Updated the opening post a smol bit!
New topic, to get some talk rolling, for those who wish to participate in the topic at hand:
How would you ideally wish to come out?
Alternatively, how do you plan on coming out, if you have plans?
Or if you already have - do you wish that your coming out had gone differently?
Kinda already replied to this on the other thread. I will put a spoiler and then concentrate on the "how I wish it went differently" part.
First of all, despite not having made any progress and maybe actually having made things worse after coming out, I am still glad I was kinda accepted. So, what I wish I could have changed was obviously the time: doing it as soon as I understood something was wrong (when I was 14) would have helped and now I could be living a different life. But, luckily for my mental health, I can't consider it a major regret as in that period of my life I had some other health issues going on. So, it would have made everything even more complicated.
Going back to that famous August night, I would definitely try to talk to them in person, but knowing myself, I wouldn't be able to do that not even in 100 years lol.
Then, I would have changed the letter I wrote: less references to online friends, because that scared the hell out of my parents. Like, really a lot. For me, it wasn't much of a big deal, but for them it definitely was. They were worried.
I also wish I had a clearer idea of the whole "being trans" thing.
I will develop a bit, but not enough to annoy: surely, I took my time to be sure about being trans. Fluidity and "grey areas" aren't a solid base to come out. It would have just confused their ideas. Now, it's years I have no doubt about my gender identity, but being trans looks to me more of a long path. Back then, it took me years to be convinced about my gender identity and to better understand the whole thing. If I had to come out, I had to give them certainties and not doubts as it would have made things more uncertain.
To do that, I had to convince myself first, so I kinda had a life planned, hopes and dreams to realize, but then, after coming out and talking to a psychologist, reality hit me hard and I understood that all my certainties and plans were actually not as strong and consolidated as I thought and hoped they were. That's why I think it's a path: I have really changed on so many things since when I came out. It's not a positive or a negative change, it's neutral, I'd say.
Last thing I would change, but I have talked about it before, is that I would probably avoid coming out at all. It's a paradox, but I feel a lot more fragile and uncertain since when I came out. I think my first experience wasn't good at all, because while people after the first time feel the energy to come out to other people, after 3 and more years, I really don't wanna put myself in that mess again.
But, on the positive side, I have already done something important in what was probably the only time in my life when I was strongly convinced about things and was brave enough to support them and expose myself.