Ugly friends.

Nick

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    Think of all of your friends. All of them.

    Do you think any of them are ugly? How many of them do you think are ugly? When you're meeting someone new, does their physical appearance matter at all to you? Do you generally go for more attractive people when you're opening yourself up to new friends, or do you go towards less attractive people? If the later, do you think that says something about your self esteem? What do you think the reason for that is?

    Please no "it's about the personality" replies. We all know that. No need to remind us that you're a good person for thinking one/some of your friends isn't attractive. This thread is strictly about physical appearance in friends.
     
    A few. Appearance does make a difference in how I perceive, as my brain attaches your looks to how you act and treats them as a unit. That's not to say that there's a rule for the attachment between the two, though, as they're independent. Essentially, positive and cool people who are attractive are like "omg wow you're the perfect person you have both", positive people who have appearance deficits are like "you know, you're an amazing person and I like your views", negative people who are attractive are like "you're the problem with society's youth" and negative people with appearance deficits are like "Why am I even wasting my time with you". Still though, I digress. It's important, but not as a criteria for picking and choosing friends arbitrarily. :s
     
    I think all of my friends are pretty good looking if you ask me. Guess I attract sexy people to me ;) In all seriousness though I really don't care about appearance when it comes to friendships as it really makes no difference in the end on how good of a friend that they are.
     
    Some of my friends I wouldn't define as objectively attractive. Some are average, that I'm not particularly attracted to but I could see someone else being attracted to it. My tastes are kind of strange though so it's hard for me to judge.

    I do judge who to approach based on appearances, but not attractiveness - more awkwardness. I'm pretty awkward, and I can spot it from a mile away. I know that when you're an awkward person alone at an event, you're probably praying for someone to approach you so you don't have to sit awkwardly alone; plus, I know they won't judge me for not being the most eloquent because they're not social either. I guess that tends to correlate somewhat with unattractiveness, but not necessarily.

    Oh, side note: I do judge if the reason someone is unattractive is easily within their power to fix. One guy I know wouldn't be so unattractive if his hair wasn't so greasy it lays in thick clumped-together strands; he could wash it daily and fix the problem. One woman I know wouldn't be so unattractive if she didn't have terrible breath, which can be fixed with mouthwashes and toothpastes and more oral hygiene. I judge these things because they're so easy and they reflect so badly on you.
     
    *scrolls through recent texts to jog memory*

    I find some of my acquaintances to be not that attractive, but I wouldn't say down right ugly. As for my friends or close friends I find them all average to very attractive.

    I know for a fact that looks don't make me gravitate towards people. It totally depends on how comfortable they make me feel. When I first meet people I feel so shy and awkward and just at a loss for words so it really helps when the other person is friendly and talkative because it gives me something to work with. Otherwise I'm just standing there like "IDK WTF TO SAY" in my mind lol. Somehow my friends just turned out to be attractive... my assumption is attractive people might just be more confident and so found it easy to make conversation with me. I really don't know that's just a guess.
     
    My friend and I were actually discussing this the other day. While there were some people that weren't attractive, they aren't ugly per say. The majority of my friends are pretty good looking.
     
    No, I didn't think any of my friends were unattractive. When in school, I usually made friends by being approached by someone who had a smile on their face, so I believe them to be a beautiful and appealing person. Sure, her clothes were tomboy-ish or he had crooked teeth, but they were fun and genuine people. I open up to those and I'm loyal to those who are genuinely nice towards me and towards others. There's only one girl I can think of who had awful looking stringy blond hair, but she got accepted to the University of Florida, so life is treating her just fine because she's wicked smart and pleasant. If anything, I'm the uglier one around because I hardly smile.
     
    I don't have many friends tbh, but none of them are what I'd consider ugly, really. If anything, I think I'm the ugly friend most of the time. :B
     
    If I don't find one attractive thing in someone and I don't like their personality, I will not be friends with them. It's really kind of superficial, save me the ridicule, but my system works in this order:

    Code: 
    Are they attractive?
- If yes, consider/instigate socialization.
-- If socialization reveals ♥♥♥♥♥♥ personality, disengage.
- If no, observe from afar and determine personality.

Is their personality good/tolerable?
- If yes, work towards friendship.
- If no, disengage.

    Really, I don't care too much about appearances, but they make a huge difference in whether or not I approach someone directly or attempt to feel them out through observations. I'll admit, however, that I've made exceptions to someone's incredibly ♥♥♥♥♥♥ personality just because they're attractive. Despite this, they're usually nothing more than acquaintances.
     
    I don't think I have any ugly friends. Perhaps a few that are in the 'average' zone, but I find most of my friends super pretty. :3

    I really hate to admit it but.. appearance matters a great deal to me. Though, this extends to your closet and, as Oryx mentioned, your hygiene and grooming habits. But they're all just variables; it'd depend on the person and the situation at hand. What I mean to say is: while I prefer a cute face, I'll go after less-than-attractive people so long as they can put forth the effort to dress nicely and keep their hair clean, y'know? Gotta make up for their flaws somehow. :P
     
    My friends are mostly attractive, they fall into either "hot" or "attractive" or "cute", objectively. I have several friend who I'd say arent very attractive.

    Funny thing is that most people I've met who are unattractive or like really ugly, I genuinely disliked. They were either insecure, or extremely defensive, and one of the worst kind of people, those who trash others. Seriously, I knew several guys who were ugly and socially awkward and completely unadaptable yet they still trashed others for the same reasons. One of them was even a bully wannabe.

    I dont mind if someone is shy, and insecure, but I prefer people who are open and socially not awkward, simply people who I feel comfortable to be around.

    tl;dr
    most of my friends average or above, and I will instinctively go towards attractive people, mostly cos of not-so-good experience with unattractive people.
     
    I'm that friend. >_>

    It's funny how some attractive people never get to find out how ultimately boring/generic they are, because the uglier people surrounding them will flood them with compliments, stroke their ego, and basically boost their confidence to unimaginable levels, which will result into them thinking that they're actually interesting people to be around with. How sad.

    Also, some ugly ass trolls need to take a second look before they continue being overly-confident about their appearance. It's just something I've noticed a long, long time ago. Some people are just too naricisstic for their own good, y'know?
     
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    Poki said:
    I'm that friend. >_>

    It's funny how some attractive people never get to find out how ultimately boring/generic they are, because the uglier people surrounding them will flood them with compliments, stroke their ego, and basically boost their confidence to unimaginable levels, which will result into them thinking that they're actually interesting people to be around with. How sad.

    Also, some ugly ass trolls need to take a second look before they continue being overly-confident about their appearance. It's just something I've noticed a long, long time ago. Some people are just too naricisstic for their own good, y'know?
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    Sadly this is true. I knew some people who I'd consider ugly but they probably got a group of friends boosting their ego to the point where they would act like the "Elite".

    But yeah, if you're the attractive one ion a group of people, you're likely to be considered attractive and funny no matter what you really look like.

    I wouldn't know though, I wasn't very social in high school and most people I knew weren't bothered by looks, I think, so yeah. :D
     
    I wouldn't consider any of my friends to be polarized in terms of their physical appearance; we're all average looking Asians. None of them are particularly stunners, and will turn heads nor would they be called ugly. Although, one of my friends, who I treat like a little brother, has gotten quite handsome since 7 years ago when I first met him during middle school. But he'd still be considered average by my standards.
     
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