Don't add me if we aren't going to talk.

For the 3DS friend codes, I use to have the attitude of "if you don't want to be friends, then don't bother," but then they killed Swapnotes and now the friend codes are just numbers for game features. I don't do anything else that requires "adding" though.
 
I dunno, I feel like there's such a disconnect in the real world anyway and people have become so bad at socialising in general that I don't see the point in being restrictive online. It's easy to say "well I don't know you" and be very picky but how will you ever broaden your horizons if you never try? Avoid people enough and they'll start avoiding you too.

I've made some pretty cool friends who added me randomly one day and we just hit it off. You aren't risking anything by giving someone a shot, so I'll add a complete stranger because it means they want to not be strangers. Get what I'm saying?

That said, if someone adds me and never speaks to me or doesn't seem interested (one word/unenthusiastic responses drawn out over a long period of time), I scratch my head at it and will probably delete them. Why add me in the first place? Definitely not a fan of increasing a pointless number such as "friend count" either, could never get why people cared about that.

Friendship is about quality, not quantity.

KittenKoder said:
For the 3DS friend codes, I use to have the attitude of "if you don't want to be friends, then don't bother," but then they killed Swapnotes and now the friend codes are just numbers for game features. I don't do anything else that requires "adding" though.
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Such a shame about SwapNote :( I'd add friends just for the ability to write to them and draw stupid stuff and now that that's gone, there's no way to communicate save Game Chat in Pokemon. Too many people are understandably shy and you can't Game Chat while playing single player so Nintendo really dropped the ball there.
 
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Such a shame about SwapNote :( I'd add friends just for the ability to write to them and draw stupid stuff and now that that's gone, there's no way to communicate save Game Chat in Pokemon. Too many people are understandably shy and you can't Game Chat while playing single player so Nintendo really dropped the ball there.
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I concur, it was probably the worst mistake Nintendo has made for the 3DS, they also disabled friend galleries in that FlipNotes from what I read. All because of a paranoid fear that could have been resolved by making people take responsibility for who they talk to about what.

Worst part about all this for me, I had about 15 friends who were all SwapNote only friends, that was the entire reason we added each other. But now I can't tell which is which because I have no way to contact them. I forgot where I met them online! Luckily some of them have Pokemon X or Y.
 
I only add people I talk to. I don't like having a friends list filled with people I don't talk to. Just my personal preference!
 
I don't really care about the friends system as the only thing it does is make it easier for you to find the profiles of users when you want to send them a VM and I rarely send VMs. I'll accept anyone who sends me a request though. I don't have any reason to reject them.
 
I'll add anyone if they don't make me feel uncomfortable. I don't think not ading someone on your friend list makes you unfriendly, you may not trust them. They should jsut get to know you first. My rules are that if anyone wants to ad me as a friend then that is fine. i would like to chat with them though, because they are my friends after all. :)

Right now I have 6 friens on my friends list! lol
 
I don't really ask anyone to become friends in PC unless I've talked to them for a while. As for someone else adding me, I'm fine with it as long as they're not flat out annoying.
 
I usually add most people who add me on PC, but there's a good amount of people who i never talk to so I'm really considering a friend list cleaning soon. I have well over a 100 something friends and I only speak with abut half of them. I should try to talk to some of them more. On facebook or other sites, I only add people if I know them from somewhere.
 
I'm usually the type of person who likes to keep their friends list as small as possible. I only limit to those I talk to on a regular basis and/or have kept in touch nowadays. I do accept friend requests, yeah...but the majority I've gotten nowadays are extreeeemely random (more of "wow okay where did you come from?") and once I accept the request they just...don't talk to me. I guess they find me...friendly? But come ooon I don't bite when you guys talk to me! I'll have you know that it's a little bit of work for me to start conversations to people (because really, I'm so shy!) and I would rather have people start convos with me rather than myself starting them.

There would be times that I'll add anyone, but in a few weeks and if said person doesn't talk to me then I'll remove them eventually. They can add me again if they want.
 
People can't talk to me unless they friend me. I have heavy privacy settings. I have reasons to heavily limit my communication--I will not have a repeat of 2008. So I accept all friend requests since that way, the person can talk to me. I really have to clean my friends list, though, there are so many people who are gone that don't talk to me anymore. =\
 
In PC, only with specific people - lithuanians,mechanics & hmmm... whatever I'm speechless :D
 
I don't really use Facebook much, so it's rare that I ever see an incoming friend request on there, but in any case, I wouldn't add anyone unless I at least know who they are, since Facebook is a much more personal space than any of the forums I go to are, and adding people on there pretty much lets people into your personal life. Not something I'd let any random person who adds me into ;p

As for PC and pretty much any other forum I've ever been on, I'll gladly accept any friend request, as long as I don't have any problems with the person of course. I will occasionally go through my friend list and delete anyone if I haven't seen them in a while and didn't know them personally/didn't see any chance of them returning. I'm not one who really adds other people that much, and I think that's mainly from a subconscious fear of rejection, or the thought of someone not actually wanting me on their friend list. It's not something I've ever really experienced before, so it's rather unjustified, but yeah, can't help it :( But yeah, I'll probably take the initiative if I've been talking to someone for a while and if they haven't done it before me :p
 
On PC, I did only send and receive requests with people I was familiar with. That was a while ago, though. Now I don't really care. On Facebook, I don't accept random friend requests the majority of the time. Though, people I know but don't talk to I keep on my friends list.
 
I can be quite tight because I don't like people knowing about my RL information, so I tend to only "friend" people I know or trust. Though that makes me a little people-frugal I'm usually very friendly and love getting to know new people!
 
I only add people who I talk to. If someone tries to add me, I won't deny them. I'll just keep their request on standby until we actually do talk (if we ever do talk, that is). I take a friend request as a sign that someone wants to be friends. Which is good :) But we have to actually become friends, not just a name and an avatar on each other's friend list.
 
I accept all friend requests on PC. I don't have specific requirements for people to be my friend. I love getting to know people here no matter who they are! It's a different story for Facebook, however. I do not simply accept friend requests from people whom I've never met or talked to before. If we have very few to no mutual friends, you're probably a stalker or a random person randomly adding people. I've actually cleaned up by Facebook friends list from around 800+ down to around 500+. It was surprising how many unknown people I've added when I was younger. *shakes head* I'm more flexible with Twitter though. I'll usually accept anyone's follow request, but not from those whom I know for sure are just following me just for the heck of it.
 
I try to add people who I seem to hit it off with, but if we don't end up interacting all that much after the fact I'll eventually delete them. I like my friend's list to reflect people I'm actually friends with and not just be full of random acquaintances.

That doesn't include people who I did really become friends with and just haven't talked to in a while though.
 
I will accept random invites, but I won't go around adding random people. I only add people that I've talked to. This applies to whatever social media platforms I use as well.
 
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