Children. yes or no?

Catholic Nun said:
HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA no.

There comes a time in every man's life when he must choose between furthering his DNA and having nice things. I choose to have nice things, I urge you to do the same. Because no matter how hard your biological clock is making you think you want children, you probably don't.
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Oh Andy you salty ♥♥♥♥. There are people who think children are nice things. I know you won't understand this concept but don't make fun of me m'dear.

Yes I want kids.
 
I would like to have two children (preferably one of each, but I'm fine with having two boys or two girls). For girls, I like Zainab, Fatima, Malika, and Nazli, and for boys, I like Harun, Mustafa, Salim, and Yusuf. They're all Arabic names - I'm definitely going to give my kids Arabic names since they'll be raised Muslim. It's frowned upon in my religion to use European names. I don't really like a lot of English names, especially the modern ones.

I have a niece who is going to be turning 1 in June. Her name's Isra.
 
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No. Just no.

I do not have the patience, nor the nerves to raise a vomiting poop machine for 18 ♥♥♥♥ing years.

And damn, are they expensive & needy. how bout no
 
In the foreseeable future, I don't want kids.
But when I'm in my 30's, things will probably change.
 
I'm on the fence. Pregnancy and childbirth scare me a lot, and I don't mean the typical kind of fear a girl may have about them. I mean I actually have detailed nightmares about both experiences (miscarriages, being left with a baby, dying in childbirth because I'm very small, birth complications, body image, list goes on), and have for years. Every year, my desire for children decreases because these nightmares get more severe. I kind of would like children someday, but it will be many years from now and my children will likely not come from me. I would like to actually have my own someday, and for a while I thought I could get the better of my fear, but like I said, it just gets worse with each year. I don't think I can quite get over it enough to be able to have my own children.

I often say that I just don't want kids at all, but I think I only say that to mask the fact that my overbearing fear makes me really upset. I used to want three kids, now I'm terrified to even consider one.
 
Everlark said:
I'm on the fence. Pregnancy and childbirth scare me a lot, and I don't mean the typical kind of fear a girl may have about them. I mean I actually have detailed nightmares about both experiences, and have for years. Every year, my desire for children decreases because these nightmares get more severe. I kind of would like children someday, but it will be many years from now and my children will likely not come from me. I would like to actually have my own someday, and for a while I thought I could get the better of my fear, but like I said, it just gets worse with each year. I don't think I can quite get over it enough to be able to have my own children.

I often say that I just don't want kids at all, but I think I only say that to mask the fact that my overbearing fear makes me really upset. I used to want three kids, now I'm terrified to even consider one.
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That's definitely a tough fear to get over considering women often tell stories about how painful their pregnancies were or the potential of giving birth is \: To be honest, I'm quite terrified myself, but I'm willing to put my life on the line to bring new life into the world, especially one made from the love between myself and future significant other :3 Once the time for the actual birth comes along then I'll start freaking out.
 
That's definitely a tough fear to get over considering women often tell stories about how painful their pregnancies were or the potential of giving birth is \: To be honest, I'm quite terrified myself, but I'm willing to put my life on the line to bring new life into the world, especially one made from the love between myself and future significant other :3 Once the time for the actual birth comes along then I'll start freaking out.
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Yeah. This all started when I was about 16 though, and it wasn't really brought on by anyone telling me horror stories from the delivery room. They just happened often and it has gotten worse over the years. It's not something I can just get over or anything. I think when I was around 18 or 19 was the last time I legitimately thought I could get through it and be okay. Because when you actually do the research, you'll find that the things that happen in my nightmares are not really that common. But then again, I'm the person that will read statistics about condoms and be like "not 100% effective in preventing pregnancy? I'M GONNA BE THE 1% I JUST KNOW IT." lol

I mean, I would love to be able to get over it and handle it to where I could have my own kid, but at this point, it's just not happening. :( I...don't like babies much anyway. lol
 
Everlark said:


Yeah. This all started when I was about 16 though, and it wasn't really brought on by anyone telling me horror stories from the delivery room. They just happened often and it has gotten worse over the years. It's not something I can just get over or anything. I think when I was around 18 or 19 was the last time I legitimately thought I could get through it and be okay. Because when you actually do the research, you'll find that the things that happen in my nightmares are not really that common. But then again, I'm the person that will read statistics about condoms and be like "not 100% effective in preventing pregnancy? I'M GONNA BE THE 1% I JUST KNOW IT." lol

I mean, I would love to be able to get over it and handle it to where I could have my own kid, but at this point, it's just not happening. :( I...don't like babies much anyway. lol
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Haha, I'm the same with statistics; I don't trust them completely, especially if there's a 1% missing XD Well, you could always adopt a child if it terrifies you that much and you want definitely want one (: There's enough children out there that are unfortunate so might as well do something good for humanity, even if it just means changing one child's life. I've contemplated adopting, but at the same time, I want that sense of achievement where I can say, "This is my child that I birthed."
 
i'm thirteen so i probably have no idea what i'm talking about buuuut

Kids would be great! I've always imagined myself as a mom taking care of two adorable little demons. Plus, I've often wondered about the feeling you get when your son or daughter is graduating or getting a job or starting a family of their own.
 
Yes, I would love to have kids. Ideally I would like a boy and a girl, I probably couldn't handle much more than that but for some reason I really want to make sure I get a girl so it would probably be a situation like "if the second is a boy we adopt a girl". I dunno why I want a little girl, I just do.

It is odd that I want kids though, because I'll be terrible with them until they're about four. I'm really sensitive to bad smells, vomit makes me queasy and babies hate me. I think though, that once they were older I'd be that good kind of dad that's tough on you when they need to be but are also easy to talk to and fun to spend time with. I'd like to be that kind of dad anyway.

As far as names go, my "friend" (for want of a better word) and I often talk about this, one time we did this thing where we each picked a name - she picked a boy and I picked a girl. We ended up with Felix and Felicity and that has nothing to do with us trying to match in or make themes or even be creative, we just really like those names haha.

I'm a long way off from having children though, I'm only nineteen this year (and she's a bit younger than that) so we have plenty of time. I want kids (even though I'll be awful with them at first) but I also want to enjoy my own life to the fullest and reach as many of my goals as I can first.
 
I really really really want kids someday. I'm not in a position to really plan for any right now but if it happens it happens, my boyfriend however is a little more fearful of the idea immediately and wishes we'd wait a year or so, so I guess I've got a year or two to wait.

I want kids because even though it means sacrifices and grumpyness and misery there's some joy in there too. My sister had kids when I was 7 and they were always around and no matter what the rest of the family thought I always respected her decision to keep them. I dont care about genders or how many (as long as its not an insane amount).

My biggest worry is that given previous health problems I wont be able to have kids of my own. I've almost died twice from health related reproductive system failures and while I've been doing a lot better in recent years I don't know if any long term effects are lingering. I'm slightly scared to find out because I would be absolutely crushed.
 
Everlark said:
I'm on the fence. Pregnancy and childbirth scare me a lot, and I don't mean the typical kind of fear a girl may have about them. I mean I actually have detailed nightmares about both experiences (miscarriages, being left with a baby, dying in childbirth because I'm very small, birth complications, body image, list goes on), and have for years. Every year, my desire for children decreases because these nightmares get more severe. I kind of would like children someday, but it will be many years from now and my children will likely not come from me. I would like to actually have my own someday, and for a while I thought I could get the better of my fear, but like I said, it just gets worse with each year. I don't think I can quite get over it enough to be able to have my own children.

I often say that I just don't want kids at all, but I think I only say that to mask the fact that my overbearing fear makes me really upset. I used to want three kids, now I'm terrified to even consider one.
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You're making me fear about my girlfriend, lol... dying in childbirth and whatnot... :(

I want kids of my own, ofc ♥
I love babies and I want a family of my own, of course I'll need a very steady job and a nice place first haha :P
 
The more time goes by, the more I think the answer is probably no. I'm not super against kids in general... I just don't want to sacrifice literally everything for one.
 
You're making me fear about my girlfriend, lol... dying in childbirth and whatnot...
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Don't let my fear take you in too! Women don't die in childbirth as often as they used to. It's a small chance nowadays, so don't allow my paranoia to consume you. :P

Haha, I'm the same with statistics; I don't trust them completely, especially if there's a 1% missing XD Well, you could always adopt a child if it terrifies you that much and you want definitely want one (: There's enough children out there that are unfortunate so might as well do something good for humanity, even if it just means changing one child's life. I've contemplated adopting, but at the same time, I want that sense of achievement where I can say, "This is my child that I birthed."
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If I do decide to have kids, I can tell you that at least one will be adopted. I believe adoption is a beautiful thing and I honestly feel that if someone is able and willing, they should adopt. There are so many children without parents and true homes and it really saddens me. I have two cousins that are adopted from China and they mean the world to me. If I do decide to have children, I'd like to adopt from China just like my aunt. :)
 
I think I would like children, but not until I'm absolutely ready. I'm scared of the idea of the pain during childbirth. They say it's like menstrual pain but a hundred times worse. If menstrual pain can easily take you down, imagine what being in labor would be like... With that said, I'll have to see how things go. Adoption could be a choice? Two children would be more than enough. I don't have preference for gender or names as of yet. I'll have to decide all of this with my future husband though.
 
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Yes, I do plan to have children in the future in order to keep my family bloodline alive for generations to come, but I also want to have as early as possible, so I can retain my youth once they reach their teenage years, which is why I'm struggling to achieving this goal for still not finding someone I can truly love after reaching 18, where it's legal for me to marry. I haven't thought of their names yet.
 
Being the pessimist I am, I know that being eternally single is a real possibility. However, I still would want children. The single parent adoption thing would probably be difficult, as well as single parenting itself, but it'd be a challenge I'd definitely want to take on.

Preferably one girl, one boy, but in adoption or childbirth, of course I'm not going to be picky.
 
Children have never been in my thoughts for my future. Even as a little kid when I would imagine what my "perfect life" would be, I'd always imagine owning a big house that was all for me. I shared it with no one. As time has gone on, that thought remained the same, though now I just want to stick with an apartment or townhouse.

Honestly, I'm way too selfish to consider children. I like what I like, and anything that keeps me from what I like fills me with anger. I don't want children because having to take care of them means I won't have time and money for my hobbies and interests. Which is also a big reason why I don't want to be in any sort of a relationship.

Don't really care about carrying on the family name or bloodline either. And my parents aren't bothered. They really enjoy their grandchild-less life since it gives them more time and money to do what they want to do.
 
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