Forgiving

[Starry Windy]

Do you find yourself easy to forgive others if someone has done bad things to you, or do you decided to not to? And why?

 

[Aether★]

I tend to forgive easily, because I can't stay mad at someone forever. Life goes on. On the other side I might forgive someone, but not forget about the whole thing.

 

[mousse]

I think I am too forgiving. I'm trying to work on it. I have fallen out with and gotten back with a certain person about four times and I finally decided to put my foot down. I feel that one needs to know their own boundaries when it comes to forgiveness. As for the afore-mentioned person, I feel I can forgive them a year or two from now when the dust has officially settled.

 

[Sonata]

I forgive and forget because none of it really matters, nothing matters enough to be worried about it.

 

[Klippy]

It depends. I've forgiven people for things that have really hurt me and can 100% go back to being normal with that person. Other times, people have wronged me and I know they don't care, even after apologizing, so I forgive, but end the friendship or cut back on how much that person and I communicate.

I never forget though. If someone seriously wronged me and I know they are sorry, I will forgive, but in the back of my mind, I will remember what they did and try to keep it from happening again.

 

[Nolafus]

I tend to hold grudges for a long time by nature, but I can usually overcome that and forgive people quite quickly. It all depends on how the situation went down.

If I can tell that you're being genuine in your apology, then forgiveness comes easily. However, if I sense that you're simply doing it to get the apology out of the way, forget about it. If I feel like you're faking it, I'll only interact with you on a business level. We will only interact on work related things, or small talk. Only time will dictate if I will trust you again.

That being said, I almost always forgive, but never forget.

 

[TRIFORCE89]

On the whole, I think I do. Or at least try to. Although there are some instances where I haven't forgiven, but they're people who just rubbed me the wrong way to begin with and they never bothered to apologize.

On the other hand, forgiveness isn't always warranted. I have had entirely honest/complete apologies rejected before. So I feel that if that's the case I probably shouldn't be forgiven.

 

[Shiny Bunnelby]

I am extremely forgiving.

With that said, there are three people in my life who will forever be on my ♥♥♥♥list. It takes a whole different level of selfishness and cruelty to end up there, and I will rejoice when they get what they deserve.

Otherwise, I am over wrongdoings in a matter of hours.

 

[Blastin'Tyruntz]

Oh man...that's tough. I can be described as easily hurt but fast to forgive, too. People are doing mean things to me a lot, well not now since i'm secluded in my room for the past month or so, but when i'm outside, people do not tend to care for my feelings a lot. I find that hurtful by itself, but that doesnt matter. I do not forget though, and will often use past arguments or issues if i see i can have the upper hand at this. There are a few people i would not forgive if they hurt me, example is my father, my parents are now seperating and divorcing because he had an affair for a little more than 2 years, and after he signs the papers i intend not to speak with him again. Right now i have to keep calm and have some sort of poker face, because with 4 children to support and having no job as of now, my family needs every single dime, and of course, being 16, he's gonna stop paying the share of alimony that's mine after i turn 18.

 

[Neil Peart]

I don't forgive easily, but I do forgive in a reasonable amount of time.

However, there are some people who I could watch tumble into a ravine and I would keep walking.

It's all situational.

 

[Bellsprout]

I stop caring so fast that I almost always forgive. Depending on what they did I just never look at them the same/never trust them in the way that I did.

 

[Lusus]

I forgive people, but i usually don't forget till a really long time has passed.

 

[Nick]

I always forgive people.

Things aren't that big of a deal to me most of the time to cause me to not want to forgive someone. The amount of stress holding onto things that happened is just overwhelming, and I don't see how people can roll around in that. It feels better to forgive the faults in others.

 

[Majestic Electric]

For me, it depends on the situation.

 

[Kikyo]

I forgive sometimes easily but not all situations.

 

[Kikaito plush]

depends on who the person is that how easily i'll forgive them.

 

[Nathan]

I don't forgive easily. Might take a lot of time, depending on what they did. Also I never forget.

 

[starseed galaxy auticorn]

It depends on what they've done that was bad. Usually, if they give me a sincere apology and have changed, then I can give them one more chance to improve. If not, then no... I don't always forgive them so easily.

 

[£]

Clinging on to things and staying mad about things isn't healthy. 8D

Talk it over, forgive, forget. That's how I roll with these things. :) Bottling things up isn't healthy either though, so I feel it is important to talk out anything that's gotten to me, too.

 

[Starry Windy]

I'm trying to forgive everyone despite of all happened, but sometimes it can be hard... but I know it'll worth it someday.