Last One to Post Wins! v4

Weasel D. Garp said:
Everyone's just too busy having their noses in their phones to bother actually talking with the people around them.
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I think I agree with Setsuna here in the fact that this phrase doesn't really make sense, at least to me. Yeah, sure, not many people interact with each other in public spaces because of phones. But before phones, people didn't interact with each other because they were reading the newspaper. Or books. Or making notes. Heck, even just doing nothing. The truth is, a vast majority of people don't just strike a conversation with random people in public. Could be because they're shy or socially awkward, or it could be they're way too tired to talk to anybody, or maybe they're busy with something and need to concentrate, or they're just not up for conversation in general. I feel like phones are just a modern thing to blame the absence of interaction, when the problem really is just humans. Take away the phones, and not much would change. The only thing that would change would be that people wouldn't have an easy and entertaining way to distract themselves.
 
Although I agree with @Weasel D. Garp to a certain extent. Because indeed that's the reality. Although it is also true that I personally cannot go out and say someone that; "hey can we be friends?" . Even though I did played varieties of sports, and hence met lots of players of my age group. Usually it is easy to initiate talks with people whom we see quite regularly. And human is a social animal, hence naturally seeing a same person regularly will cause the person to say hi, or just a smile because we are seeing them from quite sometime. And when that happens, then the conversation starts automatically.


And the same applies in the online world as well, for me. Many people who make online friends consider those people as their friend(s) with whom they chat, have entertainment, some funs, random talks, playing games, etc. But friendship is beyond all these gimmicks. I consider these explanations to be vague explanation of the concept. No doubt that it might be amusing and good feeling, but the fact is that it is not something which is called as friendship. When something wrong goes with us, then these gaming friends will only send some condolence, and in good times some congratulations, that's it. And countering it with the point that those two people are separated by distance is again not much agreeable logic. Giving reaction and giving direction is different thing......

There's infinite difference between peers and friends as well. Peers are made just because of common goals which are needed to be done together, whereas friends are made from mutual understandings.


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I don't consider social media to be the effective way at all. It just helps in initiating the conversation because we cannot see with whom we are talking. And seeing that same person in real life will not be easy to talk with even if someone had talked with that person for long time via social media. Who knows that the person who is appearing very good, friendly via social media is exact opposite to it in real life ? There might be some exception cases as well, but as it is said, "hope for the best, prepare for the worst" ; and hence we need to look into the later portion because life is not bed of roses. It can be like false satisfaction which has nothing to do with how the things might could be in reality.

People in the online world just consider random people as their friend(s) because they do similar things, have similar interests, talks politely, etc. It might give easy time talking with those people, and one might tell that to be united on the ground of interests, but to me it doesn't appeals.

I prefer thinking and ideas over interests; so if a person who shares ideas and thinking with me, then I might look into future prospect of having friendship, but if that person shares lots interests with mine but doesn't shares same core values, then it will cause a lot of friction which will eventually result in fire.

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I treat myself as my best friend (excluding the possibility of friend), because he will never leave me in my toughest time, and will also celebrate with me in my good times. He will provide me courage and self-belief that yes, I can get past the barrier, and will also remind me of the values and ideals which I follow, via sub-conscious mode. Say what, whatever I wrote in this message, or any other message came straight through my brain, hence isn't that we are helping ourselves to put up our thoughts in words ?
 
I'm kind of in a weird spot when it comes to the whole making friends thing. I lack a lot of the social tools to make friends thanks to my experiences during childhood. I live in a very "regressive" environment where people are conservative at best and have very questionable ideologies at worst. I also don't get the "pick up a sports" thing. I forced myself through that during childhood for years and really hated it.

Silver lining is that I'm so used to loneliness that it doesn't affect me as much as it does a lot of others. :(
 
People pretty much just avoid me irl.
I'm also not exactly looking to make a lot of friends.

Weasel D. Garp said:
They need to have some Bug/Dragon, Fairy/Dragon, Rock/Dragon and Psychic/Dragon (not including Ultra Necrozma because you need Z-Power and it's temporary) Pokémon. That would be major.
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Tyrunt/Tyrantrum & Latias/Latios say hi =D
 
ReKoil said:
People pretty much just avoid me irl.
I'm also not exactly looking to make a lot of friends.
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Double this from my end as well! And similar to you, I am also not at all interested to have many friends. One or two great friends are better than group of good friends whose sole purpose is to chat and play, if nothing else.....One can even talk with chatbot and can get much better and detailed replies, which will be actually meaningful.


It is not necessary that the people who talk nice and appear caring are like that in real life as well. It is better to become our own fire, rather than looking for sources of light around us. The external sources might provide some illumination, but the interal spark and blaze is most important.........
 
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This whole conversation topic is once again relevent to what I've been talking to @_confused_piplup_ just today actually. :p
 
As a person who sees things and concepts differently, it is pretty much expected from my end that it is extremely tough to find people who might agree with me. Plus I actually don't mind too much with all of these because what happens with us is directly related to what we do and how we react, and hence I should be bothered about how I am faring instead of falling into fake conversations.

I just cannot trust anyone, and neither I want to change myself just for the sake of having random friends.












Personally asking me, in this regard AI-chatbots are very much better as an online friend, who will answer and clarify our thoughts much better than strangers on the web. Because all of their responses are based on statistical data and webpages, hence they are much better in providing the relevant concepts.
 
Funny thing is, I feel like i probably have the personality of an extrovert, but every time i wanna talk to someone i ultimately don't because of my nervousness. and even if i was a sociable person i'd be probably just as active here than when i wasn't, I ain't ever gonna abandon my besties ;)

Setsuna said:
And to the people saying they want to make IRL friends, that's the big thing, right, you have to be willing and able to put yourself out there. School clubs or sports teams are great for that because it's a group activity you're voluntarily signing up for. Maybe you frequent a store often and get to talk to the people working there, that's how I got my first job and had coworkers I got along with. I think the line between the process of meeting people IRL and meeting people online is very blurry, it's practically the same method in my eyes. We're all on this site because we chose to sign up for it and chose to talk to people, yeah? So clearly you're able to do that same thing with someone you meet in person. Maybe it's ignorant to say, we all have our own different scenarios, but I don't believe you people can't do it. You don't have to go out and obsessively connect with people or worry about taking every possible social interaction, but just keep your eyes open and take opportunities when you notice them, like if someone's out walking their dog or something you can say hello and ask about them. People aren't going to judge you out there in the ways you worry they might.
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Thanks for taking the time typing out some advice, it definitely gives me some confidence, thanks! <3
 
Cosmega said:
If we actually were sociable people we wouldn't be spending so much time in here now would we
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My reason for being on the forum, apart from interest in Pokémon is to learn how to use English as a language while talking. Because English is not our primary language.

I had studied English as a language in school, but had never used it for informal talking, and rather had used while explaining my projects, speeches, presentations, etc.

Hence I wanted to be in a place where I can hone my skills while remaining informal and topic-specific.

Reading and understanding the written matters in newspaper and books is a different thing, and putting the learnt concepts into application is different !!






No doubt in the fact that I am not the one who likes to talk much in real life, but also another thing is that I can't trust easily on anyone. Because my past experiences had taught me that whenever I had trusted someone, my trust is always broken.
 
I once had two 'friends' while in high school. Turned out our class' mentor was forcing them to be friends with me and they didn't want to be friends at all.
I was gutted and broke off any contact with them :sadwick:
 
Megan said:
I live in a very "regressive" environment where people are conservative at best and have very questionable ideologies at worst.
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I live in rural Alabama so I can definitely relate/understand how frustrating that can be; this state would rather do everything it can to bully LGBT kids and own the libs then address the reasons it's the second poorest state in the nation. That's not to mention personal stuff like one of my managers at work unironically saying stuff like "being gay is a sin" or "Israel is blessed by God so we need to support them" (they're 100% OK being open on Sunday though lol). I try to argue against some of it, but it really feels pointless and most of the time I just internally roll my eyes and try to avoid being around them. Not that I'm happy with the US as a whole either, compared to Europe, America seems way behind the curve in nearly every respect. Our social programs are garbage compared to the EU (thanks Reagan), an ambulance ride can easily bankrupt you, there were over 300 school shootings last year and the response has continued to be incredibly anemic. I wish the US could be like Norway instead, a tolerant, prosperous country that invests it's wealth in the population rather then an absurdly bloated defense budget.
 
ReKoil said:
People pretty much just avoid me irl.
I'm also not exactly looking to make a lot of friends.



Tyrunt/Tyrantrum & Latias/Latios say hi =D
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Ach, how did I forget them...?!
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...Still would be nice to see some (or even just one) Bug/Dragon and Fairy/Dragon Pokémon, though.
 
CoolKid575 said:
invests it's wealth in the population rather then an absurdly bloated defense budget.
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As a kid who lives in Armed Force Cantonment and whose relatives are into the army, I will just disagree with it. It is quite easy to maintain and invest money for people in countries which small and don't have much population, hence they don't need too strong defenses. For context, the population of our city is about 60% of entire Norway, and we are not even into the top-10 biggest city in our country.

Hence for protection of bigger population requires defenses. Not everyone follows the idea of "ideal citizen" therefore it will be vague to believe that everything will be good always. We should always be prepared for the worst, because when the worst strikes and we are not prepared, then devastating consequences occur.

The daily living in our country is based on trust because that's how we are culturally. We are bound to trust what people say to us, and it is highly possible that people make misuse of our trust. If someone had said to me that he will return back my money after sometime, then I will not go out and seek the exactness when I will get my money back, because people here understand the grievance of each others, hence give everyone the chance.








But when it seems all good, the possibility of bad comes into picture, because at equilibrium, the total entropy change is Zero, hence how much the good is out there, is balanced out by same amount of bad.

You might not be knowing, but when we see the news flashing that XX soldiers martyred at YY location, and that location is near to the place where our relatives had got the posting, then it becomes truly horrifying scene at home. And when we try to contact them and get the automated response that "phone is switched off" or "phone is not reachable" then it becomes even worse. My father then tries to contact the Army HQ for those regions to get the status. It becomes hectic at home.

Having robust defence system is must, because when the need comes, then we can't expect to receive sufficient help from others. We need to be self-capable.

Saying that wars are bad doesn't ends the possibility of wars, and neither reduces the risk of it.....
 
I never give up, hence I will stand back up every time when I find myself down !!
 
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