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My boyfriend said that I had no life because I play Pokemon (he thinks its for babies), and I'm really upset about it, but don't know what to say to him. I need advice on how I can tell him that it really hurt my feelings.
 
My boyfriend said that I had no life because I play Pokemon (he thinks its for babies), and I'm really upset about it, but don't know what to say to him. I need advice on how I can tell him that it really hurt my feelings.

If he's that in to you, so to speak, he shouldn't care whether you like Pokémon or not. Explain that you're a fan, and that it should in no way be an obstacle for your relationship, and also that what he said was hurtful. There's nothing else I can add, really. =/
 
My boyfriend said that I had no life because I play Pokemon (he thinks its for babies), and I'm really upset about it, but don't know what to say to him. I need advice on how I can tell him that it really hurt my feelings.

Go out straight and tell him. it's always good to be open.

I have a problem. I like a girl who decided to love one of my best friends. her friends assure me that it wont last long, but what do I do? tell her how I feel?
 
I have a problem. I like a girl who decided to love one of my best friends. her friends assure me that it wont last long, but what do I do? tell her how I feel?

"decided to love" - I lol'd.

You can do nothing but wait. Don't mess up someone's relationship for your own needs, because it could potentially ruin two lives in the short term and leave you in a worse standing than before with both this girl and her current partner.

Also, a word of advice. Don't go about thinking that telling someone how you feel about them is suddenly going to make them ditch their current partner and run off with you into the sunset. Life is not a movie or a teen drama; it just won't work like that.
 
"decided to love" - I lol'd.

You can do nothing but wait. Don't mess up someone's relationship for your own needs, because it could potentially ruin two lives in the short term and leave you in a worse standing than before with both this girl and her current partner.

Also, a word of advice. Don't go about thinking that telling someone how you feel about them is suddenly going to make them ditch their current partner and run off with you into the sunset. Life is not a movie or a teen drama; it just won't work like that.

Right. Thanks. I wasn't expecting it to go like a teen movie, I just thought it might be a good idea. Ok next problem

My friends keep telling me to play out after school even though im permitted not to by my mum. any suggestions?
 
Right. Thanks. I wasn't expecting it to go like a teen movie, I just thought it might be a good idea.

It'd only serve to complicate matters, as I doubt a girl in a relationship would appreciate that sort of attention by another person at all.

My friends keep telling me to play out after school even though im permitted not to by my mum. any suggestions?

Your mother's word is more important than what your friends say. You may not agree with what she says, but she's most likely the one who cooks, cleans and provides for you - much more respect is due to her than to the kids who chide you for not being a 'cool' kid.
 
My boyfriend said that I had no life because I play Pokemon (he thinks its for babies), and I'm really upset about it, but don't know what to say to him. I need advice on how I can tell him that it really hurt my feelings.

There's no advice that needs to be given, you just need to do what you need to do, and that's tell him. If he doesn't accept that, then you shouldn't be with him. If he understands, he's a good guy and will stop. Don't try to sugarcoat it or anything, you need to tell him what's up.
 
My boyfriend said that I had no life because I play Pokemon (he thinks its for babies), and I'm really upset about it, but don't know what to say to him. I need advice on how I can tell him that it really hurt my feelings.
Well, there are a few things you can do, I don't know you nor your boyfriend personally, so do what you think is right- but here are a few possible suggestions.

- Laugh it off! Sometimes you need to make fun of yourself. "What can I say, I'm a little kid inside!" Joke around a bit, and you'll feel better.

- Tell him straight up it hurt you. You'd prefer if he had something to say, like he thought Pokemon was for babies, he wouldn't say things like "You have no life", because it's hurtful.

- Let it go. Pretend he never said it, and you'll get over it. If you guys really like eachother, then it shouldn't affect your relationship in any way.

Either way, I'm sure he didn't say it with the intent to hurt you, which in my opinion, is the important thing. Do whatever you want, good luck, haha!
 
Hm. Thanks guys.

You made me sound like a right prick. But whatever.

You only told me what I already knew. Not very helpful.

@Penguin13 - I didn't ask if homosexuality was right or wrong did I? I didn't ask for your opinion on that so keep it to yourself. In fact, I found that offensive. Really offensive. Homophobe.
If you knew to not interfere with the relationships, why bother posting asking for help on what to do?
 
i got a problem.

theres this guy, he has a gf. and him and i have slept together without her knowing(on multiple occasions). BUt i like his GF, i think shes awesome. And now im starting to feel real bad about it. if i tell her she'll get pissed and probably kick both him and my ass and if i dont tell her my conscience will continue to get to me. what do i do?
 
As long as you stopped sleeping with him, which is definately the most right thing to do, you don't have to tell her, because it will hurt her a lot prolly... I mean I don't know her personally, but it'd hurt me if someone told me that sort of thing. It might be better if you kept it to yourself.
And remember, guilt and regret like that is meant to teach you something, so you should avoid situations where this could happen again in the future.
Haha. Hope I was maybe a little helpful. ^_^ good luck!
 
I disagree on keeping it from the person, yes it does hurt to know your friend/boyfriend did stuff to you, but personally i would rather hear from them then someone else or months down the road when you could be even more in love with this person. So, i'd say tell her, its not worth keeping it to yourself (Which could hurt you emotionally if you're sensitive) and letting this person stay with this guy for who knows how long and then her to find out months down the road he had cheated when she could be madly in love with him, its just not worth it. If i were you, i'd tell this person and if i got beat up, well then i deserved it.
 
i got a problem.

theres this guy, he has a gf. and him and i have slept together without her knowing(on multiple occasions). BUt i like his GF, i think shes awesome. And now im starting to feel real bad about it. if i tell her she'll get pissed and probably kick both him and my ass and if i dont tell her my conscience will continue to get to me. what do i do?

Be honest.
She may be pissed, but hopefully, if she's a good friend, she won't hold a grudge and you two can work it out.
 
Huh. Yah you guys are prolly right. LOL. I'm not very good with this stuff sometimes, cus for the most part I stay out of trouble.
Mm. They're right. You should tell her, cus secrets usually only bring issues. Super sorry for my dumb advice! <,>

Okay. So I have an issue! I have this guy friend. He's just a texting friend and he was a friend of mine's ex-bf. Well she's not really a close friend anymore.. But that's beside the point.
Anyway the guy, even though I've never met him face to face, somehow fell for me. And I didn't know how to respond. So we dated ( not really cus it was just texting) for two days. But that was just weird so yah. We're just friends again. But he keeps hinting at still liking me. And saying he loves me.
He just falls for girls easily. So he'll prolly forget soon enough. So should I just talk to him normally until he gets past it? Or is talking to him leading him on or something?
Agh. He's confusing.
 
i got a problem.

theres this guy, he has a gf. and him and i have slept together without her knowing(on multiple occasions). BUt i like his GF, i think shes awesome. And now im starting to feel real bad about it. if i tell her she'll get pissed and probably kick both him and my ass and if i dont tell her my conscience will continue to get to me. what do i do?

Tell her honestly that you slept with the guy and no matter how she maybe pissed at you, at least you're conscience will be freed from guilt and always remember the saying "the truth will set us free". I think it's true. :)
 
Huh. Yah you guys are prolly right. LOL. I'm not very good with this stuff sometimes, cus for the most part I stay out of trouble.
Mm. They're right. You should tell her, cus secrets usually only bring issues. Super sorry for my dumb advice! <,>

Okay. So I have an issue! I have this guy friend. He's just a texting friend and he was a friend of mine's ex-bf. Well she's not really a close friend anymore.. But that's beside the point.
Anyway the guy, even though I've never met him face to face, somehow fell for me. And I didn't know how to respond. So we dated ( not really cus it was just texting) for two days. But that was just weird so yah. We're just friends again. But he keeps hinting at still liking me. And saying he loves me.
He just falls for girls easily. So he'll prolly forget soon enough. So should I just talk to him normally until he gets past it? Or is talking to him leading him on or something?
Agh. He's confusing.
It depends on what approach you want to take.
Theres two main options that would work well here.
The first is to just stop talking for a bit.
Not ignore him completely, still text him, but barely do that.
Maybe a 'how are you?' 'good you?' 'im good' and then stop talking shortly after that.
Give him a few weeks of this and he'll likely move on.

Second option is to just outright explain the situation. Tell him that you don't want to have a relationship with someone you've never met face-to-face, and that you just want to be friends.
Don't forget to mention maybe something could happen if you guys met and hung out for awhile, to get to know each other in person.
It's helpful to not totally crush his hopes.
 
hello ^^
first time..bit nervous...
anyway im a 14 year old boy, iv never had a girlfreind (no im not a dork), i just act nervous when im with them, nothing wrong with it...except the fact that the chavvy gits who go out with any breathing thing without a penis have decided that i am now gay.
im so not gay! and it gets to me but i dont really care but when i look at my future i think, zero girls in 14 years...how many girlfreinds will i have had by the age of 30?
theres a few nice girls in my school, i know one of them used to like me but i dont know what she thinks now.

next topic.
i have a strong group of freinds, all of wich are better than me at everything apart from singing and music.
the problem is all of them have quit wealthy parents and my parents arent...millionares, shall we say.
all my buddys get what they want when they want it, i have a wii and now 360's are the biz all of my m8s in the last month have converted to xbox...1 kids brother had one just coz he had one!
i just hate feeling like the poor kid, gets me down sometimes.

next topic.
my parents split up when i was 8.
i never got over it and both of them now have partners for themselves.
sometimes it just feels weird thinking of my parents and other people y'know?

anyway, i suppose my blabbing is over, i dont mind what you guys say.
im just writing this so i can let it all out tbh.
keeping things squashed inside my head can sometimes be depressing :(
 
hello ^^
first time..bit nervous...
anyway im a 14 year old boy, iv never had a girlfreind (no im not a dork), i just act nervous when im with them, nothing wrong with it...except the fact that the chavvy gits who go out with any breathing thing without a penis have decided that i am now gay.
im so not gay! and it gets to me but i dont really care but when i look at my future i think, zero girls in 14 years...how many girlfreinds will i have had by the age of 30?
theres a few nice girls in my school, i know one of them used to like me but i dont know what she thinks now.

You shouldn't need to feel that you should be in a relationship, even at your age. I personally think it's a little too early to be going down that route, so for know I would suggest that you continue with your studies. As for people thinking that you're gay, well, it happens. =| You'll have to be content with taking the moral high ground and not lowering yourself to their level - doing something drastic about it will probably only make the problem worse.

next topic.
i have a strong group of freinds, all of wich are better than me at everything apart from singing and music.
the problem is all of them have quit wealthy parents and my parents arent...millionares, shall we say.
all my buddys get what they want when they want it, i have a wii and now 360's are the biz all of my m8s in the last month have converted to xbox...1 kids brother had one just coz he had one!
i just hate feeling like the poor kid, gets me down sometimes.

Do you know if either of your parents are saving up for something in your future, such as a car or university or simply some money to get you started once you leave school? I'd much prefer a savings account set up by my parents to being spoiled with stuff like Xboxs etc. Happiness doesn't stem from material goods in the long term - it sounds clichéd, but it's true, in my opinion.

next topic.
my parents split up when i was 8.
i never got over it and both of them now have partners for themselves.
sometimes it just feels weird thinking of my parents and other people y'know?

So your parents have been separated for six years? They say time heals all wounds, so I guess all you can do is just try to accept that fact that they aren't together. My parents split about ten years ago, I think, when I was six or seven years of age, and I think I got over that fact pretty quickly. ._. Certainly, by the time I was nine or ten it didn't bother me all too much, and now the subject never really crosses my mind.

anyway, i suppose my blabbing is over, i dont mind what you guys say.
im just writing this so i can let it all out tbh.
keeping things squashed inside my head can sometimes be depressing :(

Good on you. It can take a lot to say this sort of stuff, especially if you don't have a release for it in your school or home life. Once again, it sounds clichéd, but have you considered writing a diary? Or even something like a LiveJournal? If you really benefit from writing things down like this then I'd recommend something like a dairy or a LJ.

I hope I've helped. =]
 
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