[Life] LGBTQ+ Alliance (◕‿◕)♡

NearAutomas · May 17, 2022

Username: NearAutomas
Pronouns: Any
Romantic orientation: Aromantic
Sexual orientation: Asexual

I haven't outed myself irl, though I'd say most people that I've told the line "not interested in romance", generally accept it as it is. Wish my parents are like them.

And happy Against Homophobia, Transphobia and Biphobia day!

Starlight · May 17, 2022

NearAutomas said:
Username: NearAutomas
Pronouns: Any
Romantic orientation: Aromantic
Sexual orientation: Asexual

I haven't outed myself irl, though I'd say most people that I've told the line "not interested in romance", generally accept it as it is. Wish my parents are like them.

And happy Against Homophobia, Transphobia and Biphobia day!

Hello and welcome! 😊

Crimson the Cowboy · May 17, 2022

Username: Crimson the Cowboy
Pronouns: He/Him
Gender: Male
Romantic orientation: Questioning (I think I'm Aromatic)
Sexual orientation: See Above
Anything you want to add / general intro! : Hate Homophobes, and anyone who discriminates.

Starlight · May 18, 2022

Crimson the Cowboy said:
Username: Crimson the Cowboy
Pronouns: He/Him
Gender: Male
Romantic orientation: Questioning (I think I'm Aromatic)
Sexual orientation: See Above
Anything you want to add / general intro! : Hate Homophobes, and anyone who discriminates.

Welcome and hello too!!!

Zeostar · Jun 2, 2022

Happy Pride Month to this lovely group.

Starlight · Jun 2, 2022

Happy Pride Month all you wonderful people!

Spread the love, share the peace, and stand with pride my dear rainbow fam <3

69XxGhostxX69 · Jun 30, 2022

The main reason about people who hate LGBTQ+ is
That they are jealous of more colors you have than thier Television!!!! 😆😆

I wanted to join as a support ally, But I am Male, Straight and Ficto-sexual so I think I can't join cuz I have no questions about my gender identity.

VisionofMilotic · Jul 1, 2022

69XxGhostxX69 said:
The main reason about people who hate LGBTQ+ is
That they are jealous of more colors you have than thier Television!!!! 😆😆

I wanted to join as a support ally, But I am Male, Straight and Ficto-sexual so I think I can't join cuz I have no questions about my gender identity.

Hi 69XxGhostxY69! I am glad that you have joined. You are welcome here anytime. I am a heterosexual female cis, and have not questioned my gender identity, but I was welcomed here. You can join as an ally, that's why it's an alliance :) people from all walks of life coming together, gay, straight, bi, trans, cis, intersex. You are my brother and I am happy to gave you here!

Starlight · Jul 1, 2022

69XxGhostxX69 said:
The main reason about people who hate LGBTQ+ is
That they are jealous of more colors you have than thier Television!!!! 😆😆

I wanted to join as a support ally, But I am Male, Straight and Ficto-sexual so I think I can't join cuz I have no questions about my gender identity.

What the lovely Milotic said! Allies are always welcome 🌈

Venonat in Space · Aug 13, 2022

Hi. I need advice. I know i'm a cis straight girl, but these feelings popped out of nowhere.

So since i've been back at day-hab, i've been crushing on a lot of guys, but recently like a month ago, the need for a relationship has...stopped. It's like I don't want one. This may fall under the aromantic/asexual category. I'm just not interested in any gender and this loneliness has been put to a permanent halt.

Also, around the same time, i've been feeling a lot of gender dysphoria. My chest especially. I have pretty big boobs, and I just wish they were way smaller, or even non-existent. Also, i've been staring at boy's crotches. Not because I want them for sexual pleasure, but because i'm just curious what's it like to have one.

So why these feelings all of the sudden? It was like these really quick feelings are dawning on me. I'm almost 36 years old. Why now?

Nah · Aug 13, 2022

Neon Pink said:
Hi. I need advice. I know i'm a cis straight girl, but these feelings popped out of nowhere.

So since i've been back at day-hab, i've been crushing on a lot of guys, but recently like a month ago, the need for a relationship has...stopped. It's like I don't want one. This may fall under the aromantic/asexual category. I'm just not interested in any gender and this loneliness has been put to a permanent halt.

Also, around the same time, i've been feeling a lot of gender dysphoria. My chest especially. I have pretty big boobs, and I just wish they were way smaller, or even non-existent. Also, i've been staring at boy's crotches. Not because I want them for sexual pleasure, but because i'm just curious what's it like to have one.

So why these feelings all of the sudden? It was like these really quick feelings are dawning on me. I'm almost 36 years old. Why now?

Couldn't really tell you why or why now, but what I can say is that people change over time (or some do at least). Stuff like gender and sexuality doesn't have to be set in stone, nor does it have be something that you felt early on. There's a lot of people who are like "yeah I knew I was gay when I was like 8 years old", but there's nothing wrong or unusual about questioning things or feeling things in your 20s or 30s or even beyond.

So just think about it and see how you feel as time goes on. Maybe you'll find that you're something else, maybe you won't, maybe it'll change again at some point--it's all fine.

_confused_piplup_ · Aug 13, 2022

Neon Pink said:
Hi. I need advice. I know i'm a cis straight girl, but these feelings popped out of nowhere.

So since i've been back at day-hab, i've been crushing on a lot of guys, but recently like a month ago, the need for a relationship has...stopped. It's like I don't want one. This may fall under the aromantic/asexual category. I'm just not interested in any gender and this loneliness has been put to a permanent halt.

Also, around the same time, i've been feeling a lot of gender dysphoria. My chest especially. I have pretty big boobs, and I just wish they were way smaller, or even non-existent. Also, i've been staring at boy's crotches. Not because I want them for sexual pleasure, but because i'm just curious what's it like to have one.

So why these feelings all of the sudden? It was like these really quick feelings are dawning on me. I'm almost 36 years old. Why now?

I pretty much agree with Nah. I felt the need to give an answer as well because I know those feelings too. The aromantic/asexual part and obviously gender dysphoria as well.

Nah said:
Couldn't really tell you why or why now, but what I can say is that people change over time (or some do at least). Stuff like gender and sexuality doesn't have to be set in stone, nor does it have be something that you felt early on.

Spoiler:

This is SO true. I am an example of that. I had a lot of phases. I have always had slights attractions towards girls but I have never desired to be in a relationship. Growing up, having to deal with gender dysphoria, I consequently lost even more interest in both relationships and physical attraction. Only lately I realized that despite very few episodes, I have always been asexual.
But most importantly, it took me much time to accept my gender dysphoria and even to shift my sexual orientation. Consider that I had my first doubts about gender identity when I was 14. But to firmly believe and accept that I was trans, it took me around 4 years. I am still struggling a lot because I am mostly still in the closet. but yeah I am talking about a very important step, which is self acceptance. It's normal and super okay to have doubts and to question yourself and your gender identity, actually I feel it's a good thing because after all you'll end up know yourself better, even if it requires a lot of time.
Another example of how much things can change is indeed my sexual orientation. As I said, I have mostly been asexual but with a slight attractions towards women. Totally changed over the last three years. This is another good example of self acceptance and that is probably the best advice I can give you: be open-minded. I wasn't with myself back then. Somehow I have always been intimidated by the idea I could be attracted by men and even in my imagination, I couldn't really see myself with a boy. Growing up and MATURING (very important step), alongside with questioning my gender identity, I started truly asking myself if I could be attracted to men. Slowly, somehow, it felt like I needed to fully explore this option and despite not ever being in a relationship, I now desire to be in one with a boy, even in my imagination. I can't see myself with girls in both relationships and in a physical attraction. Other than that, I alternate moments in which I really feel aromantic and asexual, to moments when I would love to be in a relationship, but it's a part of my personality because I love my alone time and being super independent. But other than that, it's obviously also the fact I am not in transition yet that makes it very hard to even present myself as a girl, but that's totally another matter.
I think that probably all of this won't make a lot of sense to you, because I am trying to synthesise in a few sentences all the contrasting and infinite feelings I have felt for years, but the moral you can take from this is that, as Nah said, things change and it's very good to question yourself. And lastly, if you want to learn something from my little experience, take your time and be open minded. Maybe those gender dysphoria feelings you're getting are something else, maybe not. Just don't push yourself over one idea, just let your mind and feelings work :)

Palamon · Sep 11, 2022

Recently, I learned about the gender identity proxvir, and reading it, it sounds like me? I'm a man, but I don't identify with every single aspect of maleness, so I've always called myself trans masculine.

I consider myself both trans & non-binary and lean more towards Demi-man, but I read up on Proxvir, which feels more like me. It's a masculine gender near male, but it sounds like a fake Tumblr gender, so I probably won't use it. Should I just stick with demi mam?

Link to the proxvir article.

Cosmega · Nov 17, 2022

Username: Cosmega
Pronouns: He/Him
Gender: Male
Romantic orientation: Heteroromantic
Sexual orientation: Heterosexual
Anything you want to add / general intro! : Don't mind me, just an ally supporting everyone that I can. I wanted to post sooner, but, you know, procrastination and stuff. Me and my brother support every person of the community. Unfortunately, I can't say the same for the rest of my family. They're just a bit… not used to "modern stuff" (I do know that the community is not recent, it's just that they think it is). Hope you have a good day!

PSA: nobody is really coming here recently huh

virtualpet · Nov 17, 2022

Username: virtualpet
Pronouns: ask
Gender: varies but we are androgynous presenting
Romantic orientation: also varies
Sexual orientation: also also varies
Anything you want to add / general intro! : we're a system where most of us are queer in some form, usually aspec or multspec as well as xenogender

KOZSTAR · Nov 25, 2022

Unsername: Terrablim98 (will become Scourgekku shortly)
Pronouns: He/him
Gender: Male
Romantic Orientation: I like men and women.
Sexual Orientation: Only into men.
Anything you want to add: I hate labels.

moon · Nov 30, 2022

Palamon said:
Recently, I learned about the gender identity proxvir, and reading it, it sounds like me? I'm a man, but I don't identify with every single aspect of maleness, so I've always called myself trans masculine.

I consider myself both trans & non-binary and lean more towards Demi-man, but I read up on Proxvir, which feels more like me. It's a masculine gender near male, but it sounds like a fake Tumblr gender, so I probably won't use it. Should I just stick with demi mam?

Link to the proxvir article.

Hi~ I've read about that before actually! Honestly, what you want to call yourself is entirely up to you. I could go into detail about exactly how I experience my own gender and attraction, but very few outside of niches on the web would understand. For that reason, I've since long now just defaulted to "nonbinary" and "bi" since I feel comfortable enough with those and most people have at least a tiny inkling of understanding for what the terms mean. If you feel a connection with the label proxvir, then you should go ahead and use it imo :) But perhaps you'll feel like me, that there is a time and place for explaining details and many times and places where there's little to be gained from doing so.

Cosmega said:
Username: Cosmega
Pronouns: He/Him
Gender: Male
Romantic orientation: Heteroromantic
Sexual orientation: Heterosexual
Anything you want to add / general intro! : Don't mind me, just an ally supporting everyone that I can. I wanted to post sooner, but, you know, procrastination and stuff. Me and my brother support every person of the community. Unfortunately, I can't say the same for the rest of my family. They're just a bit… not used to "modern stuff" (I do know that the community is not recent, it's just that they think it is). Hope you have a good day!

PSA: nobody is really coming here recently huh

Heya, welcome! Sorry, I left the site for a while to work through some things. All of PokéCommunity is basically a big LGBTQ+ club in a way, so many likely don't feel a need for this place. It's still a thread where talking about these things is invited and encouraged if one wants a space where they're sure they'll be listened to c: (when someone is around at least...)

virtualpet said:
Username: virtualpet
Pronouns: ask
Gender: varies but we are androgynous presenting
Romantic orientation: also varies
Sexual orientation: also also varies
Anything you want to add / general intro! : we're a system where most of us are queer in some form, usually aspec or multspec as well as xenogender

A system! Welcome, all of you. Do you find it easiest to present androgynously due to the many different variations of your headmates, or are most of you around the androgynous side of the expressive spectrum anyways? Just curious~

Scourgekku said:
Unsername: Terrablim98 (will become Scourgekku shortly)
Pronouns: He/him
Gender: Male
Romantic Orientation: I like men and women.
Sexual Orientation: Only into men.
Anything you want to add: I hate labels.

Welcome :) Dito, labels are restrictive imo. But they can also be freeing in the sense that they help people find their identity and begin to enjoy who they are, and they can also make it easier to find likeminded individuals. I used to question labels a lot, but I've come to understand and respect that they clearly have a place in our world.

moreover, it seems like I'm still counted as the leader of this club. I might rearrange the opening post a bit in the coming days. Simplify the members list etc.

moon · Nov 30, 2022

Updated the opening post a smol bit!

New topic, to get some talk rolling, for those who wish to participate in the topic at hand:

How would you ideally wish to come out?
Alternatively, how do you plan on coming out, if you have plans?
Or if you already have - do you wish that your coming out had gone differently?

DT Valentina · Nov 30, 2022

If you already have - do you wish that your coming out had gone differently? Yeah, I was I could take mine back, lol. I came out to my parents over a random night of dinner. If I had my way and done it differently, I would have come out by throwing myself a party and be all extra, telling not only my mom and dad, but several others as well.

Venonat in Space · Nov 30, 2022

Ooh, a topic to talk about.

How would you ideally wish to come out? Alternatively, how do you plan on coming out, if you have plans? Or if you already have - do you wish that your coming out had gone differently? Inspired by a recent thread in the Off-topic section, here we can put some other angles to it.

As you know (or may not know) I've gone through many sexual orientation changes through out my life. Now i'm even questioning my gender. I don't think i'm fully trans, but I just don't know. I can't put a label on myself yet gender wise, or orientation wise.

I just want to simply say i'm "confused" right now and my friends and family just being chill with it. Nothing flashy or extravagant. Just the simpler and low-key the better, and people just be accepting and loving. Does that make sense?

Also, Doctor, can you change my name in the member section? I'm no longer RedBalloon. Though I might make a name change in the future so it's up to you.

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