[Life] LGBTQ+ Alliance (◕‿◕)♡

[budube]

Suspect it? I'd be surprised if my family had ever even considered the leanings of my attractions. But I suppose it depends on how close you are and how you socialize also. Sorry to hear your dad will likely not be tolerant ); I hope your mum and stepdad will take it better <3

My mom has asked me a couple times if I was gay, and I said no and left it that way. I haven't told her I am bi because I honestly don't feel ready to tell her, but yeah she's... tolerant. For the most part at least, being religious to some degree kinda gives her... well... opinions, but gladly they aren't as destructive as the ones other people tend to have /shrug.
As for stepdad, I know he is totally okay with trans people which is a plus in the LGBTQ+ tolerant thing, but I haven't really heard him say much about his opinions on that matter.
There's also my sis that I forgot mentioning before continuinglmao. She doesn't know either, and I don't even think she suspects anything. She is very tolerant and I know she will find out eventually when I finally come out even if I don't tell her lol.

 

[moon]

It sounds like your immediate family will support you then, if there's ever a good time to let them know who you are <3

I think my family will wholeheartedly support me being panromantic (although I'd just say "bi") but I have a suspicion that they'll think I'm delusional if I ever also tell them about my nonbinarity ):

 

[Ninetales]

Username: Ninetales
Gender: Female
Pronouns: She/Her
Sexuality: Asexual (Primarily heteroromantic, though part of me feels more of an emotional attraction to women, despite only being physically attracted to men. It's a tad confusing, even for me.)
Relationship Status: Taken! <3

Coming out was certainly an interesting experience at first. There were some that didn't take me seriously, whilst others were immensely supportive! Regardless of what others may think, I'm confident with my sexuality and my womanhood and am very open about my asexuality, despite being in a heterosexual relationship.

 

[budube]

I think my family will wholeheartedly support me being panromantic (although I'd just say "bi") but I have a suspicion that they'll think I'm delusional if I ever also tell them about my nonbinarity ):

Yeah I don't think I'll ever tell them about the agender thing, because they won't get it either. Not that it would change much because the neutral pronoun in spanish is the masculine one, but...

 

[Palamon]

hi

Username: Palamon
Pronouns: he/him.
Gender: Trans masculine.
Romantic orientation: pan.
Sexual orientation: same as above, lol.
Relationship status: single.

As for coming out, I haven't come out to anyone irl except my friend. So, I don't really have a story about it. I can't really come out to my family because they'll try to deny my identity by saying "no you're not. You're straight." So, I won't come out to many people about being trans or pan.

 

[VisionofMilotic]

Username: Sam, also I answer to sis and Milotic.

Pronouns: She/her

Gender: Cis gender female

Romantic orientation: Everyone is beautiful

Sexual orientation:Heterosexual

Relationship status: In a relationship with Dragon <3

If you are an ally - has someone come out to you?

I have a cousin who I adore, she is a brilliant computer whiz, and just so calm, cool and collected. We have always gotten along. She is gay and out, currently living with a partner who makes her happy. I have asked if she is going to get married, but she wants to keep her independence. Living with the woman she loves is all she wants right now.

A friend of mine from college who is a poetess and artist is also bisexual, and same-sex relationships have been a theme of some of her writings.

Through volunteering at a local animal shelter I met a family who surrendered their dog because they had health problems and couldn't take care of him. I ultimately adopted him, a big beautiful great Pyrenees. His previous owners were so happy that he had found a loving home, and asked permission from the Aarf to send me photos of him as a puppy. I kept in touch, and started emailing and phoning them and eventually I began visiting so they could see their furry old friend again. This was a family of two women, and as I got to know them over the years eventually they felt comfortable coming out to me as a couple, and I was happy for them.

I have both LGBTQ+ friends online who have come to out to me as well as offline.

 

[Ace Trainer Slash]

Username: Ace Trainer Slash
Pronouns: He, him
Gender: Cis-male
Romantic Orientation: ... Not straight, definitely not straight.
Relationship Status: ... Probably single for a (very) long time. :D

I've come out to only a few friends of mine. Most of them got weirded out when I told them I liked them/wasn't straight. Although (I think/hope) everyone's fine with me now, the one person who didn't get weirded out was very supportive of me, in which we were already in a straight relationship, she's now a very good friend of mine.

 

[moon]

Username: Ninetales
Gender: Female
Pronouns: She/Her
Sexuality: Asexual (Primarily heteroromantic, though part of me feels more of an emotional attraction to women, despite only being physically attracted to men. It's a tad confusing, even for me.)
Relationship Status: Taken! <3

Coming out was certainly an interesting experience at first. There were some that didn't take me seriously, whilst others were immensely supportive! Regardless of what others may think, I'm confident with my sexuality and my womanhood and am very open about my asexuality, despite being in a heterosexual relationship.

hi

Username: Palamon
Pronouns: he/him.
Gender: Trans masculine.
Romantic orientation: pan.
Sexual orientation: same as above, lol.
Relationship status: single.

As for coming out, I haven't come out to anyone irl except my friend. So, I don't really have a story about it. I can't really come out to my family because they'll try to deny my identity by saying "no you're not. You're straight." So, I won't come out to many people about being trans or pan.

Username: Sam, also I answer to sis and Milotic.

Pronouns: She/her

Gender: Cis gender female

Romantic orientation: Everyone is beautiful

Sexual orientation:Heterosexual

Relationship status: In a relationship with Dragon <3

If you are an ally - has someone come out to you?

I have a cousin who I adore, she is a brilliant computer whiz, and just so calm, cool and collected. We have always gotten along. She is gay and out, currently living with a partner who makes her happy. I have asked if she is going to get married, but she wants to keep her independence. Living with the woman she loves is all she wants right now.

A friend of mine from college who is a poetess and artist is also bisexual, and same-sex relationships have been a theme of some of her writings.

Through volunteering at a local animal shelter I met a family who surrendered their dog because they had health problems and couldn't take care of him. I ultimately adopted him, a big beautiful great Pyrenees. His previous owners were so happy that he had found a loving home, and asked permission from the Aarf to send me photos of him as a puppy. I kept in touch, and started emailing and phoning them and eventually I began visiting so they could see their furry old friend again. This was a family of two women, and as I got to know them over the years eventually they felt comfortable coming out to me as a couple, and I was happy for them.

I have both LGBTQ+ friends online who have come to out to me as well as offline.

Username: Ace Trainer Slash
Pronouns: He, him
Gender: Cis-male
Romantic Orientation: ... Not straight, definitely not straight.
Relationship Status: ... Probably single for a (very) long time. :D

I've come out to only a few friends of mine. Most of them got weirded out when I told them I liked them/wasn't straight. Although (I think/hope) everyone's fine with me now, the one person who didn't get weirded out was very supportive of me, in which we were already in a straight relationship, she's now a very good friend of mine.

Welcome, everyone! I'm glad to see so many new members. I will add you to the opening post list soon~

Sam, is it alright if I give you a biromantic flag? ;)

Ace Trainer Slash, I'll put a rainbow pride flag on you unless you have some more specific label ^^ Labels aren't necessary ofc!

 

[Ace Trainer Slash]

Welcome, everyone! I'm glad to see so many new members. I will add you to the opening post list soon~

Sam, is it alright if I give you a biromantic flag? ;)

Ace Trainer Slash, I'll put a rainbow pride flag on you unless you have some more specific label ^^ Labels aren't necessary ofc!

EDIT: Oh. I'm kinda sure, I'm probably bisexual, would that count as a label, I'm still getting used to the label thing.

 

[moon]

EDIT: Oh. I'm kinda sure, I'm probably bisexual, would that count as a label, I'm still getting used to the label thing.

For sure - if you feel ok with that, it is okay!

 

[Corrin]

Username: Dimitri
Pronouns: She
Gender: Nonbinaryish? i present as androgynous
Romantic orientation: I don't really get the need for this unless one is ace
Sexual orientation: Bi
Relationship status: If anyone ever dates me the reincarnation of jesus will be born that same day. (I'm undateable, basically)

I'm out as bi but my dads side of the family is teetering on the edge of just disowning me so I dare not come out as nb.
Not because I'm Bi, they all accept that. It's because I'm too mentally ill and they don't really understand nonbinary identities.

 

[moon]

Username: Dimitri
Pronouns: She
Gender: Nonbinaryish? i present as androgynous
Romantic orientation: I don't really get the need for this unless one is ace
Sexual orientation: Bi
Relationship status: If anyone ever dates me the reincarnation of jesus will be born that same day. (I'm undateable, basically)

I'm out as bi but my dads side of the family is teetering on the edge of just disowning me so I dare not come out as nb.
Not because I'm Bi, they all accept that. It's because I'm too mentally ill and they don't really understand nonbinary identities.

Welcome to the club! I've added you and all the other new members too now~

I'm sorry to hear about your situation ); Yeah, even if sexual orientations in many place are becoming more accepted now, there still is huuuge stigma around anything nonbinary.


Let's a new topic, shall we?

Would you say you fit into typical gender stereotypes?

Spoiler:

Count me in!

Username: Fairy
Pronouns: she/her but won't correct a they/them
Gender: cisgender female but still questioning & learning!
Romantic orientation: polyromantic
Sexual orientation: pansexual & demisexual
Relationship status: long-term heteronormative relationship​

All these things are a process for me and everyday I learn something new. These answers might not stay the same forever but I know I have some truths: like I know I can and will love anyone of any gender, expression, or lack there of. I know my capacity for attraction is all encompassing. And I know there's no right or wrong way to be a man, woman, or intersex person.

Thanks for listening to my Ted Talk.

Username: Cubism
Pronouns: They / Them
Gender: None, agender
Romantic orientation: Biromantic
Sexual orientation: Bisexual, Omnisexual, w/ preference for women
Relationship status: Single

I identify as mascinfernal occultgender. I've explained what that means more times than I can count in more words than I care to say, so I'll just leave it at that.
I love seeing people coming up with their own gender labels, or spending time searching through some of the most obscure and incomprehensible genders, just to find the one that suits them the most. I mean that.

Your gender is a defining part of yourself. Some people base their entire character around it. If you ask me, I think it's something worth putting the time investment into really figuring out. Kids nowadays will spend hours browsing through clothes and cellphone catalogues but won't spend an hour or two reading up on different genders in order to understand who they truly are.

Username: Eleanor
Pronouns: I seem to be ok with both he/his, she/her, and they/them (use this last one when in doubt, I suppose...)
Gender: cisgender male, but only for now. I'm questioning my gender, but feel like I need more time before actually coming to a conclusion.
Romantic orientation: Straight
Sexual orientation: Asexual
Relationship status: Single

Here we go 😊

Username: Caite-chan
Pronouns: She/Her
Gender: Female but I won't get mad if you call me a guy as I've had it happen many of times.
Romantic orientation: Straight
Sexual orientation: Heterosexual
Relationship status: Single

I'd call myself more of an ally than anything as my best friend is gay. I'm also still trying to figure out what all the different orientations are so I kinda feel more old school and straight forward.

Username: Janp
Pronouns: I'm okay with he/his, she/her, they/them. This is internet afterall, so use whatever you feel like using.
Gender: Non-binary, still sliding between Genderfluid and Bigender
Romantic orientation: Polyromantic
Sexual orientation: Gender-blind
Relationship status: Taken

I've been lurking in the old club for way too long, so I think I'll join this one.

I haven't come out... yet. I'm pretty sure my mom suspects I'm bi and maybe my stepdad does too, and I'll probably tell them at some point. Totally won't tell my actual dad, though, at least not until I make sure I won't see him again lol. He isn't the kind to tolerate that kind of stuff.

Now, I've had people come out to me. My best friend from hs told me she was bisexual and another friend from hs too told me he was ace. The only reason I haven't come out to them is because I don't have any kind of contact with any of them and still thought I was straight at the time being.

Hi friends :D

Username: Aslan
Pronouns: she/her
Gender: cis female
Romantic orientation: gay
Sexual orientation: ^
Relationship status: single

Re: Experiences with coming out
(going to spoiler, am on phone and not sure if it is a big wall of text!)

Spoiler:

I have come out to my extremely close friends in person. I don't like making it a big moment so I've always offhandedly mentioned it. I've also mentioned it to some people I'd say I'm friends with but don't feel that close to. Being in HS and hanging out with friends whilst slightly drunk does that. I almost outed myself another time whilst I was drunk and said I had something big to say but one of my friends who was much more sober and knew me gave me the ???? look and I was like OH right and I didn't tell people. I don't really regret the other times though as everyone was very accepting and it felt like I could be more honest about myself. I'm actually lucky that most of my extremely close friends are in the LGBT community too and I feel that I am able to be myself fully around them. I'm very open about it online these days but for years it was just a secret I told my group of online friends. I first came out to somebody in 2015 (from PC actually, love you Alex!) but its been a continuous process since then of telling people I'm close to. As for why I chose to be so open online, I got tired of hiding it and I don't feel there's as much risk in being out online vs. in person. Still haven't officially clarified to some people I came out to so they think I'm still bi but that's not accurate anymore - it doesn't bother me too much though!

I have had people come out to me too. I felt very happy when my friend said they told me they were comfortable telling me they were transgender first because I seemed the most accepting out of our friends. I'm really glad I could be there for them and I will always support them through their journey. Also found out my 2 best friends in person are pan and bi. Oh and one time me and another friend came out to each other at the same time - I brought up first a past crush on a girl and I guess that inspired my friend to also come out. Was sweet and they're one of my closest friends to this day too. In some cases the person was already publicly out before we were friends so there wasn't a coming out moment, I just knew and I got to meet and befriend their SO which was nice! Lastly a friend in the past has technically come out by saying they wanted to date me and for some reason I missed every single sign (she randomly wanted to hold hands knowing I'm very very not physically affectionate with people generally) so I can say it was genuinely one of the most ?!?!?!?!? moments I've had in my entire life. I feel that about all of the times people have asked me out though as I seem to never notice any signs (someone literally wrote me a very sappy poem and it flew over my head). We're still cool, finding out didn't affect our friendship at all and I think she likes someone else now so I'm happy for her!

Hi, I'm joining as an ally! :)

Username: Hyzenthlay
Pronouns: She/her
Gender: Female
Romantic orientation: Hetero romantic
Sexual orientation: Demisexual
Relationship status: In a relationship

I only recently discovered that "demisexual" existed—before I identified as heterosexual but that didn't feel quite fitting? I knew I was only attracted to men but never in a sexual way... more of a "he seems nice to have a relationship with" kind of way. I'm a hopeless romantic. <3 In fact, before I grew really close to Revise, I thought maybe I was asexual, because my sexuality is not a prominent part of my life at all. But things definitely changed once I got into a relationship. So demi it is!

If you are an ally - has someone come out to you?

Nope! In my town, people are not openly LGBTQ+ and I don't know anyone that way in real life. :o I try to be as supportive as I can so that people would at least be comfortable with coming out to me, if that ever happens!

Username: Ninetales
Gender: Female
Pronouns: She/Her
Sexuality: Asexual (Primarily heteroromantic, though part of me feels more of an emotional attraction to women, despite only being physically attracted to men. It's a tad confusing, even for me.)
Relationship Status: Taken! <3

Coming out was certainly an interesting experience at first. There were some that didn't take me seriously, whilst others were immensely supportive! Regardless of what others may think, I'm confident with my sexuality and my womanhood and am very open about my asexuality, despite being in a heterosexual relationship.

hi

Username: Palamon
Pronouns: he/him.
Gender: Trans masculine.
Romantic orientation: pan.
Sexual orientation: same as above, lol.
Relationship status: single.

As for coming out, I haven't come out to anyone irl except my friend. So, I don't really have a story about it. I can't really come out to my family because they'll try to deny my identity by saying "no you're not. You're straight." So, I won't come out to many people about being trans or pan.

Username: Ace Trainer Slash
Pronouns: He, him
Gender: Cis-male
Romantic Orientation: ... Not straight, definitely not straight.
Relationship Status: ... Probably single for a (very) long time. :D

I've come out to only a few friends of mine. Most of them got weirded out when I told them I liked them/wasn't straight. Although (I think/hope) everyone's fine with me now, the one person who didn't get weirded out was very supportive of me, in which we were already in a straight relationship, she's now a very good friend of mine.

Username: Dimitri
Pronouns: She
Gender: Nonbinaryish? i present as androgynous
Romantic orientation: I don't really get the need for this unless one is ace
Sexual orientation: Bi
Relationship status: If anyone ever dates me the reincarnation of jesus will be born that same day. (I'm undateable, basically)

I'm out as bi but my dads side of the family is teetering on the edge of just disowning me so I dare not come out as nb.
Not because I'm Bi, they all accept that. It's because I'm too mentally ill and they don't really understand nonbinary identities.

 

[Ace Trainer Slash]

Oh. Yeah, I don't know if I'm gender conforming, but despite this, I believe people don't need to conform to any gender, a person should be allowed to act or take characteristics from whatever gender they want to no matter what gender they are.

 

[moon]

I guess I should have phrased it as "do you fit into gender stereotypes" haha. Because you are absolutely right, imo :)

I'd say I've always kind of looked like what most people think girls look like. So that'd be gender conforming expression-wise when I still didn't know I could be anything other than a girl. However, my interests had always been quite varied, in many cases "boyish", and I've made friends with girls and boys alike. Except maybe in high school when I tried really hard for a while to fit into what a Girl "should" be like. I still ponder how much is natural because of how our inner gender perception makes us act or enjoy, and how much is just taught by society. I guess there's lots of research on it somewhere.

Nowadays, ofc, I'm a non-binary, semi-agender, fluid mess. I haven't changed anything about my appearance so I still look like a "typical girl" I suppose. There's nothing that's really normal for non-binary people though.

 

[Eleanor]

Looks like I fit in for sure! Appearance, clothing, total incompetence around kids... only thing that deviates a bit is that most of my friends are girls, but that's about it I guess. Even then, gender and stereotypes aren't quite the same thing and don't have to be so closely related... I suppose that's something most people here can agree with but it's also something I'm rather stuck with as I keep questioning my gender.

On one hand, you can definitely still be a boy without conforming to these stereotypes and be valid anyways - that's probably what most people around here will tell you: "You like pink and dolls but don't worry, you're still a boy and that doesn't make you anything less manly." On the other, you might fit in with all the common stereotypes and still not feel right. I might tell you I don't wear dresses not because I'm a boy, but simply because my body structure doesn't allow me to (I guess that remark would be kinda fitting for people who identify as agender? But I'm not sure yet.)

 

[moon]

ahaha mood, me: i wear dresses because they fit my body and skinny suits do Not

 

[Corrin]

No, I do not. I dress both "female" and "male" depending on my mood or just what I'm feeling. Also I'm the bug killer of the house lmao

 

[Hyzenthlay]

Would you say you fit into typical gender stereotypes?

Very much so! I love my gender and I enjoy being girly and feminine. :) Pretty dresses are my favourite thing to wear and I feel 10x prettier when I put one on, like a princess, haha! In fact, despite going through a tomboyish stage at one point, I now feel gross in masculine clothing—it just hangs off me terribly (I'm quite curvy) and makes me feel dowdy, not myself at all. When I was into that, it was because other girls seemed to pull it off and look awesome lol, but it's just not for me. ^^; Although my mum is pretty strict about me dressing conservatively around here (the men can be vulgar) so nice dresses are more of a special occasion thing when going out. :(

As for interests, they fall into both stereotypical female and male ones, but mostly "girly" I guess haha. As in, I love all things pink, and go out of my way to choose girly things over all else when I can. :p It just makes me happy!

 

[moon]

No, I do not. I dress both "female" and "male" depending on my mood or just what I'm feeling. Also I'm the bug killer of the house lmao

Androgynous bug killer. Now there's an identity to fear and respect!

 

[Aslan]

Hmm, definitely not as a child! I used to get considered as "one of the boys" because I fit in so well with boys. I could act like them, I liked what they liked (video games, racing cars etc.) and I even looked like a boy at certain periods of my life when I had short hair and would dress like a boy. That being said as a child, I also liked stereotypical interests such as Barbie and Princess Polly and I was open to the idea of befriending girls, I just for some reason found it very hard to be friends with any girls. For a long time most of my friends were male and to this day, most if not all of my close friends online have been male in the 8 years or so I've been on PC. I'm not sure why that is the case! Later on I went to a girl's school so most of my friends are female now in-person but for a long time I definitely did feel quite disconnected from feeling like a girl. Nowadays I feel fine about it - would even say I'd fit the stereotypes of liking the idea of getting into makeup/fashion which I was not conscious of at all for a long time (but am now enjoying, even if I'm not very good at it). I also am so glad I got out of the I'm Not Like The Other Girls' phase and just started owning my interests/what I want to be like etc. without fear of changing up my image/what other people would think! Life has been much more fun since. :D