And so he built the Hanging Gardens

[Alexander Nicholi]

Provided you're in a relationship, what was the courtship like between you and your SO before you came together? If you're not in a relationship, describe your ideal "getting to know your hopeful" scenario, e.g. what sorts of things you see coming together for a solid relationship, interests you'd share, commonalities/differences you'd want to work with, et cetera.

Pardon the archaic language, and kudos if you know about the Babylonian king in the title


Beware, here be softiness and sap. If ye don't take well or are forever alone head back. Ye have been warned.

Spoiler:

…With Khilia things were a lot simpler as for a while it was just her and I and then she brought another boyfriend of hers together and we magnetized together rather well into a harmonious trio. As I got to know her she showed evidence of a crush on me since the near beginning, and we talked on and on for hours about nearly anything to the point to where it became routine to see her in the mornings and on weekends (before we decided to be together). When she told me how she felt I was kind of taken aback but then formed an obligation to take care of her, make sure she's happy, with listening company, etc. As for how I came together with Idan, a while ago Khilia was insanely depressed over her fear of my disapproval in regard to her liking to polyamorism; him and I put our heads together and tried in helping her up to find we handled her insanely similarly for two men who had never met before. Him and I form the trio around Khilia, so to speak. And we're all a big happy family and lived happily ever after the end

 

[Shining Raichu]

Ideally for me we've already been friends for a while with no hint at something more. That way if something more should blossom I'm already comfortable with them and don't have to deal with the stressful "dating" part of the relationship.

I also think it's better that way because it sets the tone for a relationship. I'd prefer mine friendly and bantery rather than overly emotional and romantic.

 

[Kotone]

Well for me we were just friends at work. I kind of noticed he had an interest in me the couple shifts we worked together. A couple months later, we eventually hung out with another worker. That brought us together and we decided to hang out on our own. We then just kind of got together. That was that and i'm happy :3

 

[Sonata]

I believe a lot in love at first sight, it's worked out well in the past and probably will in the future. So how it would go for me is this. It's a little long and totally improbable.

Spoiler:

I'm out at some random nondescript place doing whatever it is that is done at said place. I go here often and do the same monotonous thing day after day or on occasion depending what this place is. I notice one time I'm in there this girl, who has either short dark hair or long blond or colorful (scene) hair. Her whole being makes something in my stomach rise up and I get goosebumps on my skin. The thought of going up to her rushes to my head and then I go clammy and start panicking about all of the things that could go wrong when I vomit in the middle of this place. Everyone sees, I am embarrassed and I run away to not come back for a certain amount of time, waiting for people to forget about what had happened. I finally decide to come back, hoping all has been forgotten. I do what I do, and then get ready to head on out when I see that girl from before leaving her car. As we walk by each other she looks me down in the corner of her eye as I do her. I walk out of the door and look back at her, hoping to see her staring back to me, but I do not. I come back again when it is time to do what I do. I see her already inside, doing as she does. Say we're at a Kinkos, the only copy machine open is the one next to her. So I am forced to go stand beside her. I look down at what I'm copying, trying not to gain her attention, still having the thoughts of confronting her running through my mind. I feel a tap on my shoulder that breaks me from my train of thought that would lead me once again to having a panic attack. She would question me about what had caused me to puke all that time ago. She would have the sweetest softest voice and the prettiest smile. Teeth not perfect, not glistening marbles, but slightly yellowed and a tad not straight. I would answer her and ask her what she was copying, it would be something that I have an interest in. Which would get us talking together until the inevitable end of her copying. She would give me a smile and her number as she walked out the door to go wherever she needs to be. I would text her almost immediately because I fall in love so fast and would want to get to know everything about her. We would text all day for maybe 2 or 3 days before finding out almost everything about each other. I would suggest we go on a date somewhere, maybe a place that serves a decent lamb or pork chop. Soon after eating we would go to see a movie, something funny so we'd have something to talk about later. Then we'd head to her home, since it is much nicer than the apartment I will have. She'll tell me to keep quiet because her son should be home and in bed. We would go to her room and commence to make out. Somewhere in the middle of our lust I would have a thought in my head, which I would then voice. Why not have me take her kid out somewhere? I really like her and want to get to being around her a lot more, and her kid would be a perfect gateway to that. She would be skeptical at first but ultimately say sure. I would spend days getting to know her child until it got around to the nearest gift giving holiday or her birthday. Then I would ask her child what they think she would like. I would get her the gift her child suggested, and then a gift of my own. Something that would take our relationship to the next step without saying "marry me". She would be overjoyed at both gifts because her kid isn't a dumbass and knows what their mother's interests are. I would get lucky that night and then a few weeks later I would get a text saying that she had missed her period. And now we're married til we die because I am awesome.

 

[Rosehip]

We were just good friends. She came back after being at school for a long time, leaving me unable to see her. First day back, and I give her a big welcome back mini celebration, and wanted to make friends with her more. Found out she had the same interests as me, and we talked more. Found out she had a crush on me, I had one on her, she asked me and I nodded my head. :p

 

[Theblackvixen]

Before I made the trip all the way to sweden after 3 years of being separated, (that's a long but beautiful story if you want to hear it, it's best for a rainy day and chips and chocolate :P) we were the best of friends, but always with the intent of being with one another. It was fate in a nutshell, and some people know the person they're going to spend the rest of their lives with when the meet them. It's very powerful. It makes you feel like an old married couple, the best of friends, right from the get go.

Oh man, I could just go on forever X3

 

[Raine]

Since I'm not a believer nor have I come close to experiencing "love at first sight," I value the emotional foundation that's built through spending time with someone whom I'm interested in. Majority of the time, I rely on my hobby of playing video games as the potential to getting to know someone. Of course, not all guys are into video games, but within my group of friends, many of them are gaming fanatics. And since having mutual interests does help in the long-run, and in actually building a friendship, being able to play games with them would be my ideal situation :3

To be honest, with relationships, I'd rather not follow the whole "opposites attract" concept only because I see that as potentially stepping outside my comfort zone in order to spend time with them. For example, if they're adventurous, and spontaneous, all I imagine is them proposing to go hang gliding ;; Yeah, I'd rather be with someone who has practically the same interests as I do so I don't have to put so much effort into getting to know them or spend time together XD

 

[Bellsprout]

I mean I've had my girl fantasies, but I don't think I really have an ideal situation of how I'd want to meet/get to know someone. I only know that I would prefer that it be something that happens slowly over time.

 

[Shining Raichu]

I believe a lot in love at first sight, it's worked out well in the past

Aren't you single right now?

 

[acatfrommars]

If we have been friends for a while and we share many of the same interests and if I have a physical attraction towards her then that's good enough for me. Oh and Pokemon, she must love the Pokemon. :3

 

[£]

Ideally, someone I have a good history with will tell me "I'm into you let's be a couple" and I'll be like "k" and we'll go from there and see how things are if we're spending a dangerous amount of time together.

I'll cross that bridge when I come to it.

 

[Ephemeral Euphoria]

We started off on a rocky road but we ended up becoming good friends and talking to each other more often until I started developing a crush for her and decided to ask her if she would be okay with a relationship back in 2011, my heart leaped when I got the answer I prayed for.

 

[Sonata]

Aren't you single right now?

Kinda. Not really sure where I stand with them atm since I'll be moving soon.

 

[Corvus of the Black Night]

dohohohohoohohohohoho what I'm involved in is so awkward I don't know if I can call it a relationship but it is fluffy as hell so I will PROVIDE MY INPUT

I met this kick ass dude one day. He was just chillin. I walked out of my FREAKING MOVIE CLASS (yes THEY HAVE CLASSES FOR WATCHING MOVIES IN COLLEGE) and I was all depressed because I thought I didn't have a future. I looked up to him and I was like damn he looks interesting because see this mofo was special because unlike every mofo before he was a blind ass ♥♥♥♥♥ and I was like I HAVE NEVER TALKEDEDEDED TO A BLIND PERSON so I was like saying hi and stuff.

And then we were friends.

As we got to know each other a bit better it was obvious there was some strong chemistry between us. It only took about 2 months for us to really start to feel it. Each meet up we had we got closer and closer. STOP THAT ♥♥♥♥ RIGHT THERE OFFICER THERE'S A PROBLEM. He has a girlfriend, so I felt kind of bad for feeling that way. And he did too. A lot of times he tried to preserve his relationship with his gf because they've been together for longer than we were (although technically only a few months) and stuff. In short the relationship with his GF wasn't really going well, he went south to pursue her and she was really apathetic, all while the romantic tension between us was growing.

I don't know everything and I try to respect that. He has to have something to keep him going with this girl, but I just don't know what. It seems like there's a ton of problems since he complains more than he celebrates. I think that it will evolve through due time the way it's supposed to be. The only thing is is that I hope she doesn't try to slowly snip him out of my life, because even without the very intense romantic tension between us two, we're still very strong friends. We've been there for each other whenever we could. We're super close and we care about each other to the end of days.

 

[Poki]

awww yeee king nebuchadnezzar ftw

So, uhhhh... I don't even know how relationships work anymore. Logic's not on my side on this one. ~_~

*hugs mirror*

 

[Oryx]

I was the communications officer on the EFSS Stone. He was Ensign Boyfriend, a talented but hotheaded and emotional kid. We didn't talk much, not before the fight. He was held back from piloting, not even the Ball, for a battle that needed more precision than he could give - so he jumped into the Beer Gundam, an unfinished prototype that ran only on the knowledge of craft beer that the pilot had. He piloted it into the battle with only a beam saber, and it was my job to save him with my view of the battlefield and our teamwork. Between the two of us, we took out the Zeon ambush and became an unstoppable duo. I never did gain his taste for craft beer, but I'll always have his back in case of Zakus.

 

[Sydian]

I was basically in total denial that I liked my current boyfriend. But I loved being around him and I always wanted to talk to him. We'd always meet up for lunch and talk before practice and what not. Turns out, he really liked me during that time. We were hanging out on his birthday at his apartment and I got tired, so I put my head on his shoulder just kind of resting. Eventually, he put his head on mine and I absolutely melted inside and thought "OKAY OKAY I totally like him oops" lol. We stayed up till 7:30 that night, just talking and looking through Tumblr. Still surprised he sat on the couch with me that long.

Anyway, after we made it clear we liked each other, we started hanging out a lot more and having wine n dine dates and watching movies. I had just gotten out of a relationship a few months prior though and wasn't ready for a new relationship, but we still hung out a lot. I got to a point where I was like "screw it, I really like him, I'm gonna ask him out" and so I did. Best decision I've made in a long time. :)

/sap

 

[Dustmop]

Since I'm not a believer nor have I come close to experiencing "love at first sight," I value the emotional foundation that's built through spending time with someone whom I'm interested in. Majority of the time, I rely on my hobby of playing video games as the potential to getting to know someone. Of course, not all guys are into video games, but within my group of friends, many of them are gaming fanatics. And since having mutual interests does help in the long-run, and in actually building a friendship, being able to play games with them would be my ideal situation :3

To be honest, with relationships, I'd rather not follow the whole "opposites attract" concept only because I see that as potentially stepping outside my comfort zone in order to spend time with them. For example, if they're adventurous, and spontaneous, all I imagine is them proposing to go hang gliding ;; Yeah, I'd rather be with someone who has practically the same interests as I do so I don't have to put so much effort into getting to know them or spend time together XD

Everything she said. All of this.

Mutual interests are a must, so most of my relationships began with bonding over similar interests in media; games, music, and a few movies. I'm incredibly picky about movies and most of what I prefer is in black and white, so that's more of a 'wow' factor for me if they do like the same ones.


So, there wasn't much 'courtship.' I honestly never even expected to fall for him, much less to be where we are today. I knew from the moment that we met that he liked me, but outside of his adorable smile I wasn't sure I liked him.

In the end, though, it was entirely mutual. I'll keep it short and sweet. We just spent, literally, every day together. Usually playing shooters, which was a really bad idea in hindsight because he's bad at them and it made him feel bad. Or maybe I shouldn't trash talk so much. Either way.
We hung out every day watching old movies and playing games he's really bad at until he said "I love you." And then went silent and turned to mush because he's incredibly awkward. And adorable. When I said it back, he got even more awkward and adorable! <3 I knew where he was going, I didn't even let him finish asking - just cut him off with a kiss.

/sappy

 

[Shining Raichu]

Alex if you see this can I ask what on earth the thread title is supposed to be? I don't get how it relates to the topic lol

Quote this post if you reply so I get a notification because I'm likely to forget I even asked.