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IRL Friends?

Up until about a year ago I had a small circle of about 20 close friends. We would hang out in groups of 5 or 6 at a time or just spontaneously decide that one or two would be staying the night at the others house. But then a whole of drama happened, three people moved to california, four others moved to southern indiana and then the closest of those friends moved up to northern indiana while the rest are still in highschool. We used to hang out at least once or twice a week, partied once a month, at least talked to each other every other day or so through facebook or text. Now days though I just go to work and come back home. I ask coworkers if they want to do things but they're all just as lazy as i am, and the ones who aren't have so much drama in their lives that they can't faithfully make plans. Because at any given moment any one of fifty people could say something and they'd throw a fit and lash out at anyone who even breathed around them. And that's why I'm now not going to the gym anymore after having just started to return the other day. If I had a drivers license instead of just a permit I could go out to the card shop or go to conventions or even go to the gym by myself at 3 or 4 in the morning. But I don't, and the alternator is out in my car so even if I wanted to run out and do something I don't have that ability to. I want to go out and do things and hang out with people, but it seems like every time I try to it's at literally the worst possible moments in other people's lives.
 
i have a healthy and balanced social life and i'm just a super fun person apparently
the benefits of having a very flexible job and being someone who people want to hang out with even if i don't necessarily like them
sometimes you can have it all
 
I have roommates that started out as friends years ago. Now I kind of just try and spend as little time with them as possible since living with them and seeing how they act normally has caused me to dislike them a lot. Occasionally we hang out, but most of the time they want to drink when they do so I say no because I can't drink alcohol because of my stomach and I rather not be sober hanging around a bunch of people who are drunk. I would like to make some new friends irl, but where I am it is pretty tough to do.

Six or so years ago my social life was great though. I had two friends who were amazing and we all had the same interests. We'd chill constantly together at each other's houses and go to Nintendo events in NYC. We'd make time to go out to restaurants and try new places to eat. All this while balancing work and other responsibilities. I think that was the happiest time of my life. I need to find people like that again because I do like being social and going outside often. Now I just do things by myself and it affects my mood all the time.
 
super honest?
i got 0 REAL friends
only real friend i got is my boyfriend if i think about it

the rest i know and talk to at school suck basically. cannot rely on them.
do not trust them completely either, for good reasons

it is sad though
because i would love to be able to live a life having a few TRUE friends
but from my life experience , i find people you can connect with a 100% and have things in common with hard to find

also , i am pretty sure it is not me who is the problem because i am a very positive, super fun/random person to hang out with and very social too.... and my boyfriend is somewhat the opposite of that, he finds a lot of things awkward and stuff but i am so not like that.... i talk to random people all the time and i show interest in people all the time if i think they are kind and cool.... but 9 out of 10 times they do not show any interest back and well then, there you go.... lol​
 
I have about 10 close friends, but I mostly just hang out with 2 of them lately. I had a fight with one of my other close friends recently and it's been a little awkward since, even though we got over it.
 
Social life? What's that?

Due to various factors - my health, my interests, and my personal preference - I'm a complete recluse. I don't socialise at all, I've lost all contact with everyone I knew in real life - and I don't mourn that at all - and I don't really have any IRL friends to speak of. I've never been big on socialising, even when I was younger; people had to practically force me to socialise once I started Secondary School. It started out as a perceived necessity (I didn't really want people finding out about my health problems, and it was easier to just avoid them than it was risk having them pick up on it) before I just started preferring my own company.

That said, I do keep in touch with one person I've known since Primary School. We were in the same class at school, and we studied the same courses at College and University (at least before he dropped out and I started to see less of him) so we've known one another for quite a long time. I haven't seen him for nearly three years now, although we still talk fairly regularly (read: once or twice a month) online. We have similar interests, and like me he's a recluse, so it suits both of us to keep our contact limited to this even though it'd only take us half an hour, if that, to visit one another. I'd count him more as an online acquaintance now than an IRL one.
 
I have a pretty wide social circle I think? I tend to divide them up based on when in my life I met them and where we are in our friendship.

So I have a group of five people who I would say are my closest friends, I talk to them every day and we see each other as often as possible. I'm living away from my hometown for University though so it's not as often as we'd all like but they're like my homegirls. Then I have a few other people who I went to school with that I see from time to time when I'm back home.

I have three people from 6th form that I'm in regular contact with and see a lot and then I have my university friends who I see the most at the moment considering not only do I share a house with some of them but I also am studying the same thing as most of my university friends so I see them in class all the time and I hang out with them a lot outside of class time too.

So uh I have a pretty good social life I think? I get out the house whenever I can and 'socialise'...
 
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