super fun family topic

[Her]

how close are you with your family? if not, do you find it easier to choose your own family?

 

[pkmin3033]

My relationship with my biological family has always been difficult. My father and I have a very weird sort of relationship - we're civil, but we're not exactly close, and I doubt we ever will be - and my mother is the main antagonistic force in my life; the one who frequently puts me down, chips away at what little self-image I have left, and generally makes me want to kill myself at the worst of times. That's probably the only thing that would satisfy her.

That said, it could be a lot worse. They haven't kicked me out of the house yet - I suspect mother wants to, but father won't let her - and it's not always constant tension. Especially when my brother is away at College. We get on best by staying out of one another's way, and the way they work means that we're only all in the house together from 5pm onwards and all day Sunday. It works out alright.

I don't know anyone on my father's side, but my mother has two younger sisters. Both of them live pretty far away so I rarely get to see them, although I get on reasonably well with the younger one whenever I see her. She was only around 15 when I was born and I used to play with her a lot when I was very young; I've always liked her. My grandparents I used to be very close to, but then they moved to the other side of the country when I was 11, which effectively destroyed our relationship for the majority of my teens and my early twenties...then I grew up a little. We're on good terms now and they're a very comforting presence in my life.

I find it much easier to choose my own family though, and have done so. If I didn't have my family - that I chose, not my biological family - then it's doubtful I would have lived to see the end of last year. I'm a very solitary person, although I honestly can't imagine life without them now.

 

[Spyro]

I'm very close to my parents, they're still together and have been for 30 years. I'm incredibly lucky to have such loving and incredible parents. My brother and I didn't really get along well when we were children/teenagers. We didn't really speak at all, it was mostly an hostile avoidance. Then long story short he fell into a bonfire, he got the best girlfriend in the world, I bought him a Christmas gift for the first time, he bought a house and now we're super friendly and close. I wouldn't choose anyone else for my family.
I'm friendly with my cousins and their bf/gf, most of us see eachother quite often.

Spoiler:

and there's also the classic family murder drama nobody talks about

 

[Corrin]

I only get along with my mother, the rest of them? nope.
I'm estranged from most of them.

 

[pastelspectre]

i get along with my mom pretty well for the most part. there are some things we disagree on and stuff, but she's gotten a lot better about putting me down and doesn't do it as much. me and her mostly have a pretty close relationship for the most part. me and my dad get along okay, i guess? my dad has done a lot of bad stuff in the past that i still can't forgive him for, which is why i find myself intensely disliking him but..he's my dad. i'll get over what he did eventually but as of right now i can't. i think my dad desperately wants to build up what we had in the past because me and my dad used to be super, duper close but stuff happened in the family that made it go to shit but.. yeah.

me and my little sister are very close, but she has a serious attitude problem that she needs to fix. she likes to put me down a lot and criticize me but i don't let her words get to me, or i at least try to not let them get to me anymore. me and my big sister were.. not very close for a while for various reasons, but we're getting closer now. me and her hang out and i spend the night at her house every once in a while. she's always very profound and we always have good conversations which i like.

me and my nana are okay, i guess? we don't talk that often except for when she invites the family over for dinner (me and my sisters and mom), but she's an okay nana. she can be very negative at times which can..suck the energy and positivity out of me but, otherwise she's okay. she's very stubborn and somewhat close minded on some things but. ah well.

all the rest of my family i almost never see except for family gatherings, but i don't mind. a lot of them are..either racist, homophobic or not really doing much in their life so. it's not too big a deal. *shrug* my family is huge and complicated.

 

[Lunar]

My family and I are super close and always have been :3

 

[Hiatus]

Parents, extremely close! Most outside of them, not very much.

 

[Sirfetch’d]

I'm pretty close with my immediate family, especially my mom. Because I have a Low End job and still live at home, I've had the chance to grow closer to my family as an adult, which I enjoy. My mom and I go shopping a lot, my dad and I will watch sports together(as I do with my mom as well) and my brothers and I are just genuinely close. Aside from my immediate family, I'm super close to my grandmother as well.

 

[an illegible mess.]

my ordeal with my family is sort of weird. my immediate family (mom, dad and sister) and i don't get along at all. my dad was abusive and my mom and sister try to get along with me but its never worked out that well and its hard for us to see eye to eye most of the time. some other family members of mine like one of my aunts and cousin are really nice and i love their company and support they give me. in a way many of my friends are also my family as well, so i do believe people can choose their own family if their biological one is shitty or not supportive.

 

[Bay]

With my parents there are times where we don't agree on stuff and they had said hurtful things to me when all of us are under stress, but I think I get along with both of them decent enough. I mention a few times how my dad and I have several similar interests, and I go to places often with my mom. I used to get along well with my sister, but now we kinda grow apart due to us having different interests.

I don't hang out outside my intermediate family all that often due to the majority of them out of state. When I do get to meet with them, though, we're pretty friendly with each other.

 

[gimmepie]

I'm close with my mum and sister and sort-of my aunt. The rest of my family not at all. I've chosen a lot of my own "family".