I just can't let you goooo.

[Auticorn]

This was inspired by my attachment to the tenth doctor.

Do you ever find yourself getting attached to people? Is it often harder for you to let that person go after you've gained that trust and bond with them? Have you ever lost someone you were very close to due to being attached to them? Did you ever find new people who gave you better?

I have. I lost my best friend Kylie. I got far too attached to her, and it took me years to finally get over our friendship. I tried so hard to bring her back, but it's almost like she was pushing me away on purpose. I was just too dumb and stupid to see it though. I was wrapped up in the idea of bringing back the one person who had always understood me. D:

I did find other people who made things better for me. I try not to get too attached to people, but I've noticed if I have more than one best friend... then it doesn't hurt as badly as focusing on just one best friend and losing them. I hate losing friends I am close to more than anything. It's happened my whole entire life, and I just hate the feeling of knowing I have been betrayed or stabbed in the back.

 

[Poki]

I've been attached to the wrong people before, and I am not proud to admit that I still do it. Old habits die hard, eh?

My only problem is that I care too much. I take my friendships seriously, and it really gets to me when good friends decide that they don't need me around anymore, because they have more friends now.

My friends often forget that quality > quantity, and I am tired of reminding them that.

 

[Bellsprout]

I had a friend in middle school that I really cared about (probably attached more in my head than actually displayed) and then we went to high school and she drifted away from me and I remember being very upset about it deep down, but I never really told her or anyone else. I sort of made an effort to keep her as a friend, but when I see something coming to an end or that someone wants to leave I usually just let them go.

Sometimes it's weird to me, but I've never been more sad over anyone else than this friend. Even people I've had relationships with don't come close. I guess I just really valued our friendship. That was years ago though and we've hung out recently and while it was fun and nice to catch up I've lost all attachment to them.

Anyway I think it's hard to let go of anyone you've become close to. Especially if you hung out or talked frequently because it almost becomes like a habit. If you can last long enough I think you can move on from almost anyone.

 

[Alexander Nicholi]

When I was little I always had one other boy that I attached to and hung out with, but those only lasted the schoolyear because I moved nearly every summer.

The attachment of focus for me right now is my partnership with Khilia. It's been in my signature, but I wrote a monologue to her about her over Skype one night while she was at school – I feel it's as close as I've ever gotten to capturing our bond in written language.

 

[Nathan]

Lots of people have turned their backs on me and nowadays it's no big deal to me to get over people, no matter how close we were. Everytime I start a friendship, I already know that the person is going to leave so I'm already prepared for it. Even if sometimes, I'm the one that tends to drift away.

 

[Oryx]

Not really. It's kind of scary how I can disengage, move on as if nothing ever happened. It would take me a bit if it was a very serious relationship, but I'm talking on the day/week scale, not longer. I have a knack for letting go.

 

[Shining Raichu]

I've always had a hard time letting go of people I truly like, in theory. If I know somebody is moving away or I'm fighting with someone or whatever, I stress about it and obsess about it for ages trying to find a way to not let it happen.

But then in practice, if it actually becomes time to let go, it's always a lot easier and quicker to get over than I imagined.

 

[Klippy]

Yes and no. If it's someone that I truly care about and am really close with, I'll always want them to be part of my life. I, sometimes, have to quit communicating with people when they've hurt me and I want an apology, but I'll still be receptive and open to their friendship/love.

No, because I often completely cut people out of my life when they do or make bad choices. Friends of mine were getting mixed into bad things and I just quit talking to them and they still don't know why. I suppose they deserve to know, but they've always known where I stand morally and what things I find appropriate.

 

[Pepperton]

Unfortunately, I get attached to people very easily, and find it difficult to let them go when they, most times inevitably, break ties with me. At first, I'm shy and close-minded, but once I've opened up to a person, I'm constantly wanting to message them, talk to them, and just be in their company. I can become a real social butterfly around people I've warmed up to, but when they break away from my friendship, however close it may have been, it's always a hard blow for me to take.

 

[Sirfetch’d]

I've always had a hard time letting go of people I truly like, in theory. If I know somebody is moving away or I'm fighting with someone or whatever, I stress about it and obsess about it for ages trying to find a way to not let it happen.

But then in practice, if it actually becomes time to let go, it's always a lot easier and quicker to get over than I imagined.

Wow basically describes everything I wanted to say about this. I become really attached to my friends and I know that its really hard for friendships to last forever or at least stay in good shape but yet when it comes down to them potentially ending I get all upset and try to fix it. However I have found myself able to get over broken/lost friendships pretty easy. It's more the thought that hurts haha

 

[£]

God I care about my dearest friends far more than is healthy for me. But it's a positive feeling I get rather than a negative one. Because I can be kinda fiery at times, and so can some of my friends, there's times where there will be flared tempers and that tends to result in a bit of downtime. We're all mature enough to look past something like that so it doesn't go too badly. In almost all cases I have a good range of ways to keep in touch with them so, that isn't really much of a problem either. I've not really totally drifted from anyone I've really been fond of since I was 14!

 

[gimmepie]

Depending on the person I'll either be really hung up on it and completely unable to let go of them entirely or I'll be able to completely disengage myself from the emotionally. It varies a lot depending on our connection (relationship, friend, family), the circumstances of our separation etc...

In all honesty the people who I can easily sever ties with greatly outnumber the ones I can't.

 

[Sheep]

I'm not too possessive (unless it's someone I'm dating! :D) so any extreme attachment over friends tends to be a foreign feeling for me. I understand others have obligations and sometimes need to move on as I've lost people that way more times than I can count.

So no, not really. I have gotten clingy over a select few friends in the past several years ago but that has long since run its course.

 

[Manitee]

Yeah, I got attached to this girl and it was like a punch in the face when she moved the other side of country. Ever since she moved we kept having arguments and she now completely hates me. I don't know what to do at this moment in time.

 

[antemortem]

I grow attached to people over long distance, not necessarily from online places like this but from twitter for instance or meeting someone over an app. It's really difficult to do that because you realize that it's very unlikely anything great will ever come from it, so you have to turn away from someone you've grown so akin to speaking to frequently even though you've never met. It's a real depressant.

 

[Nick]

I'm not someone who makes a lot of friends. I'm very selective of who I actually take the time to get to know. But when I finally do make the decision that I want to get to know you, I'm someone who you would probably describe to others as clingy. But it only lasts for a short period of time. Once I get over that obsessive "I want to know everything there is to know about you" state, I enter a phase where I could go weeks without talking to you. This goes for mostly all of my new friends. If you can survive my clingy phase, that's really the hardest point in time where you have to deal with me. Then I ease up a lot, and I open up, and I'm much more myself and more comfortable around you. In my clingy phase, you're probably the only person I want to talk to with the exception of a significant other that I may have at that point in time, and I want to hang out with you as often as possible. It's also a pretty bad phase for me too, because if you don't invite me to hang out with you, I'll take it personally. If you invite someone else to hang out with you, I'll get jealous. It's not something I'm proud of. So I get very easily attached to people.

 

[Pendraflare]

Hm, there was this one girl I had gotten to know on Twitter a few years ago (while I was in community college), and when it was about to be one year of me making that account, she blocked me and claimed it was on accident but kept hiding, and then three days later said it was because I had been having "personal" conversations with her on AIM, which came out with no warning. Then i'll admit, after I tried to convince her to come back, her internet bestie got furious at me and I was depressed. I admit, I even tried to make another account to follow her, but she found out and ignored it. I'm a terrible person.

Even though eventually she did feel bad about lying to me about that it was an accident, and that she never really had any bitter feelings towards me, me and her never really worked things out. I stopped caring after a while.

There is this one girl on Marriland i've gotten super close with, and even though she's four years younger than me she never seems to get bothered when I message her, and she says I don't scare her at all because i'm too nice. But I do try to be cautious around her. I could go on, but this is just an idea of what I go through.

 

[Yukari]

Honestly I can get kinda attached to my friends too easily. And I'm a very talkative person... Because of that I tend to annoy people unintentionally and without realizing it. I've lost a lot of friends because of that. ;~;

 

[Faye Rose~]

Yeah, I'm a veryyyy attached person.

Sometimes it's a fault, ie. I get attached to the wrong people and I end up getting burned. It's happened to me very recently.

But I'm attached to a person I really truly love, and it's the best feeling when you get the same feeling back from them ^^

 

[Universe]

Nope. I don't get attached to people very easily at all, and if I do get attached I don't have too much issue letting go of them should they ever leave.

I've become really used to people coming and going in my life and I've had more than my fair share of instances where I'd lose someone I trusted and cared about. It's happened with near every friend I've ever made save for a small number. Acquaintances come and go even more frequently and the pattern of people in my life is never consistent. I just don't get attached much if at all anymore and that's completely fine with me. It's nice to just talk to people as they come and be able to have conversation without worrying about emotions getting involved. 'Friend' is a title I use super sparingly and almost never to describe certain people in my life. XD;