Losing friends

Sirfetch’d

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    Just a topic that I've been thinking about today. How do you guys deal with losing friends or best friends more specifically? Does it bother you for a long time or are you able to move on pretty quickly?
     
    I avoid losing them entirely.

    Why should we fall out if we're good and meaningful friends? At the absolute worst, being very distant and not getting much chance to speak due to being busy etc., but that's understandable. And in some cases it's temporary.

    I see no reason for falling out with a close friend. (provided you don't have poor taste/aren't a complete ♥♥♥♥)
     
    I have friends that I have grown apart from, and it doesn't bother me all too much because we did grow apart. We just didn't enjoy hanging out much anymore, but there was no bad blood. I still drop a couple of those people the occasional text, and we talk that way a small amount.

    Losing a friend via a falling out is awful, though, and I hate it, and it usually bothers me for years. I'd rather we eventually make up, even if it's in a small way, because normally when it's up to me, I don't end friendships because of fights. I like to work past them. Life's too short to hold grudges.
     
    Friends are gained and lost all the time. It's just the cycle of things when we move from one point of life to another; from school to college, uncalled situations, and so on and so forth. It's almost unavoidable, a part of life. For me, lost friends simply become acquaintances. The only thing keeping any sort of link between us are social networks and connections with other people. On the subject of losing best friends though... It stings, but I move on. No use dwelling over things in the past.
     
    I've grown apart quickly from some people, whether it be by me changing or them. Most recently, one of my closer friends turned into an entirely different person and I have completely cut him from my life (but seriously...good riddance). I've also dropped friends for doing things I find inappropriate, so I've lost plenty that way through college and high school.

    I maintain a very tight and close group of friends, whether I speak to them daily or not as often. Members from this website are some of my closest friends and I am proud to call them that! They've been there for me longer and better than other people and so I value them greatly and work hard to make sure they stay my friends. :>
     
    Last time this happened to me was high school and I took it very badly deep down, but I hid it because I didn't want everyone to know how hurt I was. I realize now that growing apart from friends is just part of life. We were changing people and the people we are now would never be as close friends as we were or even be friends at all.

    I'm sure most of us have heard that saying "People come into your life for a reason, a season or a lifetime..." and sometimes I wonder if this is true. Maybe we're only in some people's life for a certain amount of time so we can learn something from each other.

    I've always noticed whenever a friendship would end or a couple friends would grow distant from me someone else ends up walking into my life who turns out to be a better friend than the previous one. I'd say the friends I have today def care about me and are there for me.
     
    I used to cry a lot when I lost my friends. I remember having this one best friend, before I found out he was fake, and every time he said he would leave... I cried like a baby because of it. Now, I just don't really care. I've learned that the more friends you have, the less likely it is to hurt when you lose another one. The reason for this is because you'll always have that other special friend to make things better.

    The way I see it is that if they leave you, or you lose them as a friend... then they were never really a true friend to begin with. True friends stick by you no matter what. They don't care that you have flaws or anything like that.
     
    Depends on the person. I deal in different ways when I lose touch with different people.

    And ♥♥♥♥ that "If you love someone, let them go." ♥♥♥♥. If I'm attached to a person, I'm not just going to let them go, disregard all the effort I put into our friendship/relationship, and see if they'll eventually come back, or not at all.
     
    I've lost many a friend through time. Mostly it's because they've moved on and away, so that I never see them again. A few times, though, it's because I found out something about them that I didn't like. For a few of them, it's bothered me for quite a long time (say, more than a year) before I get over it.
     
    The only times I lose friends, is basically through. I just get over it, may sound heartless, but if I out grew them or vice versa, then so be it. It's probably for the better.
     
    last time i talked to my old best friend was over half a year, we just suddenly stopped talking. i was really sad about it until about a month ago, i don't even know what happened.

    losing and getting friends is just part of life, so i guess it was going to happen eventually.

    i also lost contact with pretty much all of my middle school friends, but i don't mind that much since we weren't very close.
     
    "I haven't talked to this person in months/years. Huh." And then it continues.

    I moved around a lot as a kid, which I think shaped how I treat losing my friends now. When I was in elementary school, I didn't use the Internet (though it was around). I hate phones and I'm terrible at remember to write letters, so it was easy to lose friends as soon as I couldn't see them in person.

    It's easier to keep in touch with friends now, but I'm just so used to me growing apart from people I don't care when it happens. I'm terrible at taking the initiate and saying "hey what's up" every once in awhile. Probably one of my biggest flaws. So if they're not where I go or they don't try to contact me, they won't hear from me often, if again. >___<;
     
    I moved around a lot too so I get over losing friends pretty quickly. It's kind of rough though when I'm trying to talk about a person that used to be my best friend that I never talk to anymore, and then I don't know how to label her.
     
    It took some rather painful loss to learn how to appreciate people.

    I think of it like a constant freeway. As it winds and turns, people get on, people get off. Hopefully I get to enjoy the ride with them longer than I expect.

    What's so hard is when you can't do anything about it. It feels unfair sometimes, but all the while, it's teaching you how to hug them tightly, then let them go.

    On this topic, I always think of this:
    [PokeCommunity.com] Losing friends
     
    I haven't really lost a friend due to a fight, but I've lost plenty of friends due to us growing apart or never talking again. I have at least one friend that used to go here that I lost just because I stopped messaging them first. That hurt a lot, because it made me feel as if I was the only one who had cared at all. We still have each other's contacts, but yup, nothing.
     
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