How do you cope with disappointment?

curiousnathan

curiousnathan

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    Had the idea of posting this from my blog.

    Basically, how do you cope with disappointment? Are you let down a lot? By whom? Yourself, friends, family? Do you find yourself harshly affected by being let down, or do you simply get back up and brush it off?
     
    I find that the best thing to do is see that "it's all going to work out, don't worry." It sounds so cliché, but every time I've thought about it, I've been right. As everything has worked out. Things get better, regardless of what happens, and I always try to keep that mindset. If you do not rise when you fall, all you can ever do is taste the dirt. I always wish to just keep my chin up, even if it means I need to take a few digs to it. I'd rather be punched by life when I stand tall, than be kicked by it when I lay on the ground.
     
    I like to work and push myself even harder when I fail or get disappointed. Climb higher and surpass my previous failures.
     
    There isn't a lot of disappointment in my life, but to be honest 'disappointment' is pretty mild on the spectrum of negative emotions, so it never really registers as something important enough to have to deal with when it does happen.

    If people disappoint me, I remember they're human just like I am.
     
    I make jokes about it, but when I get home I drink, eat chocolate, generally abuse my diabetes and play Super Smash Bros Brawl.
     
    Cope with it? Do I need to?
    That's basically it. There's no reason for negative emotions to hold sway over anyone, nor any reason that a given emotion should be negative, besides society's say-so.
     
    You can only be disappointed so much before you kinda stop getting your hopes up.. .
     
    I can cope with such when I'm in front of the computer. Or I could just sketch and sketch and sketch. Keeps my mind distracted.
     
    First I like to take a hot shower thinking about positive stuff and then in my room listen to Rock/Metal music or play video games, my disappointment goes away.
     
    I get realllllllllllllllllllll *****y at everyone around me, I lash out on the people who come near me, tell them I just want to be left alone, all that *****y drama queen behavior. Then, I tend to judge myself very hard for my failures. "You're worthless, you'll never aspire to be anything other what what you are now; which is nothing, you're an idiot" etc. I don't know why I get so extremely angry at everyone and myself when I get disappointed/go through failure, but it's terrible and I really need to change it soon. Except, I just don't know how.
     
    Disappointment. Hmm. I simply forget about all my problems and move on. It's as easy as that.
     
    Whenever I feel disappointed about something, I'll be down...then I just get over it and move on. I try not to let it bother me when I tend to move away.

    When it's towards someone, I tend to become very disappointed for days.
     
    I hardly ever get in situations like this, because I try my best not to press expectations of my own onto other people because that's not how I like it to be for me. But I'm human, and I sometimes do that. I'm usually only ever let down by someone once in the timespan that I know them. There are a few people who I think very highly of, and tend to not apply to that, though.

    If I have expectations on someone that they fail to meet, it's a lot like trust with me. If you don't meet an expectation that I think is really fair and reasonable, my expectations of you lower like trust would be broken if you broke someone's trust. So I guess my way of coping with it is to not expect as much from someone I put my faith into to do something to.

    Generally I don't really get disappointed in other people, though, because I don't usually expect much from them to begin with. It doesn't really get me down, unless it's something I was really relying on and pulling for and it's someone who's really close to me. Usually it just brushes off of me, like most things.
     
    I'll hang out with friends, have a little laugh and play some yu-gi-oh! or something to forget about the disappointment
     
    In my case, unless it's something big, I just grin and bear it and move on. Most of the time it's family that ends up disappointing me because they change their plans constantly, and sometimes a badly needed shopping trip gets canceled at the last minute, or comes up at the last minute when I was gonna do something else.
     
    I cna be let down a lot and am easily dissapointed and discouraged. There's not a good way for me to deal with this and I usually end up depressed for a while. I often feel like if I tried to talk to people about it, they wouldnt understand.
     
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