Maturity

On a scale of 1 to 5, rate where you are in regards to the various aspects of maturity and explain why.

• Emotional
• Intellectual
• Sexual
• Financial (are you able to provide for yourself and/or others on a regular basis)
• Social
• Physical

Then use the same list to show where you would like to be two years from now, if you can help it.

Emotional - 5 - this is actually the hardest one for me to answer. I was deliberating whether I was a 1 or a 5. I thiught I might be a 1 because I'm not good at all in dealing with emotional situations or other people's emotions. I freeze up, have no idea what to do or say so I just kinda stand there looking concerned. But the reason I eventually decided I was a 5 was because I'm virtually impossible to offend, I am always calm and I have a very cavalier reaction to most things others find appalling.

Intellectual - 5 - I'm completely self-aware in regard to my choices and their consequences, I know logically that the way I'm living my life is not going to make me reach my potential and even if I'm not making any steps to change that, I do understand it. I'm also intelligent enough to know that when it comes to world events, ignorance is bliss.

Sexual - 3 - I have growing to do here. I am sexually active and I have a detached attitude toward sex which works fine for me, but there is a lot I haven't experienced sexually, namely what sex is like in a relationship with someone you love. I hear that it's better but since I view sex as chemical rather than romantic I can't imagine how. I guess I'll find out in time.

Financial - 5 - I earn more than I spend, I provide for myself more than comfortably. It's not difficult to be a 5 here, anybody with a rudimentary understanding of mathematics can be.

Social - 4 - I'm a completely functional social being. I don't have any of the barriers most people boast about on the Internet and I have a circle of friends that I hang out with. I can be shy around new people and I'm not overly outgoing, I some times get stuck for things to say, so I guess those things would make me a 5, but I think few people consider themselves a 5 in this area.

Physical - 5 - I'm 24 years old, if I weren't completely physically mature by now I'd be consulting a doctor rather than writing to you fine people.

Emotional - 2 hahaha. I have much growing to do still. So much emotions and too little control over them, especially in harsh situations.

Intellectual - 3 you'd think I'd be super mature considering I soon graduate for the second time with a scientific degree, but I don't feel very intellectual at all. Rather detached. Somehow. Perhaps I'm not interested in becoming more intellectual than I am though. Yeah.

Sexual - 5 :D

Financial - 1 no proper job yet. Been studying and taking loans for years. I am nowhere near economically stable. I need to change this, come summer.

Social - 3 or something. I have friends, I'm not shy, I'm rather comfortable with myself and can easily make new acquaintances and have fun at a party or whatever etc. But I'm weird. I have some growing to do here, I'm just not sure in what direction. Mostly I still need to accept myself and what I want, and not always fall for what everybody else wants. But I also need to stay in touch more with the people who mean the most to me in life. So yeah. Middle.

Physical - uh. 5? My body is ready. I finished growing years ago, probably :p

Emotional - 4. I think I'm almost there. I'm able to handle outbursts and disagreements very well, as well as disappointment. Rarely I might have an outburst, but it's the last thing that needs ironing out before achieving sage-level emotional maturity. I have excellent resolution and good prevention skills for emotional issues.

Intellectual - 3. I have much more intellectual development to do if I achieve my near-term academic/career goals. From then on it's just much more learning, much more understanding, and a deep analysis of doing what is right. There's so much ahead of me in this respect. Other than that, I think I have a deep appreciation for ideas for their own sake, and I'm able to communicate this without denigrating others.

Sexual - 5. hnngggg i got dat mojo

Financial - 2. No job atm, although I would have the educational attainment and skills to acquire a non-minimum wage job, so there's that.

Social - 1. Severely underdeveloped, and has been for some while. Not made better by my recent embrace of introversion. I enjoy talking to people, but I can do without it - I rarely initiate social contact. I'm shy, although I don't see that as too much of an issue as long as I don't just shun people.

Physical - 4. My body needs building. Other than that, it's that of a mature 21 year old yadda yadda

Emotional - 4. I have a pretty good hold on myself in this regard, I never really go into states of absolutely crippling depression so that's something. other than, like, "angst," there's nothing that bothers me and I'm able to brush a lot of things off, or at least (and this is gonna sound weird) enjoy going through shitty things. I know that they're kind of making me stronger (sounds cliched jesus) and it gives me an excuse to listen to emo and mosh in my room so. I'm doin' alright.

Intellectual - 4. I'm self-aware enough to know I do stupid things, and I'm self-aware enough to know not to do incredibly stupid things; what more could I ask for. I'm kind of well-spoken, and I kind of know my way around some stuff. uhh, yeah.

Sexual - 1. I've never had a sexual experience; I've come awfully close, but nothing so far, so I mean I kind of have to be a 1 here.

Financial - see this one's tricky because I don't have a job buuuuuut I'm under my parents' roof so I don't really need to be providing for myself right now.

Social - 3. I'm well-adjusted, sometimes I'm really awkward but it's only in some situations with a couple specific people. I'm quiet when I'm not around my friends and I'm quite loud when I am around my friends, I imagine most people are like this. I get kind of anxious in some scenarios but doesn't everyone.

Physical - 3. I'm a twig but my body's.... proportionate? ...haha???? and I can hold my own and I'm not cripplingly weak so Hooray

and in a couple years? well I mean if I'm gonna go for some hardcore wishful thinking here I'd like all 5's but that's not gonna happen, so I think I'll be the same emotionally (if not a little worse), probably closer to a 5 intellectually, closer to like a fuckin 3 sexually or something, financially maybe a 2 or so sounds plausible, socially still around the same, physically still about the same.

I think I'm really immature.

Emotional - 3. I used to break down really easily. Super emotional. I'm a lot better now, but still trying very hard to improve. Hah, at least now I'm able to accept failures.

Intellectual - 3. In terms of academics alone, I view myself as a terrible student. However, I know my choices, the risks and the opportunity cost. Still, a lot of work needs to be done in this aspect.

Sexual - 1. Can I just say that the closest sexual experience I've encountered is my hand.

Financial - 1. Still studying. I do work part-time while I wait for my results, and my parents do provide me allowance. I tend to overspend though, so low rating here.

Social - 2. I have a few (very) close friends. Outside of that, I'm terribly shy. I never dared to approach people, but that is slowly starting to change.

Physical - 4. I don't see myself growing anymore, but I need to hit the gym.

2 years from now... Hopefully my social circles will grow bigger. I'll be out of the military by then, so physical will definitely be improved. If I end up going for an education degree, I'll be given ample allowance by the ministry... but who knows what will happen in 2 years time?

The answer to all of them is child-like (1) except maybe not sexually because that sounds rather weird so let's just say active yet incompetent

Emotional 5

I... Guess? I'm not a very emotional person.

Intellectual 3

I still have a lot of studying to do, since I'm still in high school at the moment.

Sexual 1

I don't even give a damn about sex.

Financial 1

I don't even have a job.

Social 3

I'm not totally sure of this one to be honest, but I'd say I'm a fairly social person. I have friends that I know in real life. Some... At least...

Physical 3

I'm still going through puberty, so... Yeah...

Emotional - 4, I have great control over my emotions and I'm deeply in tune with where they come from and why I feel the way I do. Still, sometimes I can get moody. I can improve. I'm very perceptive of others as well.

Intellectual - 3, I mean, I know I'm not intellectually inept, but I'm not extraordinarily smart either. I understand abstract concepts and have a good grasp on plenty of subjects, but I doubt I'm anything except a little over above average. I do learn quickly however, and I know that I have much, much more to learn about everything.

Sexual - 1, I have no experience, excuse my youth
Well, since more is taken into account than just experience, I suppose I'd say a 3. I have no experiences with anyone else, but I'm comfortable with who I'm attracted to, and I have a well-rounded understanding of sex and sexuality. I'm not anxious or uncomfortable over sex frankly.

Financial - 2. I can definitely learn, but I don't have much experience with properly handling money.

Social - 4, I get along with people pretty easily. I'm still a bit shy and I'm not particularly outgoing, but that's changing. I have a pretty wide circle of friends, and it's growing almost monthly. :)

Physical - 3, I'm not done with puberty yet, let's hope I'm not a total wreck after I'm done with it.

Emotional - 4 - As much as I would like to think that I have complete control over every emotion, I don't. There are some you just can't control, but I have the occasional outburst, and tend to over-think situations and cause more anxiety than what's needed. I've come a long way considering where I was at two years ago, but there's still a little bit more.

Intellectual - 5 - I dropped out of college, yes, but I was smart enough to sense that college was doing more harm than good, and made the decision to improve my life, rather than suffer through it, so I'm not taking any points off. I can clearly think through my actions and determine what possible outcomes might happen. I love new ideas, and continue to embrace them, even if they conflict with my own.

Sexual - 2 - I'm not active, but that's more or less by choice. I still have a lot of stuff I have to figure out, so I'm putting the score pretty low.

Financial - 5 - My roommate calls me rich.

Social - 3 - I struggle with social situations a lot. Not the generic kind, as I know how to navigate a crowd, and can even do some public speaking without worry, but some of the finer points I just can't seem to grasp. I hope it comes with time, because I can't tell if I sound confident, arrogant, or pathetic when I ask someone to do something for me.

Physical - 4 - I guess my body is still growing a bit. I'm fairly athletic, and can do a number of things, so that counts for something, right?

Emotional - 3 1/2. Bipolar and dealing with it so y'know.

Intellectual- 4. imo anyone who says they're a 5 here is easily below a 3. The irony about a lack of knowledge; is that you won't understand that you have one with how little you know. The irony about a wealth of knowledge, is that you'll know just how much you don't know.

Sexual - 6. I had a lot of my fun in this area already - I'm a fair ways beyond even thinking about this in most instances where it's not really applicable.

Financial - 4. People who hang around me know I'll almost always pay for everything. It's not the greatest practice, but I am putting myself through college while working 2 jobs - so there's some mandatory acceptance of my handling this aspect of my life well.

Social - 4. I play nice with most; and I'm very busy with people doing things whenever I'm not at home, so I have to guess high here.

Physical - 4. Right where I should be, I feel like saying 5 would mean I was old already hahah.

Emotional- 3: i have anxiety and depression. i'm much better than i use to be, but i need to get better somehow.
Intellectual- 4: im in college..maybe 2 more years :3
Sexual- 3: im a virgin, but that doesn't stop me.
Financial (are you able to provide for yourself and/or others on a regular basis) 1: umm, working 4 hours a week isn't doing well.
Social: 2: thanks to my boyfriend, i'm getting better at being social with his friends.
Physical: 1. im done growing, but i've got jelly rolls D:

I'll explain each when I have an explanation.

Emotional - 4
Intellectual - 5
Sexual - 1
Financial - 3
Social - 3.5
Physical - 3.5

Bear in mind that being sexually mature doesn't necessarily correlate with how much sexual experience you've had.

Polar Spectrum said:

Intellectual- 4. imo anyone who says they're a 5 here is easily below a 3. The irony about a lack of knowledge; is that you won't understand that you have one with how little you know. The irony about a wealth of knowledge, is that you'll know just how much you don't know.

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I don't think intellectual maturity necessarily means knowing a bunch of stuff. If that were the case, then we would all be 1's because we hardly know anything. I think the intellectual maturity comes with being able to look at various ideas, seeing the merits of each of them, especially if they conflict with your own, and then express your thoughts in a way that people can understand them. It's about giving everyone's thoughts the respect it deserves, even if you think it's a bunch of nonsense. If you're going around shutting out every new idea and calling it bogus simply because it conflicts with your own, then that's not very mature. You can explain your reasoning on why you think your perspective makes the most sense, but when you absolutely refuse to admit the possibility of being wrong, that's immature.

Harley Quinn said:

Bear in mind that being sexually mature doesn't necessarily correlate with how much sexual experience you've had.

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in that case I'm a five I'm with the tweens and elder; and not part of the prepubescent and medically infertile

Emotional: 3.5

Meh. I'm working on it. I still have a lot to learn in terms of my reactions to various different circumstances, and how to deal with problems.

Intellectual: 4.5

Now, Intellect is all about reasoning and understanding, not about knowing. When one can reason and understand to the greatest objectivity possible for a human, then you can probably say you are 5. When you can reason and respond to an argument utilising all objective sides of your argument - 5. I'm pretty close to that, I'd say. My reasoning and understanding of most new concepts and ideas is pretty good, in my opinion.

Sexual: ...3?

Well, let's say I've covered all bases to date, but my experience is quite little.

Financial: 4

I provide for myself, survive by myself and haven't really run out of money as such. I am now working on a savings account and such, so I'm getting better, and probably by the time I'm 20 I'll have my system for finance completely sorted and running smoothly.

Social: 3.5

I'm not your social animal as it were. I'm not completely dysfunctional, but I prefer a small group of friends to a larger crowd. Of course, under the influence this doesn't really matter. But socialising with newer people is harder for me than with older friends.

Physical: 4

I'm fit. I'm not a body builder, and I'm not exactly well-built either, but I'm not unhealthy. I eat properly, I get my exercise needed, and have no bodily health problems that I know of.

Emotional: 3 - I'm generally a fairly calm and collected person and with most things I'm good at disengaging myself from the problem and looking at them logically. On the other hand though, I'm also an insecure wreck of a person who has a breaking point that you really don't want to cross.

Intellectual: 4 - I was going to say 5, but then it occurred to me that I am in no way reaching my intellectual potential. I'm a pretty smart and logical person and I'm good at using my intelligence but I'm also under-motivated when it comes to developing my intellect further and putting it to good use.

Sexual: 4 - This was a surprisingly hard one to work out. Sex isn't something that's particularly important to me and I feel I have a pretty mature attitude towards sexual encounters. I'm also comfortable with my sexual interests and identities and those of others. On the other hand though, I don't really have much experience to gauge my feelings with so I don't think I quite earn a five.

Financial: 2 - I'm slowly starting to earn some money and I can contribute somewhat to the house. Unfortunately though my income is extremely limited as it comes from the government and from dance lessons that chop and and change a lot. I currently get $220 a fortnight from the government and $20 for every our of lessons I teach.

Social: 3 - I'm not a particularly social person and I'm terrible with large social situations, but I'm not totally inept socially either. I have a decent circle of friends, some that I see much more regularly than others, and I can converse with other people okay. I admit though that in large social gatherings and unfamiliar places my social ability sinks to -12. So yeah, in small groups and in familiar places I'm great but the the larger and less familiar a gathering is the worse my social ability is.

Physical: 4.5 - I'm a fully developed, physically fit and healthy 19 year old male. I would however like to tone my body up a bit more so I don't feel like I really earn a five.

In the future my main goal is to improve my financial maturity to at least a four but preferably a five. I'm in the process of getting a dance program of mine implemented in schools and if that works I'l be able to stop relying on centrelink payouts and earn $50 an hour plus my usual lessons which would be great.

Emotional - 3
I'm not terribly emotionally mature. I have thrown adult tantrums. I'm getting better but I do need to improve on keeping my emotions in check. Around work and friends I'm very controlled, it's when I'm home that it all comes out.

Intellectual - 5
I rarely take what people tell me on face value. I need to understand the logic first and will often review other sources before I make up my own opinion on something. I put myself forward to try new things at work to develop my experience and skills. I understand that my knowledge is always growing and that ideas need to be reevaluated on a regular basis.

Sexual - 5
I do and don't have limited sexual experience. I've done it a lot, but only with one man. I've always taken sex in my relationships very seriously, and was not prepared to have sex before 17, or with someone I didn't love. I was always aiming for the least amount of sexual partners possible. I've always known what I wanted in this area. I also don't judge the sexual behaviour or philosophy of others (even if completely opposite to my own).

Financial - 5
I've been financially independent for 6 years. I work full-time. The only debt I have are my student fees (which are automatically paid from my taxes and has no interest except inflation) and a house mortgage. The monthly mortgage payments are less than rent for most places in my city, so my husband and I are having no problem paying it off and plan to pay it off faster than we have to.

Social - 3
I rate myself a 3 simply because I am terrible at meeting new people and I'm terrible at making conversation with people I don't know very well. It's something that is definitely not improving with age.

Physical - 4
I'm full grown, slim and have an hourglass figure. However, my fitness could be better. I don't like exercising for the sake of exercising. It needs to be an activity that achieves something else, like walking to the train station for work, gardening or a social walk with someone.

Emotional - 3
My emotions get the best of me sometimes but I'm getting there.

Intellectual - 3.5
I'm pretty mature although my jokes may not seem that way. Also inexperienced so I don't know it all.

Sexual - 4
I'm a virgin but I'm not oblivious. I've done stuff. My hormones are strong which makes it difficult. However I can control myself long enough.

Financial - 1
I live with my family and I don't work because no one wants to hire someone with 0 experience.

Social - 3
I make friends pretty easily but it's hard to make the first attempt and I have anxiety and get overwhelmed easily. However once I become comfortable with a person, it's pretty easy to be social.

Physical - 4.5
I'm 19 and I've reached my sad maximum height of 5'4". Although I am kinda leaning towards underweight so my body needs to gain weight if that counts as growing. And I still have about 2 more years before my body becomes officially matured.
As for taking care of my body, I don't exercise for the life of me but I can do about 20 push-ups. I bathe every day and I brush my teeth twice a day, floss every night, and use mouthwash twice a day as well. I like being clean.