The Perfect Relationship

[Pebbles]

does it exist?

wether that is friendship wise or love wise...
is it possible to have a PERFECT relationship?
meaning;

no fighting between two
no tension between two
no stress between two
no sadness/or/anger between two

you know where i am going at?

i believe it is absolutely not possible
especially when it comes to fighting/argueing
because how in the world is it even possible for two individuals to agree on EVERYTHING all the time and therefore never pursuit a fight/arguement... though i have heard once, somebody used to be in a relationship and the two never once fought... and they were together for a while
how is that possible i still ask myself from time to time.... you may be great together and all that but somehow, someway ... at some point there must be a moment where two not agree and feel the same way about something

the only way i can think of , how it is possible to never fight with another, is to avoid it at all costs.... but doing so, that cannot be healthy or am i nuts...
some may be the kind that do not hold a grudge or easily forgive and forget, surely, but i think if you never fight/argue about anything, you cannot always feel 100% happy inside, especially emotionally
even though fighting is seen as a negative thing most of the time.... if you look at it from another way... it can be rather healthy and cause something good in any kind of relationship... fighting may be hurtful at times but i can also be healing and make you see things you did not before.....anyway i am rambling now haha


tell me what you guys think :)​

 

[Kanzler]

But how'd that be a perfect relationship? Without fighting or tension or stress there's no room for growth. You wouldn't have the opportunity to become a better person. All you'd ever get is personal comfort.

 

[Pebbles]

But how'd that be a perfect relationship? Without fighting or tension or stress there's no room for growth. You wouldn't have the opportunity to become a better person. All you'd ever get is personal comfort.

exactly

one of the reasons i wrote that though, is because a lot could think; if we never fight, we have a great/perfect relationship...

and all i am thinking is.... what kind of relationship do you actually have if you tell me you never once fought....how in the world?​

 

[Pinkie-Dawn]

But how'd that be a perfect relationship? Without fighting or tension or stress there's no room for growth. You wouldn't have the opportunity to become a better person. All you'd ever get is personal comfort.

It'll be a perfect relationship, because it would prevent a dysfunctional family if the couple were to marry. Dysfunctional relationships showcased from The Simpsons and Family Guy prove the need for those requirements Pebbles listed to make a perfect relationship.

 

[Lunaris Adamantine]

The perfect relationship isn't one without disagreements, arguments of flaws. It's one where there are conflicts, sometimes big, sometimes small, but no matter whathappens you still love each other the whole way through. There are no two people who are exactly the same. Because of this, finding a relationship without any sort of conflict is pretty much impossible.

It'll be a perfect relationship, because it would prevent a dysfunctional family if the couple were to marry. Dysfunctional relationships showcased from The Simpsons and Family Guy prove the need for those requirements Pebbles listed to make a perfect relationship.

Just because there are conflicts, it doesn't mean a family will be dysfunctional. Also, I don't think satirical cartoon comedies are a good comparison to anything in real life, even less so regarding relationships with your family.

 

[ShinyUmbreon189]

Even friends fight. You know it's a good friend if you can solve the issue without disbanding the friendship. Same works with a couples relationship or even family. There's no room for progress if you don't fight. If you fight you achieve ways to solve it. It may take time but dedication to make things better can take a relationship far. All relationships have their ups and downs, some are even like a roller coaster but they find a way to solve it meaning in the end they love each other that much more and that's what they realize. If a couple doesn't fight I'd question their affection for each other.

 

[Psychic]

I think it's worth remembering that the idea of a "perfect relationship" is really subjective, because different people care about different things. For Pebbles, a perfect relationship might include no fighting, but for me a perfect relationship includes fights where everyone can reach a healthy resolution, and come out of it happier than before. While there are certainly qualities I'm sure most of us could agree would be ideal, each person is so different, and each relationship is so different, that what's really important is figuring out what you want your relationship to look like, and taking the steps to make it happen.

I was actually talking about this with a friend the other night. She's sort of worried that her relationship isn't perfect, because she and her partner have had a lot of fights, more than I've had with my partner. What I said was the number of fights doesn't matter - how you resolve them that says more about your relationship. Plus it turns out their fights were caused by a health condition, and now that they've identified it they feel like they'll be better able to work together in the future.

the only way i can think of , how it is possible to never fight with another, is to avoid it at all costs.... but doing so, that cannot be healthy or am i nuts...

some may be the kind that do not hold a grudge or easily forgive and forget, surely, but i think if you never fight/argue about anything, you cannot always feel 100% happy inside, especially emotionally
even though fighting is seen as a negative thing most of the time.... if you look at it from another way... it can be rather healthy and cause something good in any kind of relationship... fighting may be hurtful at times but i can also be healing and make you see things you did not before​

I pretty much agree with all of this. There is a difference between "never fighting" and "avoiding fighting." If you never argue because there's nothing to fight about, then cool! But if there's something you want to talk about but don't want to get into an argument about it, so you avoid bringing it up, that's bad. If you avoid talking about something, then it can lead to a lot of suppressed feelings, which can be a lot more damaging in the long run. Instead of holding it in and pretending it's not a problem, it's much better to talk about it so you can deal with it quickly, before it becomes something bigger.

Again, I don't think one relationship is inherently better just because there's less conflict. It's how you deal with conflict when it arises that matters, and it can definitely make your relationship stronger afterwards.

It'll be a perfect relationship, because it would prevent a dysfunctional family if the couple were to marry. Dysfunctional relationships showcased from The Simpsons and Family Guy prove the need for those requirements Pebbles listed to make a perfect relationship.

You do realize that a relationship can be dysfunctional without the people being married, right? Also comedy cartoons do not in any prove that no conflict = perfect relationship. A healthy relationship involves conflict and arguments, and the individuals deal with it in a constructive way. There is a ton of middle ground between "being dysfunctional" and "never having any conflict ever."


~Psychic

 

[Somewhere_]

I do not think its possible, and I doubt ill ever come close to achieving such. I haven't had a close relationship with anyone in 2 years. I have a best friend, but I have never we dont go as deep as my old best friend (we were zoned to different schools and lost touch).

Maybe it is, but I dont believe in the "perfect" match.

 

[gimmepie]

I don't think there's a "perfect relationship" out there. In a romantic sense or otherwise. You're always going to argue, you're not always going to agree on everything and have the same hobby.

Perfection doesn't exist. What does exist is happiness and contentment. Love the people you have in your life, don't do the the dishonour of looking for something more when they are all you need. Especially because that something more doesn't exist.

 

[Pebbles]

I don't think there's a "perfect relationship" out there. In a romantic sense or otherwise. You're always going to argue, you're not always going to agree on everything and have the same hobby.

Perfection doesn't exist.

and yet i got told; we had nothing to argue/fight about, so we simply never fought.
so i get the impression from that info, it is possible for two to find each other and apparently agree with every single thing that they came across in life

how.... blows my mind

it just makes me jealous.... it really does.
but it wouldn't make me jealous if the one and only reason would be why two never fought or argued about anything is if both could seriously not be arsed and so bottled things up and said yes and amen to everything whenever something was bothering them.
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[Elysieum]

I think that, put rather brutally, the recipe for a great relationship is 1) two people who have a strong friendship that also 2) find each other sexually attractive.

Those two things can be incredibly strong pillars in presence of each other.

 

[Palamon]

Perfect relationship? No such thing. The beauty of humans is that we're not a hivemind. People disagree. No one will ever have the same opinions, couples argue, etc. If there were a "perfect couple" two people who were together and didn't argue, I'd be quite suspicious.

 

[Psychic]

I think that, put rather brutally, the recipe for a great relationship is 1) two people who have a strong friendship that also 2) find each other sexually attractive.

Those two things can be incredibly strong pillars in presence of each other.

While I think the two things you mentioned make for a good starting point, I don't think those two alone can ensure a relationship remains strong and healthy. I think 3) willingness to communicate openly and honestly is 100% vital to a great relationship, because even people with strong friendships can have disagreements, struggle with tough situations, or fall upon hard times. You have to be able to talk about those things and find ways to improve or resolve them.

There are a good few other qualities I think are worth mentioning, like 4) trust, 5) showing love and appreciation, and 6) supporting one another. I suppose a lot of that could fall under the banner of good communication, though, haha.

and yet i got told; we had nothing to argue/fight about, so we simply never fought.
so i get the impression from that info, it is possible for two to find each other and apparently agree with every single thing that they came across in life

how.... blows my mind

it just makes me jealous.... it really does.
but it wouldn't make me jealous if the one and only reason would be why two never fought or argued about anything is if both could seriously not be arsed and so bottled things up and said yes and amen to everything whenever something was bothering them.
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I know it's easier said than done, but try not to be jealous of other people's relationships. If that's something you find desirable, then instead try to use them as an example and learn from them in order to create your ideal relationship. Try to figure out what they did right and what you can copy to get to where they are. I hope you aren't saying you hope their relationship was built on them bottling up their feelings, though. D:

~Psychic