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Virtual Relationships

I've never been in an online relationship before, but I certainly have met most of my closest friends online; a majority of them here on PC. Those people I would really love to hang out with irl, but unfortunately, I've only gotten the chance to do so with one :< Anyway, the reason why I consider them such close friends is because we share many similar interests, talk a lot (though that hasn't really happened with some of them lately due to my being absent from here a while back), and still remain close even when we get into arguments. They're also people I'd trust many of my secrets with and would be all right ranting to.

Moving back to romantic virtual relationships, I'd be all right with getting into one myself, especially since it's a lot easier for me to talk online than it is in real life. That being said, I probably would want to meet up with my significant other irl at some point, which could be difficult depending on how far away we live from each other. Still, it'd be worth trying, as things could work out well and we may get along well online and in real life!
Hm! How do you feel about the fact that since you were away for awhile you guys didn't have much interaction? I mean do you guys have each others' phone numbers or anything?

What is it that makes online conversation easier for you? I have a long long list haha, and I'm sure its many of the same things. And, from personal experience I can say that online relationships can be a lot deeper emotionally than RL relationships. But, the problem lyes in the distance, and how things play out once you meet. For me it's always been an awkward mess when meeting since we never had that face to face before
 
Hm! How do you feel about the fact that since you were away for awhile you guys didn't have much interaction? I mean do you guys have each others' phone numbers or anything?

Well, while I was away, I still got to interact with some of them quite a bit! One of them is also a good RP buddy of mine and introduced me to Dreamwidth RP, so we still chatted a lot via a lesser known social media site people on Dreamwidth were using, and we got to RP with each other. As for another person, they're active on another forum I'm also active on, so we got to interact plenty there. I think I have both on Skype as well, but I've only interacted with one of them in a group chat. When I meant "lately" I meant within a span of a few months; I've been away from PC for ~two years. As for why we haven't chatted recently, I haven't had much RP muse so I've been away from the aforementioned social media site; don't really have a reason for why I haven't chatted with the other person, though like I said we do still speak to each other in a group chat.

Phone-wise, I never thought about exchanging numbers, but I have trouble talking on the phone, and I've never had texting privileges. (I can text/receive texts, but it costs extra to do so, and my parents--who are paying for my phone services--just can't afford it.) Thus, even if we did exchange numbers I probably would have a hard time calling them or speaking with them if they called me, haha.

What is it that makes online conversation easier for you?

I personally find it a lot easier because you're not initially judged by how you look or by body language (e.g., I have trouble making eye contact, let alone keeping it, so I tend to look around me a lot), but by the content of your posts, messages, etc. Additionally, I find it a lot easier to speak my mind. In real life, I'm not always the quickest thinker, so I find I often have trouble coming up with what I want to say on the spot. Online, I can usually take as much time as I need to organize and eloquently word my thoughts, and I can see how I worded them and adjust said wording at any given time.
 
I'm currently in an online relationship with someone from here. We were best friends for three years and our relationship turned 2 months just yesterday.

My previous relationship was half-physical and half-online, because on the final half, I had moved away. I was already used to the whole online thing but there were loads of trust issues at the time, whereas at the end it never worked out. Honestly I was scared in trying it out again, but I couldn't resist the feelings I had for him, and he couldnt either. xD So we went ahead and started it off. My main anxiety is meeting him irl, in which I am currently making early plans on doing so by the end of this year or so. I mean, I'm pretty nervous of the outcome, actually...but I do think everything will turn out okay xD
 
I'm currently in one! It started with them sharing an interest with me, and then...I guess a few weeks after that, our feelings grew us closer. It happened so quickly x)

I feel more comfortable talking to someone on the internet, particularly someone I'd be in an online relationship with. I dunno why, I just feel better talking on the net rather than face to face. It's not really fun when you're not able to be able to give hugs and stuff because they're not there, and long distance relationships don't always end well, especially considering timezones are a curse and all that.
 
I've only been in a physical relationship, but that's about it. As for online relationships, it just depends on how they are. Some people (such as parents) may not approve of them, but at the same time, I feel that they can work out better as well, considering that the availability to interact in an online relation can be anytime versus having to wait or hold off on interacting in real life.
 
I'm actually in one currently. I prefer online because it's much easier for me. Being someone with autism, it's often hard to process or look someone in the face all of the time. It can become overwhelming to be loved in real life than online. Basically, I feel that I can connect more emotionally to my boyfriend than I could in a real life setting.

You're certainly right there, even with people I'm very close with - like my SO - I find that I'm frequently not looking into their eyes. I have been making a lot of effort to actually meet peoples gazes now though, especially hers.

I have had one relationship that was explicitly over the internet, although we had met several times in person before this happened. It didn't end well though, one day she deleted me on facebook and I haven't heard from her since. Through mutual connections I know she currently is dating some guy I have never heard of and has become a pretty meh person.

Whilst I see my current SO several times a week, some unfortunate happenings involving my family prevent us from ever acting like a couple outside of the internet for the time being. So I don't know if you can count that but it's going strong still and I'm hoping for her to be a permanent fixture in my life.

Honestly I think go for it people, be very careful since it is easy to pretend to be someone else on the internet but I think one of the best things about the internet is that it allows you to form various relationships with people you'll probably never meet in person.
 
I've done it twice although the second time I always forget was technically online because we met so quickly and multiple times and talked through text and facetimed a lot so I guess it seemed more real. I did end up meeting both people I dated.

umm I hate to be that person because I know there are some cases where people meet through websites and hit it off and they're together forever, but honestly that doesn't happen most of the time and overall I think online dating is a huge waste of time. I find this especially true if you've too young to even pay for the means of meeting.

The first time I dated online it was international and the only way we communicated was through messaging online/skype calls and idk it's just not how you should date someone. It's just not fulfilling to always have to be strapped to your computer to talk to someone and I think as time went on it made me more unhappy than happy and I really wish I stopped myself then.

I realize a lot of people on this site are dare I say shut ins so no one is really going to agree with me, but I've found a lot more happiness in real life interaction when it comes to romantic interests than I ever did online. This isn't to bash anyone who is in an online relationship/has had it work out for them, but I just hate to see other people make the same mistakes I did or feel as though they can't find anyone irl so settle for online.

- Also want to note I'm not talking about meeting people through sites designed for dating
 
I'm currently in an online relationship with someone from here. We were best friends for three years and our relationship turned 2 months just yesterday.

My previous relationship was half-physical and half-online, because on the final half, I had moved away. I was already used to the whole online thing but there were loads of trust issues at the time, whereas at the end it never worked out. Honestly I was scared in trying it out again, but I couldn't resist the feelings I had for him, and he couldnt either. xD So we went ahead and started it off. My main anxiety is meeting him irl, in which I am currently making early plans on doing so by the end of this year or so. I mean, I'm pretty nervous of the outcome, actually...but I do think everything will turn out okay xD
My god please!! I'd love to have an update on how things workout for you guys!! A lot of things can happen within such a long time frame and 2 months!!? Thats so great!! Thats a really long time for an online relationship haha. All the ones I've had were only a month or so. I've never meet someone I dated in real life so I'd be really interested to know how it all goes haha. Congradualtionsss ♥
 
I have not been in an online relationship before. I guess I am somewhat nervous regarding it. Course I also have autism, so it is indeed hard to look at someone in the face for a long time. Course my older sister has attempted to get me to attempt internet dating, but it has not worked out.
 
E-lationships? Ain't nobody got time for that! I woke up to go get me a cold pop. Then it-- no. Seriously though. Hell no. Maybe it's the site I frequent (not for much longer), but it seems the younger the generation, the more issues everyone has. Mental illness is way too common these days. The people who live in the real world are already damaged severely. Their shut-in/hikkikimori counterparts that live through computer screens are beyond repair. Let's be honest here. For some reason, I seem to attract the most unhealthy internet users. It's time for a simple maths equation.

Unhealthy people online + mentally-ill-people magnet + chat site where they all congregate on the regular + all humans these days having some kind of mental issue + anyone being who they want to online/guise of anonymity = recipe for disaster. I've had my fill of narcissists, thank you. Those of you involved in the Pokemon Trainer Academy RP will know what I'm talking about here. No, no, no. If you want to do that, at least do yourself the favour of making it clear to the person you intend to meet them someday and make it a physical, proper relationship instead of leaving it as an e-lationship.

I'm tired of the internet. It's a lovely tool, and I'll always regard it as such. When it comes to connections, however -- real connections with other people -- nothing beats real life. This from a misanthrope.

TL; DR: A major no-no on my end, but if you choose to do it, so be it. Godspeed.
 
I used to use IMVU and so I had a couple of relationships on there. Though it never stayed just on IMVU, we would usually become friends on there and then decide that we liked each other, would add each other on our actual facebooks, and then we would add each other and talk to each other on skype. So I kinda had cyber relationships but they all evolved into real long distance relationships. And then I had a cyber relationship with this one girl who lives in New York and when I went on vacation to that area I decided that we should meet and hang out. So I don't really know what I'm saying right now.

I have never been catfished, however I did catfish this one girl that I had been with in a cyber relationship for like 4 months. We hadn't skyped or anything but she used fake names, fake numbers, fake facebook, and then I finally figured some stuff out and realized it was all fake. Now I do know her on her actual facebook and we've skyped a good couple of times.
 
oh my gosh! I cant even imagine moving in with my girlfriend right now (or her with me). I've had about 4 as well I believe... How did/do you feel about moving in so soon?

I'm all right with it. I was really anxious it would be an expensive failure for a while, but it's continuing to go well now so I'm starting to relax.
 
Well, it depends. If all you're doing is chatting in a chatroom all day with them, I don't think that's enough for anyone to sustain a relationship with.

If you call each other, text each other, and video chat with each other, than I can see how that would work, but even then...it leaves something to be desired.

I've been in about three myself, but...only one actually broke my heart. The others were expendable (as I look back at it now). After being in some real-life ones, I realized that a person behind a computer can't make you feel the same way. You need to hold/be held. Kiss/be kissed. It's not just as simple as putting a description of something in an asterisk. That being said, I can't say I agree with them. Sure, there's the whole "online safety" thing, but the longing for something more personal or intimate will eventually grasp hold of you and you'll spiral downward.
 
I don't plan to have romance that's solely based on a computer screen. To be with someone in the flesh makes it so much more meaningful.
 
If we could all find our true love living around the corner, then I think we'd all be a lot happier.
Online is just another way to meet people, and there's a much wider selection than whichever backwater town you happen to live in. I don't think anyone has the plan of keeping the relationship long distance forever, so not sure why people act as if that's the general idea...

You have more obstacles to overcome obviously; once you can manage to make arrangements so you are living near to each other then that's it, you got yourself an actually real irl relationship!!!
 
The internet is a great, easy tool to meet people. But relationships need to transcend past the computer screen. You may mesh on the internet, but things could be very different when you're together in person. And if you're in a relationship with someone on the internet, you're going to have to come face to face at some point. I'm going to find that out for myself next week, since I'm meeting someone I was in a relationship with online a few years ago, whose single once again, and we want to see what'll happen when we finally do come face to face. Crossing my fingers things turn out the way I want them to, because I do indeed love her and want to be with her! But if we aren't compatible offline, then I'll know to move on.
 
Well, while I was away, I still got to interact with some of them quite a bit! One of them is also a good RP buddy of mine and introduced me to Dreamwidth RP, so we still chatted a lot via a lesser known social media site people on Dreamwidth were using, and we got to RP with each other. As for another person, they're active on another forum I'm also active on, so we got to interact plenty there. I think I have both on Skype as well, but I've only interacted with one of them in a group chat. When I meant "lately" I meant within a span of a few months; I've been away from PC for ~two years. As for why we haven't chatted recently, I haven't had much RP muse so I've been away from the aforementioned social media site; don't really have a reason for why I haven't chatted with the other person, though like I said we do still speak to each other in a group chat.

Phone-wise, I never thought about exchanging numbers, but I have trouble talking on the phone, and I've never had texting privileges. (I can text/receive texts, but it costs extra to do so, and my parents--who are paying for my phone services--just can't afford it.) Thus, even if we did exchange numbers I probably would have a hard time calling them or speaking with them if they called me, haha.



I personally find it a lot easier because you're not initially judged by how you look or by body language (e.g., I have trouble making eye contact, let alone keeping it, so I tend to look around me a lot), but by the content of your posts, messages, etc. Additionally, I find it a lot easier to speak my mind. In real life, I'm not always the quickest thinker, so I find I often have trouble coming up with what I want to say on the spot. Online, I can usually take as much time as I need to organize and eloquently word my thoughts, and I can see how I worded them and adjust said wording at any given time.

I agree, at times I wish I had enough time to edit my thoughts, and construct my sentences as I can on the Net. I'm guilty of judging someone by their appearance, but I try so hard not to do so. It's probably one of my biggest flaws I feel like. My mind always seems to segregate people by groups, and picks people that look friendliest and appealing for me to start conversation with. Eye contact is over rated. I have the same problem sometimes- then again I'm just passive in general, but I've always spoke my mind regardless of what kind of criticisms I'll have to deal with. Kind of hard headed me, and causes all kinds of things to go down.

I'm pretty blessed to have a smartphone that my grandparents are paying for, and I bet not having that texting luxury can be really difficult. I try not to text my friends more than I actually call them. I feel the blank straight cold read of text messages can be harsh or easily miss interpreted. So I've never really been all that shy (other than the time I moved back to Norway, and didn't know any Norwegian. Or the time I moved to the US and didn't know any english haha) What grade are you in btw? (if you're in college whats your major?) Your intelligence and the level of which you know yourself is baffling me.
 
I never had one aaaaaand I don't think I ever will. I don't really know the person irl, might be a girl whose actually is a boy and etc. hidding your gender, y'know. and like someone said, parents might not approve so no. ;P
 
Hm, well, I've told myself numerous times that I wouldn't be interested in online relationships, and I still stand by that decision, but there's someone who I recently met few weeks ago that's making it extremely hard. But yeah, the only relationship thus far that I've been in has been with my ex during high school. In terms of an actual relationship online, haven't had one. We're just fooling around at this point :P
 
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