Are you afraid to speak your opinions on people?

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    Your honest opinions, I mean. Are you afraid to share them with the person if it isn't exactly a positive opinion, or do you not have a single problem being honest and upfront about your take on them?
     
    It's been a huge problem for me, and it's a personal fear of mine. But today I felt like I can actually give my personal opinions out without having to be afraid of creating such controversy. (This is irl, not online. Giving out my opinions online is a fear that I canNOT get over)
     
    My beliefs are my beliefs, and that being said, I'm sticking to them! There is very little that can get me to change my mind, especially about sensitive subjects. I don't feel obligated to go around ramming them down peoples throats, but I'm not adverse to stating them and defending them. I am not ashamed of any of my opinions or beliefs--if I were, then I would not believe in such, for it could not be anything too great if I was not proud enough to believe it publicly. When it comes to political opinions especially, I really don't let up. My philosophies, however, tend to generate little opposition as they take the loose form of a "do what ye want so long as ye harm no others" type of deal. I strongly believe that people are allowed to believe whatever they want, and for this purpose, I regard the concept of an opinion highly. Everyone can have one and deserves this right, but very few people actually have an opinion of any sort of relevance. It is quite a conundrum, aha.

    Now, if it is a less serious situation, I might not be so inclined to hold my ground. For instance, if my friend asked the lamest cliche ever of "Does this dress make me look fat?" I might tell her no, even if I really think that it does. Simply because while I am honest person, I don't believe that such really matters. While the dress might make her appear wider, it certainly wouldn't actually MAKE her wider, and it definitely doesn't detract from her appearance in any real regard, so such a matter would be better to just drive into the ground right then and there. In this case, no one is hurt, and the complications that would arise from sharing my true opinion would just not be worth it when the situation could just be avoided entirely. Again though, as I have said, I have pretty relaxed opinions. I'm a very liberal person who enjoys finding the meaning and value in everything, so my opinions are not going to be obscenely offensive or harsh, except to those on the complete opposite end of the political spectrum.
     
    I only reveal some of my more personal opinions to family members and friends I'm comfortable with and have trust in me.
     
    Nope. I can be very vocal of my opinion and, as long as it is for the greater good, I will tell someone whether they like it or not.​
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    I think we all know my answer to this, lol. I'm always upfront about all of my opinions, whether they be negative or not. If I have something to say it, then provided it doesn't put anyone at danger/risk destroying the friendship of other people, then I'm going to bloody well say it if I want to. Particularly in regards to other people - if the question is relevant, then I will say my opinion of that person, or drag them in. If you've annoyed me recently, I'll drag your ass through the mud.
    Naturally I care about what others think of me and whatever, but not to the point where it's going to inhibit my capability to say what is on my mind. It is a problem in some cases, but I find that in most cases my complete honesty is well appreciated.
     
    Well, sometimes being too honest with opinions can get me into trouble, so let's just say I'm a person with restricted opinions.
     
    I'm genuinely pretty cool about sharing my opinions, although probably more confident about sharing them online than in real life (although I can offend people online, I doubt I actually have it in me to offend someone online enough to track me down and kill me, people I know on the other hand, I have to see again).
     
    I like being honest, but I can be afraid to speak my mind sometimes. I don't usually think negatively of people though, so maybe this doesn't really apply to me. I consider most people in the world to be ****ed up in their own way with their own history, so I view every social interaction and perception through that lens. I like to have equal parts honesty and compassion.
     
    I don't see keeping some of my thoughts and opinions to myself as dishonest or as a sign that I'm afraid to say them. I just think of the consequences of speaking and that really is what factors into it. If a lot of people annoy me, what's the point of telling them all that? But if a lot of people are super then telling them that is great. It's just better to say the positive things most of the time.
     
    Forgot to add: I find it much safer to express my full opinions to boys than to girls. I tend to have more of an idea of what sort of reaction to expect from guys - you say one slightly controversial thing a girl laughs, the other they flip out :S
     
    I keep how I feel to myself. I don't even share my feelings/opinions even with my closest person, my sister. I know this is bad for me, tho, but I can't help it.
     
    No,i like to be honest but actually i never tell untill i'm asked...hey,arrow,what do you think about me?? arrow replies and says...

    it hardly goes for me as..you know what you are ... and .... and ... thank you very much i'm leaving...i'm the kind of person who liked to be asked either that or silence ...no wonder i'm not social lol
     
    I don't like saying negative things about others and avoid it as often as I can. I guess it is in much because I am terrified that they would say bad things about me in return. On the occasions I have spoken up about someone's bad behavior or something like that (irl) I have always felt bad afterwards and most often apologized even before I've gotten my point through. This, I have been told that others have observed from me :x And when I've spoken up about some negative opinions on people on PC (except from when I handled rule breakers as a mod of course, then you had a different kind of authority), I have always been met by people getting sad or angry and I can't really handle that online since I can't hear or see them for real and can't really try to understand them in an as good way as in real life.

    tl;dr - Yes, I have a problem with it an usually prefer to keep opinions on others to myself to avoid unpleasant quarrel or people getting disappointed in me.

    That's that.
     
    I never understood why people found it hard to tell others their opinion. 'What do you think of my shirt?' 'I think it's ugly.' Not hard. No one should take it as an insult, just as the persons observation- especially if they asked for it.
    If someone's annoying me, I might try to keep it to myself if it's not a big deal and not something that's offending me. But once someone actually pisses me off I'll tell them to back off.
     
    Most of the time, I would keep it to myself, but if I am very close to the person, or I find that my opinions can benefit the person, I will just tell him/her. As expected, this moments are just a hit and miss, sometimes my opinions can fail me because the person doesn't really agree that he or she is like that. But if the person agrees with it, I am happy for him/her because he/her can become a better person and improve for the better But I am just a honest person like that and will just continue saying it, because most of the time, I feel that my opinions can help the person to become a better person.

    I am also quite open to people's opinion sometimes, because most of the time, I don't really take it to heart and just try to improve myself from their opinions.
     
    I'd rather not invite the indignation of others; criticising people only riles them, in my experience.
     
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