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irl/online

Online mainly because of interests I get mocked for IRL, but also because I'm able to bypass my social anxiety with it. Well, most of the time - sometimes it's still there - but it's definitely easier for me to strike up a conversation with a stranger online than one IRL (definitely easier). Online communities feel more 'welcome' to me and my kind of problems; I feel less pressure to be 'perfect' in my interactions, especially because you can think over your messages without experiencing the stress you do in a 'live' interaction, and I have room to share my interests with others and build my friendships on that. I don't always feel 'safe' when interacting with RL strangers and online I do.

I don't have significantly more online friends than RL friends, though. At least not anymore; I used to be very active on a different forum and back then I had a lot of friends. But despite that, I know that the people I've interacted somewhat with online wouldn't mind me reaching out to them again to talk - a stress I do feel with RL acquaintances, when I don't dare to send people a message unless I'm really 'friends' with them. Not reaching out to RL people makes it hard to make actual friends, but in my defense that also has to do with a lot of other factors... Ah, social anxiety is a bitch.
 
It's so easy to make friends online these days. Because of how shy and anxious I get, it's really hard for me to make irl friends, especially finding friends who have the same interests as you do. This made me put to the test when I moved, but it turned out for the better. However, I do see/talk to my online friends more than my irl friends, so it's a good thing that I have kept balance. But I do prefer to make friends online.
 
It's the same for me tbh, although my friends irl and online have completely different interests, I'm still pretty talkative to everyone.
 
In real life, I'm extremely skittish and nervous around people. Online, I'm a bit (not by much) more sociable and outgoing.
 
Luna said:
It's the same for me tbh, although my friends irl and online have completely different interests, I'm still pretty talkative to everyone.
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I, too, am talkative IRL (once my anxiety has died down) and can chat a lot with people, but it's still hard to actually 'make'/gain despite that. That is what makes me most insecure about interacting with people IRL: I am liked enough to regularly talk to, but seemingly not enough to start a friendship with. I've yet to find a bypass for that problem.
 
to answer my own question i think i make friends a lot easier in person. pc is the only online community i've really been a part of and i've made very few online friends in the 8 years i've been here. so idk if it's me or maybe the personalities that pc attracts don't mesh with me well?
 
i think it's about the same irl vs online. I'm pretty social and talk too much in both scenarios, haha
Bellsprout said:
pc is the only online community i've really been a part of and i've made very few online friends in the 8 years i've been here. so idk if it's me or maybe the personalities that pc attracts don't mesh with me well?
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i've never seen you before but we can be friends if you want (:
 
smocks said:
Kinda the unpopular opinion here but I think talking to people/making friends irl is easier than talking to people/making friends online. I usually suck at replying + expressing emotion is harder which is not fun. + carrying on conversation online is a bit harder than irl (at least for me).

someone teach me how to internet thnks xoxo
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teach me how to real life and u got urself a deal twin <3 no srsly online >>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>> rl. its easier not seeing the real emotion of a human face, as it lessens the pressure of you saying what you want. also, I write better than talk :P
 
Irl is easier. I shy up online. I've wanted to get into mmo's like runescape, but I already have a hard time with chat rooms. In real life it's easy to come up with a response from the top of my head, in a chat if I'm sent a message most of the time I freeze and idk how to respond. In real life I can fake a laugh or something if I can't think of a response, online I lock up and feel awkward. I remember trying to get into a small twitch community, it left me feeling bad.
 
Making friends online is far easier; maybe it's just my time here on PC, but I've made such amazing friends online that I wouldn't even think I would make in real life.

I don't think I struggle so much in particular with making real life friends, at least not as much as I used to. My bigger problem stems from actually keeping those friendships. See, my biggest problem is that outside of work, I don't really keep in contact with any of my co-workers, therefore I guess I don't put in any effort into actually maintaining new friendships, unfortunately.

I think at some point I should probably work on that.
 
an illegible mess. said:
i'm definitely better at making friends online. i'm too awkward in real life and aloof. it's just harder for me to communicate and that makes me look really stupid in front of everyone.
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Same here, it's way easier and more comfortable for me to meet people online
There is a lot of extremely awkward silence when a conversation is attempted irl
 
Online seems to be the easier one for me, whereas irl it no longer is as hard as it used to be for me (very socially awkward 4-5 years ago), it still is pretty hard to make friends for someone with my interests and what I like to do.

That and people here are insanely quick to judge by looks. unluko
 
Offline, probably. I'm very cheerful and easygoing and I never shut up, often a bit of an extrovert I guess. Online, I have a feeling I come across as more... insensitive? I don't think I make as many close, deeply connected friends online as irl. If you see this and consider yourself a good friend of mine, then yay <3
 
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