I know family who have been friends with my family for years, and I'm really close to them, though we aren't related in anyway. However, I like to refer to them as my relatives sometimes... :) I'm closer to them my real relatives could ever be - I don't know my relatives much, and besides most of them don't know me. My father's side lives near where live, and as for my mother's side there's hardly any living in Australia, and most have remained back in Laos. I would say my father's family is way bigger than my mum's. I think one of my paternal great-grandfather had several wives, which may clarify a few things. :\ From what I think my dad's side aren't too smart or bright, while my mum's side are more educated (though living in a developing country) and kind. Actually, one of my mum's brother doesn't keep in contact with anyone, and is rather self-caring, while my other uncles are never giving up trying to contact to him. For me, I just want to get away from them and just be with those who support, though aren't real family. It's always does not related to you that are good, right? That's how I see. I do contact one of my maternal uncle though... Most of my (paternal) relatives that I know are either little toddlers, or young (unsuccessful) adults. They know lots of other families, so I find it confusing of who's related to me or not (but I don't care). It's arkward to go to one of their gatherings, because no-one's gonna know me, and vice versa...