Do you have any cool coming out stories?

I am not out irl yet and I am not sure when/if I will be. I'm starting to warm up to the idea of being an open GAY but living in the south makes it harder. What about you guys though, are you out? If so, how did it go?

I haven't come out to anyone IRL, and I doubt I ever will. Unfortunately, my family isn't as accepting as some others, and I think my best option would be to keep my sexuality under wraps for now. Like you said, being anything other than a god fearing cishet male in the south is a big nono.

Came out to my my mother and step father as a lesbian a few years back and now he'll occasionally make jokes about fucking me to make me strait.

nephew

When I came out to my mom, she was making me a grilled cheese sandwich and we had just finalized our plans to take a vacation to England. The night before, my then-girlfriend (online) asked me out and since she lived in London, I knew I'd want to see her and wanted to be upfront about that to mom if she was paying for our family vacation there. So I told her and she was like "honey that's wonderful! how crisp do u want your grilled cheese to be" LOL. Then when she finished cooking she asked for pics. :P Then she made me come out to my dad even though I didn't see the point yet sooo I did and he didn't really care but shortly after he texted me like "well this explains why you never got together with [male friend]!" (Male friend, I should add, is gay.) I'm bi and I think both my parents think I'm gay, so I guess they might be surprised if I ever get a boyfriend but whatevs. It went well!

Apparently mom told our extended family that I had a girlfriend and about meeting her when we went on that trip and I didn't realize it until like last year so last time I went to a wedding for that side of the fam, everyone was asking me all these leading questions like "SOOOOO HOW'S LIFE? ANYTHING INTERESTING HAPPENING ;) ;)" and I was like "nope still in school" and they'd walk away in disappointment after needling me a bit, figuring I didn't wanna talk about being lgbt+ or whatever but, like, I legitimately did not realize why they were asking LOL. It was only later that I look back on it like "ohhhhh they wanted me to be open about being the token gay cousin". They live in a more rural area of Canada and I think some of them are fairly conservative but I have no reason to believe they aren't 100% supportive and accepting. :)

I'm really fortunate that my family has been great about it. Being bi has never felt like a big deal to me so I never said anything about it to them until suddenly it felt like I had to, and even though I knew they'd be fine with it I was still really nervous. I completely sympathize with people who were not as lucky to have a family who was open about it and I love you all. ;_; I'm glad PC can be a place where people can be open about this kind of thing even if they aren't able to be IRL.

Oh, jeepers. I tried to come out to my mom when I was 12/13, and she insisted I was too young to know what I was talking about. It wasn't until they found pornographic material of the homosexual variety on my computer when I was 17 that we discussed it further. At the time, I had my first boyfriend, so...for me, it was the perfect opportunity to mention to them I now had a boyfriend!

I actually tried coming out to my good friends IRL when I was 13. One of them wound up telling a guy I thought he was cute, and suddenly everyone made fun of me for being gay. I will never forgive her for outing me before I was ready. I didn't officially come out to my friends IRL until I was in high school. It was fun.

My closest friend at the time actually had a crush on me at the time, and thought I was asking initially asking her out. She stopped talking to me for the rest of the year. [It was our senior year of HS]. She exploded one afternoon in Spanish class and told me she could not believe I would be so selfish, and told me she was praying for me to turn back.

A few others had a come-to-Jesus meeting with me, and presented a paper with several Bible verses admonishing homosexuality.

They eventually got over it.

TBH, though, coming out is a nonstop process. As long as people assume being straight is the default, we will have to continue coming out. These days it's as simple as my boyfriend and I being in public together, getting dirty looks, etc.

And people wanna know why pride is so important. LMAO.

Unfortunately no, I only became bi when I met my (ex) bf, and surprisingly everyone was cool with it so [shrug emote thing]

The people I've come out to I didn't really come OUT to I just kind of was like "ahaha yeah me gay" casually and that was that. The only people irl that know are like. My partner, sister, and one friend. I don't exactly try to hide it all that well though like. My twitter has my pronouns and sexuality listed and I subtly changed my interests on Facebook to women and men. If I ever did have to actually come OUT come out, like. idk. I'd probably just show up with a partner of the same sex and listen to my mom make that weird noise she makes when she's uncomfortable then do that creepy smile. I don't like a lot of attention on me. I don't want to have to come out and I mean in my current relationship, I don't really have to, but at the same time, it feels like I'm just not being truthful.

Oh gosh, well... I mean, I'm still coming out to people. It's difficult because it's usually just one person at a time, but also it's easy because I can casually mention my girlfriend in convos with people. Cause that's a normal thing to mention, really, so I just "My girlfriend this", "My girlfriend that", and over time people usually either smile a nod and we keep talking, or they suddenly get even more friendly - because I've found that some people have that reaction to meeting gay people. Their face lights up like YAY, and it's always funny to me, because a lot of the people that give that reaction are straight, and I previously thought maybe they wouldn't approve. lol

Out of the people I work around I've had positive responses. Heck, one of them, back when I was still dating my ex (who's a guy), even said "Boyfriend?? I thought you were gay", and I had never mentioned it to her before.

I'm bi, granted, but I call myself gay because I heavily lean towards that.

Before I was with her it was a little more difficult, and there wasn't really a way (or a reason) to flat out tell people unless guys hit on me to the extent where I had to spell it out for them. For some people, I think being gay isn't a huge part of their identity, but it is for mine, because I generally seem more guyish and the way that I speak isn't very feminine. I don't fit the gender stereotypes for a girl. I feel like people find that a little weird, until for some reason they find out I like girls, and they're like "oh, that explains it". lol I also lean towards being trans, and I was out for that with some close friends and my mom, until I sorta steered away from it for a few reasons.

Over all, I'm tons more comfortable telling people now, but it took me right up until the last years to really start coming out. I do envy people who were brave enough to do it in their teens!

Uh, nothing too interesting here, it's mostly just me finding an awkward way to do it without having to actually say it out loud. Sometimes I'll kinda just do it out of nowhere and people will be like "oh, ok"
Sometimes people actually forget I told them, or I hint it really really strongly and they just don't pick up on it, that's annoying :p

I think I came out to my friends back when one of the friends said "Hey Lemon has a wife in [another country]" during lunch at school. The truth is that the person I had feelings for was just a friend and the friend outing me jumped into conclusions. While it felt awkward for a while, I didn't really mind it that much and I'm glad the friends who heard it were understanding.

I haven't come out to family members yet and I don't really feel like doing it anytime soon. :disbelief:

Peridot said:

TBH, though, coming out is a nonstop process. As long as people assume being straight is the default, we will have to continue coming out. These days it's as simple as my boyfriend and I being in public together, getting dirty looks, etc.

And people wanna know why pride is so important. LMAO.

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I'd honestly never considered that coming out is an ongoing process, and it really drives home the importance of pride parade and celebration of homosexuality. I hope it's not too hard for you even after all of these years.

i don't know if coming "out" as nonbinary/trans counts, but i'm not really...out irl. i am to a few people, like my mom, dad, sisters, and my boyfriend. and i am also open about it on my family facebook but no one really asks questions or makes a real attempt besides my mom, dad, and my boyfriend.

i'm also very open about it on my other personal fb and everyone for the most part is very respectful about it there but. yeah. too scared to be open about it irl and correct wrong pronouns and stuff because i'm a coward and don't want people to ask questions. my boyfriend does use ''they/their'' pronouns for me irl though which i appreciate immensely.

It was super undramatic actually, I was discussing a crush with a friend and they kept asking me if the guy was cute etc. and I politely corrected them, saying that they were a girl (she is cute though). There was a moment of silence and then they went OH WHAT THE but they were supportive that I was bi, just shook. This was over text so I don't know what their reaction was actually like but we're cool about it. I also offhandedly mentioned it to a few friends when the topic of sexuality came up in a conversation once, it wasn't a huge reaction just like a 'wait what' out of surprise and then acceptance and support. :D

Ahh the first person I told is one of my closest friends. Was meant to tell him when we met up in the morning but chickened out and then I went to class. It kept eating at me all day so I asked if he was free that afternoon after class and he was so I met up with him.

A lot of pauses during the conversation and I eventually came out to him ("I'm not exactly straight" were my words, I think) and omg he started crying and I was like omg I'm meant to cry not you but he was crying because he was honoured that I told him first and that I felt we were such good friends and that he was proud and aaaaa my heart

Still one of my closest friends/biggest supporters, that one is probably my favourite coming out story.

Also +1 to what Erik said that coming out is an ongoing process. It's been 3+ years since I first told him, 1.5 years since I came out to family, a bit over a year since I "officially" publicly came out with a killer of a facebook photo, and even now there's still the constant question of "ok when should I bring this up" or "hmm will this new friend not approve of who I am".

I was extreeeemely visible at this time last year when Australia was having its vote on whether marriage equality should be made equal. Thought it was important that I made my voice heard for those who weren't ready to have theirs heard, and to do whatever I could to fight for our rights. Had one high school acquaintance who messaged me saying that she was closeted and had just been seeing negativity and "vote against marriage equality" posts on her feed because of religious friends etc and she felts scared and alone, but seeing my visibility brought her joy that one day she could be visible too. Really drove home how visibility matters so much (when you're ready to be visible of course!) - when I was a teenager I looked up to those people who were brave enough to be out, and even though society has changed rapidly for the most part, you never know who looks up to you for your visibility now.

Not me, but a friend of mine since Middle School came out as Bi on her Facebook on the first day of Pride Month to a majority approval.

I duno, i've been pretty fearless in general about stating I like girls since learning I was bi (especially after getting into korrina).

If people are going to ditch me for being in love, I don't need them. Maybe some other people can't help having some people in their lives, though...

I'm sick of living in a world that praises people for being 'negative', anyways. I went through too much of that cr*p over girlyness. Being in love is probably even more a good thing than girlyness is. And, yes, I don't see how being girly is 'evil'. At all. To me, it seems like the polar opposite of evil, to love things that are cute, bright, PRETTY, happy......*coughcough*

(i admit; i'm used to my 'social circle' irl being mostly my mom, me, my brother, and my dog xD although, thankfully, i never really meet homophobes around here. cept.....maybe this one cab driver we got yesterday o_o;;; i wooonnnndered about her.....*even had a meltdown over her seeming 'b*tchy' in a convinience store xD*)

Yeah, my own story right there. I'd read others, but.... :( I can get very scared reading stuff about homosexuals being mistreated. It only makes me hate people when I read stuff like that and hate towards others is something I try to avoid feeling AT ALL COSTS. KH13 members being one of very few exceptions.....

So I first figured out I wasn't straight when I accidentally fell in love with my best friend in 8th grade. Ever since then I've always been open about it with myself, to close friends, in intimate relationships, and online.

However, it was only about six months ago that I actually 'came out' to the family. Now, from their perspective, I've only ever brought boys home as a significant other because I wasn't ready to have that conversation yet even though I had long since made my peace with myself. But when I finally did, my dad and his girlfriend were both super supportive and receptive to the news. My dad's girlfriend actually identified as a staunch lesbian up until she met my father, so she totally understood where I was coming from and that you just don't always have control over who you fall for. My dad just reinforced that as long as I'm happy, he's happy.

My uncle on the other hand.. lmao. He's the only other openly gay person in the family. So when I finally told him that I was attracted to women he looked at me and said:



"girl I've known for a long time".

why do u need to "come out" when it's only normal

my hair is blonde ... I JUST CAME OUT THAT MY HAIR IS BLONDEEEEEE

"coming out" is such a harsh term, its like u did something wrong and now have to CONFESS ... i cant stand that, really it breaks my heart a little reading those posts in this thread

so i never come out, but when being asked i can tell that my most enjoyable sexual experiences were with transsexual ppl... and nobody cares, at least where i live (Europe), i hope it stays that way, if not i just move to a country where i can live normally

Lemongrass1234 said:

why do u need to "come out" when it's only normal

my hair is blonde ... I JUST CAME OUT THAT MY HAIR IS BLONDEEEEEE

"coming out" is such a harsh term, its like u did something wrong and now have to CONFESS ... i cant stand that, really it breaks my heart a little reading those posts in this thread

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It is a bit of a harsh term, but it is a harsh reality that a lot of us have to face on a daily basis. It'd be nice if we didn't HAVE to come out, and it SHOULD be considered normal...but that's just not the way of the world.