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[Life] LGBTQ+ Alliance (◕‿◕)♡

LilyGardy

LilyGardy

The Flowering Pokemon
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    Username: LilyGardy
    Pronouns: She/Her
    Gender: Female (Trans)
    Sexual Orientation: Asexual

    I've had a feeling I was trans for a long time but have only been comfortable expressing myself fully for the last year or so.

    Most call me Lily on here. I am still deciding on a name.

    My aim for next year is to be more comfortable with myself.
     
    Crustan

    Crustan

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    Crustan said:
    Username: Crustan
    Pronouns: He/Him
    Gender: Male
    Sexual Orientation: Bi-curious, but I'm finding myself to be okay with being bi :3c

    I personally haven't dated anyone so far, and coming out is not a thing I'll do IRL, ever.

    I realised I was bi-curious earlier this year and that actually scared the crap out of me, and I think some people might relate to dealing with that stuff on your own, but now I accept it to be something I am and it is my little secret! :D
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    Slight update on this: I recently came out to my school friend I have known for years this week. Happened totally by chance and when he said he always felt I was bi(even though when I was being defensive by calling bisexuality a phase so as to not rouse any suspicion) I was like f*ck it, yeah I'm bi LOL

    Honestly it is so freeing that someone knows! And I came out on my own terms!
     
    VisionofMilotic

    VisionofMilotic

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    Congratulations to those of you are coming out. I think it's awesome Crustan that you have a friend who knows you so well that he had a sense that you were bi long before you were feeling confident about talking about it, and that he has always accepted you the way you are, that's a true friend. And LilyGardy, ever since I started talking to you one of the most striking features about you I have noticed is your elegant style, a true beauty trainer, and think it is exciting that you feel ready to share your feminine charms with the world now, and can't wait to hear what your new name will be as you embark on this path. Again, wishing all good things on both of you!

    Incidentally, I watched a video that offers some good counterpoints to common arguments that get used to justify transphobia. It was a helpful watch for me as someone who hopes she can become more effective as an ally for the lgbtq+ community, not that I hadn't heard any of these attacks before, and some of the fallacies they have, but I didn't have all of the data that this youtuber includes, like some of the statistics from different U.K medical studies, and think that the better educated we are, the better we can fight against discrimination.

    The video is part of a series about trans rights. The channel is called Notdefining, and the creator answers to the name Mark, and use both "he" or "they" pronouns. They are a therapist and relationship coach. I dig the videos I am seeing on this channel atm, and subbed.

     
    VisionofMilotic

    VisionofMilotic

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    Hi there Hisuitake, Welcome to the club! No need for labels. Thank you for sharing your multicultural heritage with us. I also have an interracial family, and my skin is a reminder to me to give others always the acceptance for who they are that I would want for myself. We all bleed the same. Thank you for joining friend!

    I am in the mood to share a topic question with our community! Enjoyed any media with an lgbt dynamic lately, like a movies/TV, fiction or non-fiction books, radio channels, magazines etc?

    I am wrapping up the book The Color Purple by Alice Walker, haven't seen the new movie musical, this is strictly a book opinion. I found it a poignant read. There was terrible pain in it, the first half being the most brutal. Trigger warnings include racial hate crimes, substance use, domestic violence, death, sexual assault, child marriage, but it resides within a full spectrum of human emotions that include tenderness, humor, wisdom and good turns of fortune's wheel along with the bad, and many well-drawn portraits of women and their complex relationships and arcs. The love that our protagonist, the shy, hardworking Celie, has for the sassy, glamorous Shug is a central part of the story, something warm, good and beautiful that enters her life after so many traumas and awakens not just romantic love in her for the first time but helps her to love herself.

    I have got myself a collection of early novels and stories by James Baldwin that I will be taking a look at next, including Giovanni's Room and Another Country, which I think would also be relevant to this club. The former is about an American expatriate living in France in the 1950s, who is at war with being himself because he is gay, but in trying to run away from parts of his life, he will of course discover himself. The latter as I understand it will be about many types of intimacy, married couples, opposite and same sex relationships, interracial romance, in an exploration of human emotion.
     
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    RadEmpoleon

    RadEmpoleon

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    I think it's been a while since I posted on here but I figured I'd re-introduce myself. I'm sure my labels have changed since the last time I posted on here.

    Username: RadEmpoleon
    Pronouns: they/them
    Gender: nonbinary
    Romantic orientation: aromantic
    Sexual orientation: asexual
    Relationship status: single

    I think I have identified this way for two years now. Although now I would consider myself kinda lesbian and kinda transmasc, but not really. (a) I'm not interested in any kind of romantic relationship, but if I were, I would prefer it to be with women, and (b) I do relate to a lot of the transmasc experience, but I don't really consider myself a man. I don't mind being referred to with masculine terms like "sir" but I prefer gender-neutral terms.

    EDIT: oopsies can't believe I forgot to mention this. The name I chose for myself (probably two years ago as well) is Anthem. (Online I go by Rad because I'm always hesitant to share personal information about myself online and I pretty much only use this username online anyway.) I have no spine in correcting people when they say my deadname (or use the incorrect pronouns), so no one really calls me Anthem. It's mostly just my friends who actually call me by my chosen name.
     
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    VisionofMilotic

    VisionofMilotic

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    Happy Pride Month everyone!

    I enjoyed watching this video remembering actors musicians, models, athletes, activists, politicians and historical persons who are trans. I thought it might make a good watch during this time of celebration. Are you familiar with any of their stories? I knew of Elliot Page, Lilli Elbe, Billy Tipton and Patricio Manuel, but many of the public figures here are new to me, and have been interesting to learn about!

     
    Cosmega

    Cosmega

    Your feathered fella
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    Cosmega said:
    Username: Cosmega
    Pronouns: He/Him
    Gender: Male
    Romantic orientation: Heteroromantic
    Sexual orientation: Heterosexual
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    dang that post is nearly 2 years old…

    So… yeah… this post, turns out, is a lie.

    I thought that today, according to the pride month calendar, being a day dedicated to celebrate asexuality, would be the perfect time to say that I'm apparently ace!

    At the time I first posted in this thread, I was kinda considering it being a possibility, but only now I think I'm more or less sure that is the case. I've always been confused with people's notion of sexual attraction, wondering things like "What do you mean you want their body?? What does that even mean???". I couldn't really relate to terms like "hot" and "sexy" etc.. Like, I understand what they mean, but Ive never really felt them like others do. I've also ALWAYS been VERY grossed out in Sex Ed classes. Long kissing scenes and sex scenes have also always made me uncomfortable. If I never had sex in my life EVER, I'd be pretty ok with that. Like, the signs were always there! I just never really connected the dots, and when eventually I did, I was in denial or something, thinking like "Nah, I probably just haven't felt it yet, I just need to find the right person. I mean, allosexual people can also just not like sex and just find it gross in general, right? That's totally a thing, right?!"

    So, in summary, I'm an oblivious idiot. But at least I've learned my lesson. I hope.
     
    NipahRika

    NipahRika

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    Hey all! Happy pride month. I finally came back after many months. It says I posted here before, anyway... >->

    Gay Pride Rainbow GIF by Hello All
     
    Weasel D. Garp

    Weasel D. Garp

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    Username: Weasel D. Garp (But just 'Garp' is fine)
    Pronouns: He/Him/His
    Gender: Male
    Romantic orientation: Gay
    Sexual orientation: Homosexual
    Relationship status: Single

    My story is probably an odd one. I started realising I was gay sometime in the autumn of 2017. I kept noticing signs of it, and finally it began dawning on me over the winter thay I was probably gay. I was perfectly all-right with being gay if I indeed was at this point, but I was still wanting to look into it more. I'm really into Doctor Who, so I was reading a Doctor Who magazine and came across an article about the gay actor Matt Lucas who played my favourite new Doctor Who companion Nardole having just written an autobiography about himself called Little Me - My Life From A-Z. In the article Matt Lucas mentioned that it would be in letter chapters (26, the alphabet from A-Z) with each chapter being of a particular subject and having a title relating to that- for example, the chapter for 'G' was G For Gay. I decided to buy the book, see how much of Matt Lucas' being gay lined up with my own, and if it confirmed I was indeed gay (which I was by this point quite sure of already) I'd come out to my parents. I read the book, and could really identify with a lot of his experiences of growing up gay. Then I came out to my parents. My parents have always been real open-minded and accepting, so they were completely fine with it.

    It's funny to me that for most of my life up to that point I'd thought of myself as heterosexual and later asexual. Looking back, the signs were all there that I was gay- I just seemed to be mostly oblivious to them (and maybe a little denial- I'm not quite sure). I'm glad I finally discovered and accepted it at least. I've since come out to the rest of my family, except for the ones that I haven't seen in years and therefore haven't been able to converse with.

    I've not dated anyone yet, and considering I'm too eccentric and different (for example, I don't have nor ever want a mobile phone and I don't drink) for dating sites and etc. to be much use, I'm probably never going to- although I'm still open to the possibility.

    Happy pride month, all!!!
     
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