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Last time I ranted here, it wasn't really a rant. But this... it's a whole different story. I am seriously pissed and would like to rant about this asisnine situation I am involved with. May I go on?
 
Rai said:
Last time I ranted here, it wasn't really a rant. But this... it's a whole different story. I am seriously pissed and would like to rant about this asisnine situation I am involved with. May I go on?
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Im kinda in the mood to here a rant ._.
Btw, are you really a lesbian?
 
Yes, I am really a lesbian :3 It partly has to do with this whole stupid thing.

So my friend (this isn't her real name) Cindy has a crush on this guy, but she is always talking about how ugly his girlfriend is. I saw her and thought she was pretty so I told Cindy that I disagreed with her opinion. She freaked. She started cursing me out and wouldn't calm down no matter what I said. Apparentally I had offended her and I tried to apologize but had no avail. Suddenly, she went all homophobic on me. She is always telling me how she is okay with my orientation, but the second she is mad at me, she starts telling me how sinful and wrong it is. I was tired of being nice so I started countering her. She signed off.

The next day I went to go pick up my friend Stephanie. It turned out Cindy was over and "didn't want to get a ride from me." I nearly flipped. She ended up coming; but her and some other friends slipt up with me and my friend Amanda when we got to the mall. Apparentally, the entire time Cindy was complaining about me and saying how she didn't want to be near me.

Today she imed me, cursing and raving. She was yelling at me for telling some of our friends out the fight. Is it me or is it NORMAL to tell your other friends when you have a fight? She cursed, yelled, insulted no matter how much I tried to calm her down. She signed off again.

I can't take this! I didn't do anything! I said someone was pretty and now one of my "good" friends hates me. Is it me or is this whole thing completely ridiculous? I am so mad! -____-
 
Rai said:
Yes, I am really a lesbian :3 It partly has to do with this whole stupid thing.

So my friend (this isn't her real name) Cindy has a crush on this guy, but she is always talking about how ugly his girlfriend is. I saw her and thought she was pretty so I told Cindy that I disagreed with her opinion. She freaked. She started cursing me out and wouldn't calm down no matter what I said. Apparentally I had offended her and I tried to apologize but had no avail. Suddenly, she went all homophobic on me. She is always telling me how she is okay with my orientation, but the second she is mad at me, she starts telling me how sinful and wrong it is. I was tired of being nice so I started countering her. She signed off.

The next day I went to go pick up my friend Stephanie. It turned out Cindy was over and "didn't want to get a ride from me." I nearly flipped. She ended up coming; but her and some other friends slipt up with me and my friend Amanda when we got to the mall. Apparentally, the entire time Cindy was complaining about me and saying how she didn't want to be near me.

Today she imed me, cursing and raving. She was yelling at me for telling some of our friends out the fight. Is it me or is it NORMAL to tell your other friends when you have a fight? She cursed, yelled, insulted no matter how much I tried to calm her down. She signed off again.

I can't take this! I didn't do anything! I said someone was pretty and now one of my "good" friends hates me. Is it me or is this whole thing completely ridiculous? I am so mad! -____-
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Well...first off. She doesn't sound like a very good friend if she is so bipolar about your orientation. I'm not experienced with having homosexual friends, so I don't really know how it would feel to have one, but certainly a friendship shouldn't change because of something like that, unless the friend started coming onto you, even though you repeat to them you aren't. So, unless you're hitting on her, then I dunno about that.

Secondly, I'm quite sure it's common to tell your friends if you got in a fight with another. You're looking for comfort and justification, I suppose.

If you really want her back as a friend, try to talk to her about it and explain your half of the story. If she chooses not to listen, then she lost herself a (I'm sure) good friend.
 
Rai said:
Yes, I am really a lesbian :3 It partly has to do with this whole stupid thing.

So my friend (this isn't her real name) Cindy has a crush on this guy, but she is always talking about how ugly his girlfriend is. I saw her and thought she was pretty so I told Cindy that I disagreed with her opinion. She freaked. She started cursing me out and wouldn't calm down no matter what I said. Apparentally I had offended her and I tried to apologize but had no avail. Suddenly, she went all homophobic on me. She is always telling me how she is okay with my orientation, but the second she is mad at me, she starts telling me how sinful and wrong it is. I was tired of being nice so I started countering her. She signed off.

The next day I went to go pick up my friend Stephanie. It turned out Cindy was over and "didn't want to get a ride from me." I nearly flipped. She ended up coming; but her and some other friends slipt up with me and my friend Amanda when we got to the mall. Apparentally, the entire time Cindy was complaining about me and saying how she didn't want to be near me.

Today she imed me, cursing and raving. She was yelling at me for telling some of our friends out the fight. Is it me or is it NORMAL to tell your other friends when you have a fight? She cursed, yelled, insulted no matter how much I tried to calm her down. She signed off again.

I can't take this! I didn't do anything! I said someone was pretty and now one of my "good" friends hates me. Is it me or is this whole thing completely ridiculous? I am so mad! -____-
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Well Rai, I think it would have been best to agree with her. She knows the other girl is pretty, but now that you think she is as well, she feels that her chance at getting the guy is fruitless. Basically, she has no upperhand against this girl and she's upset. She's saying all these mean things probably because she's just upset you didn't side with her. If I were you, I'd talk more about her own benefits that might help her get the guy instead of bad things about his girlfriend. That might cheer her up ^-^


So...my problem.
I have a paper to write, and I have no sources and the library's closed. I don't know exactly what the prompt wants me to do either.
 
Saber said:
Well Rai, I think it would have been best to agree with her. She knows the other girl is pretty, but now that you think she is as well, she feels that her chance at getting the guy is fruitless. Basically, she has no upperhand against this girl and she's upset. She's saying all these mean things probably because she's just upset you didn't side with her. If I were you, I'd talk more about her own benefits that might help her get the guy instead of bad things about his girlfriend. That might cheer her up ^-^
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I tried! I said things like "I never said she was a wonderful person" and stuff like that. But she keeps treating me like crap and as if I committed some horrible deed. It's futile.

And thanks Klippy :3 I don't hit on her; I hardly mention anything relating to my orientation. She was trying to use it against me as if it were a bad trait of mine or something, but it didn't work because I'm used to being treated that way.
 
Well, then she's just not being a good friend. That's kinda sad that she's doing that. All you can do is let her calm down and wait it out. If she is still holding the grudge for a long time, then she lost a good friend. ^__^;
 
Rai said:
Yes, I am really a lesbian :3 It partly has to do with this whole stupid thing.

So my friend (this isn't her real name) Cindy has a crush on this guy, but she is always talking about how ugly his girlfriend is. I saw her and thought she was pretty so I told Cindy that I disagreed with her opinion. She freaked. She started cursing me out and wouldn't calm down no matter what I said. Apparentally I had offended her and I tried to apologize but had no avail. Suddenly, she went all homophobic on me. She is always telling me how she is okay with my orientation, but the second she is mad at me, she starts telling me how sinful and wrong it is. I was tired of being nice so I started countering her. She signed off.

The next day I went to go pick up my friend Stephanie. It turned out Cindy was over and "didn't want to get a ride from me." I nearly flipped. She ended up coming; but her and some other friends slipt up with me and my friend Amanda when we got to the mall. Apparentally, the entire time Cindy was complaining about me and saying how she didn't want to be near me.

Today she imed me, cursing and raving. She was yelling at me for telling some of our friends out the fight. Is it me or is it NORMAL to tell your other friends when you have a fight? She cursed, yelled, insulted no matter how much I tried to calm her down. She signed off again.

I can't take this! I didn't do anything! I said someone was pretty and now one of my "good" friends hates me. Is it me or is this whole thing completely ridiculous? I am so mad! -____-
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God this girl sounds like a total stereotype. Next time she IMs you just say that you aint gonna talk to her until she acts like a big girl. She needs to get her head out of her butt and realize that you're allowed to have you own opinion and she cant throw a "hissy-fit" eberytime she cant controll someone. So just subtly tell her you aint gonna deal with her if shes like this. Just what ever you do dont get to angry cuz that might just make it worse ._.

I hope that helped a lil

Btw, it is normal to tell your friends about fights you have
 
Thanks you guys :3

@Xairmo: Apparently (according to my friend), she is never going to talk to me again o_o So I guess the problem is solved? O_o
 
Rai said:
Thanks you guys :3

@Xairmo: Apparently (according to my friend), she is never going to talk to me again o_o So I guess the problem is solved? O_o
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Im sure she'll talk to you again. Dont take it too seriously when a friend says that to you, especially a good friend. You're just a lil mad at each other. Im sure she'll come around. I hope it all works out cuz you seem like a nice person ^^
 
Thank you ^__^

She has a tendency to hold grudges so knowing her, she probably will never talk to be again. But frankly, I don't care if she never talks to me again because that way I won't have to deal with her immature, hypocritical crap -___-

This whole thing is so ridiculous; I disagreed with her and now she hates me.
 
Rai said:
Thank you ^__^

She has a tendency to hold grudges so knowing her, she probably will never talk to be again. But frankly, I don't care if she never talks to me again because that way I won't have to deal with her immature, hypocritical crap -___-

This whole thing is so ridiculous; I disagreed with her and now she hates me.
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Well maybe it is better if she doesnt talk to you again, who needs two faced friends? God I hate all this high school drama...its so pointless >.<

Well either way it should work out fine for you ^.^
 
Okay, my problem, I'll admit, isn't much of a problem, and isn't as important as most others, but I really want to know what to do.

I have this friend who I've known since elementary, but we never talked until last year, and now we're like best friends. So about a month ago, I was texting her (new generation, people!), and I realized that I liked her. But this is like no other girl I've liked before, it's not about lust or anything like that (although she is a knock out, that's a plus), but I really, really, really like her. Now, she knows this, and I'm 100% sure she doesn't like me the same way. And I don't want to ruin what we have now and make things all awkward between us. Whenever we're having troubles, we always turn to each other. I honestly don't know what to do, and all my friends are bugging me to ask her out, but I don't want to tell them what I want to. She just got through a really bad break up, and she said that she still kind of loves him, and she's not the kind of person that goes around having loads of boyfriends per year. To be honest; I think I love her. =/
 
Ausaudriel said:
Better to love and lose than to never love at all?

I say tell her how you feel, if the potential for a deeper relationship exists you should explore the possibility.
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I totally see where you're coming from, but I just don't want to ruin what we have now, and she's still hung up on her ex. My plan (if you want to call it that) is to wait until she doesn't really like anybody, and then I guess I can ask her? I don't know. But I sure as hell can't do it any time soon.
 
I'm having a problem guys.
So, we were talking about suicide in school and how wrong it was, and if anyone knew we were asked to give examples.
One kid said Budd Dwyer.
So, curious as i am i wiki'd Budd Dwyer, and found out her had killed himself live on television.
So, as stupid yet curious as i am, i watched the youtube video of him commiting suicide, and now i cannot get the thought out of my head, even though i have been trying very hard.
Can someone help me?
 
My suggestions would be to go back on youtube and just start watching some of the funny/stupid ones.
I know when I pray to get stuff outa my head it leaves ( it worked when I couldn't get some of the gory images from CSI out)
listen to inspirational/calming/happy music
 
Gerri Shin® said:
My suggestions would be to go back on youtube and just start watching some of the funny/stupid ones.
I know when I pray to get stuff outa my head it leaves ( it worked when I couldn't get some of the gory images from CSI out)
listen to inspirational/calming/happy music
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Thanks a lot, its been helping pretty good so far =]
 
Public School...

I've been homeschooled for a while now. In the program we're using I teach myself. My mom homeschools my brother so I have to do all my work without any guideance. The last few months I've been falling really far behind. Tutoring was an option..but my dad has talked our public school into letting me come in for the rest of the semester (usually they only allow people in at the begining of any given semester). I'm really freaking out...I'm going to be stuck in a classroom full of people I don't know, plus I'll feel like an idiot because I'll have no idea what they'd been doing before I got there! And I don't even know what classes I can get now...

Any tips? :surprised:
 
Serious help.

Well people been talking about my friend and i just told her they've been doing it and i really like her.

She now wants to move schools because of this.

I feel some out of order.

Also i don't actually know if they were talking about her.
 
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