I know it's wrong, so what should I do?

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    What's one aspect of your personality that you think is bad or negative (not necessarily dislike), but you wouldn't/can't change it?
     
    I am quick to anger, but I am really working on it... I always feel really bad about myself when I just 'blow up'. My father has them problem as well and we both try our best to control it and we are both on medication to help control our emotions that are so volatile... it's just very difficult. It's just so hard to change it =(
     
    God I hate my flaw. I really, and I mean really, care about what people say about me. I go awfully depressed when people say something that I'm not, especially some insults like I'm gay or something (which i'm not) etc. I'm a pretty friendly guy so maybe I'm easily made fun of? *shrugs* Some people don't care about what people say about them but I care alot so I get sad or angry easily. Been trying to change. Can't.
     
    I think I have a similar flaw to Nocturnal. I care a great deal - probably too much - about what other people think of me. This is human nature, I guess, and I tend not to believe the people who say they don't care what anyone thinks of them, but it makes it hard to be yourself when you're constantly afraid people won't like who you are.
     
    A flaw? I hate hate hate when people say things about me behind my back, especially online( not as worried about it in real life.) It makes me nervous and scared because I cant control what they say and Im always worried about what they are saying. I probably shouldnt worry about it so much but I cant help it. Also another thing is that I have very little self esteem. I really try to feel better about myself but its just really hard because Ive felt that way all my life.
     
    A flaw that I wouldn't change would probably be my tendency to not stay angry at people. I know people that see this as a flaw - especially when they're the one that was hurt by it, and I've forgiven the person for doing it but they haven't. Then they call me out on it, say that I don't care about them or their pain, etc. But that's a flaw that I don't plan on trying to fix any time soon.
     
    I want people to like me. I try hard to make sure that at the very least no one hates me even though I shouldn't care about what other people think of me, that as long as I'm happy with myself blah blah, etc. etc. How I'd stop being this way, I have no idea and I can't see this not being a part of me. In the past this has meant I was a big doormat and even now I like to put on whatever face I think someone will respond best to. Not that I completely forgo my own tastes and personality to match someone else's, but if I'm with someone who's carefree and likes to joke then I'll be the the more carefree me when I'm with them.
     
    I get angry too easily. At any random time my anger is like a bomb, a bomb where a small nudge in the wrong place sets it off. I try to contain it but sometimes I just go crazy and I can't help it. Been trying harder but still miserably failing.
     
    I dwell on things too much and end up making myself unhappy. It's also hard to get me motivated sometimes. :L
     
    There are three main aspects of my personality I (and others may) view as negative.
    I really care about what other people think of me and cant handle it when people say mean stuff about me xD;
    My temper, probably the only one I'm really trying to change, I get angry and stuff way too easily and I'd really like to change that because it's not doing me any good (and totally gonna give me high blood pressure in the future.)
    And finally I'm really clingy, it's not a good thing but I don't plan on changing it anytime soon and even then I doubt I could~
     
    Eh... Well sometimes I take things too seriously. So people better not joke around me, because I usually take it seriously.
     
    Destiny Demon said:
    Eh... Well sometimes I take things too seriously. So people better not joke around me, because I usually take it seriously.
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    Oh we're riding the same train.

    That, plus the fact that I often sound like a know-it-all, though I don't like it at all; It's also my main source of misunderstandings, everywhere. Some people used to tell me that I usually give out a cold stare-again, something subconscious-but I've worked my facial expressions over the years and left that behind.
     
    For years, I've tried to keep my impatience and short temper in check, but to no avail. I still hate standing in line and the smallest things are known to get me angry. And sometimes it's my lack of patience that causes me to lose my cool. I think it must be hard-wired into my brain or something. I like things to happen immediately and go smoothly, and I really don't take it too well when they don't.
     
    I get frustrated easily. I also have a tendency to not share my emotions, or so I've been told. The latter doesn't really bother me as I have my own way of dealing with issues. As for the frustration thing I don't think I have enough patience sometimes. I have lots with my job in Customer Service, but with friends and family I can be quite short with at times. It's something I'm tiring on working on, not much progress yet. I think I use all of my patience at work and have none left for my friends :(
     
    Well, I have self esteem issues, and I don't deal well with people that don't apply themselves or are just plain dumb.
     
    I can't make a laughable joke to save my life; I'm too serious and my funny bone doesn't operate in the same way as many other people's.
     
    I get frustrated easy, and apparently have dysthymia. That is, chronic mild depression. I tend to be socially introverted. All of these, however, ARE something I can change, and ARE something I am working towards fixing(via counseling, and meds as a last result). You should love every part of you, and if you don't, then you either need to change it, if you can, or accept it if you can't. Oh, and I tend to be impatient, but this is only when the doctor calls me in at 2 and doesn't even see me until 3. That pisses me off. If you aren't gonna see me until 3, then don't call me in until then.
     
    I don't have very much self-esteem, and it doesn't take much to get me down about myself. I've been trying to improve it as much as I can, but it's just not as easy as it sounds.
     
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