my parents love to crack me down whenever possible (probably to make me feel shit so i leave or smth idk).
Jesus, that is so sadly relatable for me? I really hate to admit it. Since I was 18 or so, my mother has had that very attitude, even though she says that she?s happy to support me until I?m 24 or whatever as long as I keep doing productive things on the computer (she thinks I always have been, it?s
somewhat true lol).
The perception got even worse when my husband (boyfriend at the time) came to have an extended visit with me, and she got this stupid perception that he?s just some kid from the Far East looking for a green card. Her personal responsibility deteriorated, she continued doing shitty things to me, never realising that what pissed me off pissed him off too. Eventually it got so out of whack that we didn?t have running water because the water heater broke, and she couldn?t ask for it to be fixed because she was months behind on the rent. Huge mess on so many levels, both financially and emotionally? we were taking Lyfts to community centers to bathe.
We went to visit the in-laws in January, and their attitude about it was to move, even though it wasn?t the cheapest solution because my mother supported us for free. We?ve been a lot happier apart from all that.
People who have kids need to be prepared to look after their kids, not just kick them out as soon as they turn 18.
Yeah? but y?know, given my dad?s attitude is openly that, I wonder if it?s not actually worse to have someone who feigns ?supporting? you while completely wrecking your practical ability to gain independence, as I said above. Both situations are downright entitled and stupid. You don?t ever stop being a parent, and there?s no ?return on investment? for having kids. Get some responsibility.
