Why aren't you open to the possibility that she just simply doesn't respond to things in a sexual manner? You can be aware that you don't respond to things, but it doesn't make it a choice.
Being straight, I don't wake up every day and think about my choice not to have sex with men or whatever. Men, as sexual objects, aren't really a conscious part of my psyche. If I'm pushed to say no, then I'll say no - but I think calling it a choice really misses the idea that it isn't something I think about. We're (KittenKoder and I) describing life as we live it. If pushed to do so, then yes, I suppose I will make a conscious choice every chance I get. But that's not the world as I see it, that would be someone else pushing me to see the world as they see it and interpreting my action as something that makes sense to them. I call something disinterest, you call it ignorance. You say "had I recognized them" but the fact of the matter is I didn't and I guess I still don't. And I think it's important to recognize that, because that is a dimension of sexuality and romance as well.
I think you're imposing the way you view the world on other people's experiences. I don't think KittenKoder's opinion, no, experience is mistaken at all - I find it to be quite genuine. I don't think we should discount somebody else's perspective just because it's different and doesn't fit our way of thinking.
Being straight, I don't wake up every day and think about my choice not to have sex with men or whatever. Men, as sexual objects, aren't really a conscious part of my psyche. If I'm pushed to say no, then I'll say no - but I think calling it a choice really misses the idea that it isn't something I think about. We're (KittenKoder and I) describing life as we live it. If pushed to do so, then yes, I suppose I will make a conscious choice every chance I get. But that's not the world as I see it, that would be someone else pushing me to see the world as they see it and interpreting my action as something that makes sense to them. I call something disinterest, you call it ignorance. You say "had I recognized them" but the fact of the matter is I didn't and I guess I still don't. And I think it's important to recognize that, because that is a dimension of sexuality and romance as well.
I think you're imposing the way you view the world on other people's experiences. I don't think KittenKoder's opinion, no, experience is mistaken at all - I find it to be quite genuine. I don't think we should discount somebody else's perspective just because it's different and doesn't fit our way of thinking.