, sooo...but I did make it obvious I had a crush and waited for him to make a move. c: I don't have very much self confidence, so.
     
    I've never sought out a serious relationship. They've just come by accident / developed from less serious relationships.

    I don't know what I'd do if I wanted to search for one. It seems like it's fraught with pain and failure from what I've seen some of my friends go through. Really, I think even if I found myself in want of a relationship I wouldn't try to seek one out because it seems that way just gets you a lot of undesirable, temporary people in your life.
     
    The best romantic situations arose for me when I wasn't actively looking for them. So I'm much more inclined to go with the flow and see where life takes me than actively try to get out there and date.
     
    I try to make my feelings known to that person somehow. Often times the simplest and most elegant way is to just talk to them and tell them. But that's only extremely necessary when I feel very strongly and no other ways have worked.

    I've learned that it does no good to press them; if someone wants to accept them and make something of it; they will. If not; well they will reflect them. With less intense feelings or mild crushes it's just better if I simply let them pass, maybe express them to that person in some way and eventually as they don't respond in kind or at all I simply move on to the next person. I have plenty of love for lots of people and I surely will find someone else whom I admire or feel like showing love for.
     
    well, two things. ONE I'm very good at having crushes on people. it happens a lot. there's a clear distinction in my mind, though, between people I'm Having A Crush On and those I'm actually romantically interested in on a more serious level. I can't really explain it. but regardless I never actively seek a thing out, I just let feelings develop without any semblance of guidance. I'm pretty sure every romantic interest I've ever had in this life has been borne out of some completely bizarre circumstance or a chance encounter or something except for, like, one. Ah, life.

    HOWEVER when I feel something for someone I'll usually say it eventually because I can't actually bear the thought of not when I actually Feel A Thing. sometimes it takes awhile but the truth eventually comes out. I'm also really bad at being subtle for the most part so people usually know way before I actually say it. Checkmate.
     
    Esper said:
    I've never sought out a serious relationship. They've just come by accident / developed from less serious relationships.

    I don't know what I'd do if I wanted to search for one. It seems like it's fraught with pain and failure from what I've seen some of my friends go through. Really, I think even if I found myself in want of a relationship I wouldn't try to seek one out because it seems that way just gets you a lot of undesirable, temporary people in your life.
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    colours said:
    Heh. Interesting topic!

    I have had some crushes, but I very rarely act on these crushes (meaning: I very rarely let people know if I have a crush on them). There's a part of me that wants to get in relationships, and then there's the part of me that feels like the single life was pretty much the life that's meant for me and trying to seek out relationships would only bring about pain and disappointment, so there's that.

    It's a rather cynical viewpoint, sure, but better to let love find me than me trying to find it, is the way I see it. If it happens, it happens. If it doesn't, I shouldn't sweat it. I'm fine either way.
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    Cynics unite!
     
    tbh i just fail. so far I'm 0/2. nothing has gotten past 3 dates.

    Usually I get the girl's snapchat, get a streak going, hang with her as a friend as much as possible, then ask her out casually and hope she is interested.
     
    Here's the thing with relationships with me right now.
    I'm young so I think it's okay to be a hoe. I tell girls that I'm not looking for anything serious and I'm not looking for any committments.
    Also, talking and dating =/= exclusivity.
    I don't really hunt for it, I kind of just meet someone new and take it from there.
     
    I don't actively seek relationships, which is why my girlfriend-count is still in the single digits. If something happens along the way, then it happens. But I don't try to hunt for a girl every second of my daily life. XDDDDD

    But if something were to happen, then I'd be committed to her (if she's truly worth it), and I expect my feelings to be returned because, well, that's how I roll

    Imafroggy said:
    I'm young so I think it's okay to be a hoe. I tell girls that I'm not looking for anything serious and I'm not looking for any committments.
    Also, talking and dating =/= exclusivity.
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    You, sir, are not someone I could ever consider dating. XD;;;;;;;;;;;;;;
     
    Taro Tanaka said:
    I don't actively seek relationships, which is why my girlfriend-count is still in the single digits. If something happens along the way, then it happens. But I don't try to hunt for a girl every second of my daily life. XDDDDD

    But if something were to happen, then I'd be committed to her (if she's truly worth it), and I expect my feelings to be returned because, well, that's how I roll



    You, sir, are not someone I could ever consider dating. XD;;;;;;;;;;;;;;
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    Well yeah, I don't date guys. but i'm not wrong when I say that talking and dating doesn't necessarily mean that you're exclusive. You have to make sure to communicate properly to see where the relationship stands and where you both stand. I'm not bothering to be in a relationship because I know i'll cheat and that's not fair for the other person.
     
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    i don't seek out guys to date, i try to just run into them naturally. however, when it comes to letting someone know i like them i can't just outright say it. i'm really afraid of rejection so i just flirt in hopes of them noticing.
     
    Spherical Ice said:
    you know this wont happen right

    well, if they do notice, they'll think they're overthinking it
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    yeah, i've noticed how unsuccessful it's been in the past lmao. don't get me wrong, i've been in relationships, i've just never been the one to initiate them. what would you suggest that i do?
     
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