Common misconceptions that people have about you?

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    I saw this question in an interview and thought it'd be interesting to share with PC! So as the thread title asks: what are some of the common misconceptions people have about you? :')
     
    When I get to know someone one on one they do know I'm a nice, kind, respectable, caring, polite and a loving gal. However don't think I'm easy to manipulate, use or toy with in the mind just because I'm like that. I know how to speak up for myself and I also speak my mind when need be and I'mnot afraid to either. You either like that or you don't from me.
     
    It's always interesting when someone points out "oh your left handed"? It's just such a part of me that I forget most people write right handed. And that it's different enough to be pointed out.
     
    Oh boy, here we go...

    - That I'm male/female. Most commonly online it's female for some reason...I've never been sure as to why that is. I suppose it's still natural for people to assume you're one or the other, but as someone who doesn't apply gender identity to themselves, it's something I find...a little aggravating, sometimes. When people refer to me using gender pronouns when I'm right there and don't bother to ask me. If you're going to talk about me when I'm not around, fair enough I suppose...I suppose. But when I'm in the same space and you know I am there and reading everything you say? That's just rude.
    - That I'm presenting either an argument or my opinion as fact, when I'm just expressing myself. For some reason it's *always* me that people target here; just because I am opinionated and a little more eloquent/long-winded (delete as appropriate) than most doesn't mean I am implying that I am absolutely 100% right. I have always been extremely careful to never talk down to people, or belittle them, or otherwise imply this, and people STILL call me out for it! I'm not accepting responsibility for this, because I can't influence what people think, but it's a VERY common misconception that I take my opinions so seriously that I believe they're facts. Which isn't true. I just don't particularly care if people agree with me or not.
    - That having two or three conversations with me - or even many over a period of several months - means I consider them a friend. I...don't. I'm sorry, but I don't. Friendship as a concept doesn't really mean much to me, and it makes me uncomfortable when people assume that we have some kind of personal connection beyond a casual acquaintanceship. Maybe that's a game of semantics, but that's all words really are, and context is important.
    - That I dislike something just because everyone else likes it...sigh. No, if you'd bother to ask me why I dislike it, you'd find out why I dislike it. You just want to paint me as some kind of contrarian to satisfy your own image of me and somehow devalue my opinion. This one happens a lot too...especially when I tell people I don't like Breath of the Wild.
    - That they know what I'm thinking or feeling based on what I say or don't say...no, you really don't. The only person who can accurately read me is my partner. I'm not annoyed or frustrated because I'm using shorter sentences, I'm not being negative just because I'm not all sunshine and rainbows all the time, engaging in something doesn't mean I care, and I'm certainly not super invested in something just because I took the time to write a lot about it.
     
    When someone who doesn't know me looks at me, they are almost certain to believe I'm like 5 to 10 years younger than I am. And when I talk to someone on the phone, I get addressed as "madam".
     
    ^ Hah same here, people always mistake me to be a lot younger in-person! I got shown bikes I could grow into when I went to the store... at this rate I think I'll still be getting ID'D at 30...

    Answering my own thread, I feel like the opposite misconception is that people online always used to mistake me being much older than I was. I think when I was 12, people would misinterpret me to be 18 or even 21 and older... I have no idea why but I think it's a nice misconception to have? These days it's not a misconception anymore as my typing style reflects my actual age but it was the biggest one I used to have!

    I think the other big misconception is that people don't realise how well I can seperate the emotions I am feeling vs. the ones I present externally. I try to avoid vocalising or showing any negative emotion whether that be sadness or anger and it can come off that I don't experience these emotions at all, if rarely. I absolutely do. But I have become so used to just seperating these emotions from my interactions with people that it still feels difficult or wrong to talk about them at times. It was at the point where when I opened up about having severe depression in HS that people had no idea because I just never expressed it and chose to remain upbeat/cheerful on the surface. It's something I am working on balancing! Same with emotions like stress/anxiety, I think it is noticeable if you know what to look for but a lot of people misinterpret me as being a very relaxed person.

    Last misconception would definitely be about how social/confident I am. I think online its much easier for me to be outgoing or to strike up conversation when in reality I am an extremely reserved person at first. I love meeting and talking to new people but I think I just have trouble with the first few conversations before you become comfortable friends with someone. Even with friends now I can be really reserved such as when there are group calls or when we're hanging out.. I have no idea why as I genuinely do love the time around my friends more than anything. But yeah I can also get a bit overwhelmed with conversations at times - I am interested in replying online but sometimes I might disappear off the grid and its nothing personal, I probably just need a break or time to come back to what you've said. And if I didn't end up replying people are always welcome to reach out to me again!!
     
    i feel like some people might think i'm mean but i think it's just how i come across online or even irl sometimes (i can sometimes be p stiff esp at work) but the truth is i'm like an animal i'm more scared of you than you are of me so please don't hurt me
     
    People think I'm this tough person who doesn't take anyone's crap, I can stand up for myself when I need to, but in reality I'm the softest, most loyal person you could ever meet. If you are a friend of mine, then you got a friend for life who will always support you and cheer you on. Sadly though people have taken advantage of that so I find it hard to trust people now and truthfully I find it hard to make friends nowadays haha
     
    People tend to look at me and think I'm terrified and I want to go home. They're right!

    But mostly, because of the tattoos and piercings and all that, I think I come across as a lot more rough than I really am. Reality is I'm cynical and anxious but hyper empathetic! I'm much more likely to hug you than stab you, haha. I guess it depends though because I'm not above being a sassy bitch either, sooo..
     
    there have been claims (unsubstantiated of course) that i am actually a duck. this is patently false and i have said as much every single time the issue has been raised. ducks cannot use keyboards

    but also i worry that i come across as mean sometimes especially on discord… and sometimes i am… but also i have a hard time interacting w people i don't know very well. i'm v antisocial both offline and on
     
    Flowerchild said:
    there have been claims (unsubstantiated of course) that i am actually a duck. this is patently false and i have said as much every single time the issue has been raised. ducks cannot use keyboards
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    you're right, you're not a duck

    you're a genetically engineered super cyborg duck, how else could you use keyboards and speak our language(s)
     
    i dunno people might think i'm social in real life like i am in these forums? just wanna let y'all know that i speak an average of 20 words a day to other people in real life.
     
    If anyone assumes I'm a Shinx in real life... they'd be correct!

    On a more serious not, I think people misconceive my positivity/happy demeanour as being fake? Or that my positive words are just hollow? And that because of my happiness/good fortune I can't empathise with a terrible situation. Which bothers me a bit. I'm genuinely cheerful, and it's because I enjoy even the smallest good things in life! And sharing that makes me even happier, so it's constantly flowing. I've experienced some... highly traumatic times... many of which I continue to cope with on a regular basis. So I just hope nobody shrugs me off as being privileged and that's why I'm happy-go-lucky/seemingly naïve of the negative parts of life (I am so underprivileged it's kinda laughable). I understand what it is to go through hardship, yet I know how to be happy in spite of that.

    Another thing (more so in real life), people will quickly dismiss me as slow-witted and dull because I'm quiet, antisocial and go my own way - I don't follow fads or anything. When I'm on my own or with my sister I'm a complete clown, a bundle of talkative energy, and I'll do crazy things - it just takes me being completely at ease around somebody to show the best side of me!

    Oh! And many people assume I'm a prude, which I think is due to me being demisexual... I have to explain myself a lot on that one! @_@
     
    From reconnecting with people I knew in uni, the general assumption was that I didn't like them. I was super quiet and shy back then, still am for the most part but not nearly as much now, and they assumed that I didn't like them because I wouldn't initiate the conversation or come and say hi. I was just too shy to do so 😅
     
    Fairy said:
    People tend to look at me and think I'm terrified and I want to go home. They're right!

    But mostly, because of the tattoos and piercings and all that, I think I come across as a lot more rough than I really am. Reality is I'm cynical and anxious but hyper empathetic! I'm much more likely to hug you than stab you, haha. I guess it depends though because I'm not above being a sassy rattata either, sooo..
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    I plan to get my possible pricings and for sure tattoos myself down the line sometime soon hopefully one of the two this year. I bet then I really get stared at more by people. Still today I'm either judged on how I look race wise since I'm 7 ethentices or people possibly thinking I'm interesting and unquic looking. ( More or less I got picked on from my looks racist wise half my life. ) I'll soon be a gal with tattoos, some piercings possibly and my shaved head of course , yeah I'd be very interested to look at more.

    Hyzenthlay said:
    If anyone assumes I'm a Shinx in real life... they'd be correct!

    On a more serious not, I think people misconceive my positivity/happy demeanour as being fake? Or that my positive words are just hollow? And that because of my happiness/good fortune I can't empathise with a terrible situation. Which bothers me a bit. I'm genuinely cheerful, and it's because I enjoy even the smallest good things in life! And sharing that makes me even happier, so it's constantly flowing. I've experienced some... highly traumatic times... many of which I continue to cope with on a regular basis. So I just hope nobody shrugs me off as being privileged and that's why I'm happy-go-lucky/seemingly naïve of the negative parts of life (I am so underprivileged it's kinda laughable). I understand what it is to go through hardship, yet I know how to be happy in spite of that.

    Another thing (more so in real life), people will quickly dismiss me as slow-witted and dull because I'm quiet, antisocial and go my own way - I don't follow fads or anything. When I'm on my own or with my sister I'm a complete clown, a bundle of talkative energy, and I'll do crazy things - it just takes me being completely at ease around somebody to show the best side of me!

    Oh! And many people assume I'm a prude, which I think is due to me being demisexual... I have to explain myself a lot on that one! @_@
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    I'm just my true authentic self all the time in real life same as online. I don't follow what society says we should be nor follow societies rules. I strongly dislike being labeled and cattorgized by society, Just do you and be what you want.
     
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    Leaf said:
    I plan to get my possible pricings and for sure tattoos myself down the line sometime soon hopefully one of the two this year. I bet then I really get stared at more by people. Still today I'm either judged on how I look race wise since I'm 7 ethentices or people possibly thinking I'm interesting and unquic looking. ( More or less I got picked on from my looks racist wise half my life. ) I'll soon be a gal with tattoos, some piercings possibly and my shaved head of course , yeah I'd be very interested to look at more.
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    Oh definitely do the shaved head, I highly recommend it! I'm currently about a year into growing my undercut out and I can't wait to do it again!

    But it definitely does leave an impression on people.. and it's not always a good one. Can't pretend like it doesn't bother me cause I see the stares and awkward looks and sucks because I feel like I'm just trying to be the person I feel like I am on the inside. And she kind swaps between hard punk aesthetic pleather and spikes wearing badass and dress wearing, hemp weaving, indigo child.

    I want to eventually go more extreme with body mods, like tongue splitting. But that's going to have to wait for a time I my life where I emotionally don't care what people thing and can financially afford to not need the job they're offering lmao.
     
    I've also been mistaken for looking and sounding much younger than my real age. Because of that I feel not too many people take me seriously.

    Another misconception is people think I'm still a beginner writer, or it feels like it. One time in a server we were talking about which of our AO3 fics gets kudos. I mentioned a few fics for x fandom I wrote that didn't get much kudos compare to some of the other writers in the server, and one person told me "you've only started writing, I'm sure you'll gain more traction soon." While true I recently started writing for x fandom, I've been writing for much longer than that. Or maybe I'm thinking too much into that. ;_;
     
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