Okay, well, I wanted to add a lot of this in my original post, but cut it out because it was really long winded already and I was anticipating someone to be ugly about all of it
I kind of want to go into pregnancy for a sec. Contrary to what TV and movies will have you believe, a lot of women find out they're pregnant super early on. Most of the time you'll find out you're pregnant with a home test. You'll call up your OBGYN, and they'll tell you that unless you're having signs of miscarriage like bleeding or horrible pain or symptoms that inhibit your life and you can't function, your first check up will be in a month. Once you do go in, and tell you everything is okay, they'll still say this: "Wait until the first trimester is over before you tell anyone."
Miscarriages are far more common then anyone thinks and this is why they tell you to wait. You don't typically tell everyone you have a miscarriage because its emotionally devastating and hard and physical and it isn't just one of those things you share. But during the first 12 weeks, which is when abortions occur, the embryo is obviously unable to survive outside it's mother. Abortions happening in the first 9 weeks are no different then taking The Morning After Pill. There's nothing different accept you get some pain medication to go along with it. The result is absolutely no different then a really bad period. These are the most common by a long shot. A really long shot, and I've yet to see anyone argue The Morning After Pill in any of these threads. What they do give you to induce it all is the same medication they prescribe for some stomach ulcers. There is also a process for getting the medication, which includes a psych evaluation, and if your situation is bad enough, you can be assigned a social worker to help you get out of it,. They will give you access to a year's worth of The Pill even if your personal doctor won't prescribe it as well. I also want to point out that while it isn't cheap, there are financial options typically provided for those who can't afford it and that it is affordable. Clinics don't offer the option to abort past 12 weeks into the second trimester, at this point it's illegal unless fetus is dead, failing to thrive or is detrimental to the life of the mother, but if any of those are going on, the abortion has at that point been conceited by a doctor and isn't because the mother has noped out on the pregnancy.
Here in the US, doing that is illegal, so I also want to make a huge bullet point here for anyone who does the argument for if a child is going to be born disabled it's OK to abort. Physical abnormalities are typically seen much later in pregnancy and the option isn't there unless it's posing a threat to the mother's life. But depending on the Doctor, the option to terminate a pregnancy, even if it kills you won't always be there.
I also want to stress that just because contraceptions are out there and you aren't being raped, they aren't always an option. Like I said, if you are in an abusive relationship, you probably won't have the option. While I don't want to digress too much, people don't always recognize rape or sexual assault when it happens. Manipulation and conditioning come into the equation a lot in these situations as does normalization of violence. What I recognize now as abuse was just Tuesday afternoon when I was 20. Mental illness and undiagnosed mineral illness of the mother would also be taken into account as the hormones and body changes of pregnancy and birth can effect these easily.
So while yes, you do technically have access to contraceptions, they aren't always technically an option. This is why I urge everyone to not look at the situation in such a black in white since as "oh I was too dumb to use a condom". There are no shortages of unplanned pregnancies that happen and make it to term, more often then not people just go through with it when this happens.
My personal belief is that everyone is entitled to their opinion, but I'm not really inclined to share my own when it comes to these more serious topics, which is why I stay out of this section for the most part. Society has a scientific approach to sex and gender and sexuality at this point, at least more progressive in the past decade or so, and I really hope that in the future people can take that same mindset to procreation as well. I'm not trying to sway anyone's opinion as much as I am trying to inform here, as it's a subject I see a large amount of people getting super passionate about when they really just have no idea what they're talking about. Most people's common knowledge of this subject is so outdated by like, 30 years. I know I'm not more then a year or two older then a lot of you guys, but I just want you to know, the whole subject isn't really what you think it is, and that's because people have made it such an ugly and dirty thing to even consider, much less talk about and discuss as adults. The gray area in regards to this is extensive, there's no right or wrong to it, but I encourage everyone to treat it as such. It's a complex issue, please don't oversimplify it, regardless of your moral stance.
