[Life] LGBTQ+ Alliance (◕‿◕)♡

[Caite-chan]

I've always been a tomboy for most of my life. I never cared for makeup and feel like its a waste of time and money but at the same time I don't mind having someone else put it on me. I love getting my nails done but now that I'm older I'd rather have a pixie cut because again less for me to worry about. I'd rather wear boy clothes because I didn't like showing off my body much less my chest. Now that I'm older I don't care how good pants fit if they don't have decent pockets I will not buy them. I carry a wallet because its all I need so my pants better have good pockets in them.

 

[pastelspectre]

Username: pastelspectre
Pronouns: he/him
Gender: trans male
Romantic orientation: Queer/mlm
Sexual orientation: I guess the same as above?
Relationship status: Taken!

 

[moon]

Username: pastelspectre
Pronouns: he/him
Gender: trans male
Romantic orientation: Queer/mlm
Sexual orientation: I guess the same as above?
Relationship status: Taken!

Welcome to the club! Nice to see some transman representation. Your interest in Youtube gives me an idea for the next topic of the week:

Are you a passive or active member of the LGBTQ+ community? Essentially, do you do things like follow any media focusing on LGBTQ+ in one way or another, or try to actively represent the community somehow, or do you rather quietly approve of there being a community but not really involving yourself much? :)


notif for topic~

Spoiler:

I've always been a tomboy for most of my life. I never cared for makeup and feel like its a waste of time and money but at the same time I don't mind having someone else put it on me. I love getting my nails done but now that I'm older I'd rather have a pixie cut because again less for me to worry about. I'd rather wear boy clothes because I didn't like showing off my body much less my chest. Now that I'm older I don't care how good pants fit if they don't have decent pockets I will not buy them. I carry a wallet because its all I need so my pants better have good pockets in them.

Hmm, definitely not as a child! I used to get considered as "one of the boys" because I fit in so well with boys. I could act like them, I liked what they liked (video games, racing cars etc.) and I even looked like a boy at certain periods of my life when I had short hair and would dress like a boy. That being said as a child, I also liked stereotypical interests such as Barbie and Princess Polly and I was open to the idea of befriending girls, I just for some reason found it very hard to be friends with any girls. For a long time most of my friends were male and to this day, most if not all of my close friends online have been male in the 8 years or so I've been on PC. I'm not sure why that is the case! Later on I went to a girl's school so most of my friends are female now in-person but for a long time I definitely did feel quite disconnected from feeling like a girl. Nowadays I feel fine about it - would even say I'd fit the stereotypes of liking the idea of getting into makeup/fashion which I was not conscious of at all for a long time (but am now enjoying, even if I'm not very good at it). I also am so glad I got out of the I'm Not Like The Other Girls' phase and just started owning my interests/what I want to be like etc. without fear of changing up my image/what other people would think! Life has been much more fun since. :D

Would you say you fit into typical gender stereotypes?

Very much so! I love my gender and I enjoy being girly and feminine. :) Pretty dresses are my favourite thing to wear and I feel 10x prettier when I put one on, like a princess, haha! In fact, despite going through a tomboyish stage at one point, I now feel gross in masculine clothing—it just hangs off me terribly (I'm quite curvy) and makes me feel dowdy, not myself at all. When I was into that, it was because other girls seemed to pull it off and look awesome lol, but it's just not for me. ^^; Although my mum is pretty strict about me dressing conservatively around here (the men can be vulgar) so nice dresses are more of a special occasion thing when going out. :(

As for interests, they fall into both stereotypical female and male ones, but mostly "girly" I guess haha. As in, I love all things pink, and go out of my way to choose girly things over all else when I can. :p It just makes me happy!

No, I do not. I dress both "female" and "male" depending on my mood or just what I'm feeling. Also I'm the bug killer of the house lmao

Looks like I fit in for sure! Appearance, clothing, total incompetence around kids... only thing that deviates a bit is that most of my friends are girls, but that's about it I guess. Even then, gender and stereotypes aren't quite the same thing and don't have to be so closely related... I suppose that's something most people here can agree with but it's also something I'm rather stuck with as I keep questioning my gender.

On one hand, you can definitely still be a boy without conforming to these stereotypes and be valid anyways - that's probably what most people around here will tell you: "You like pink and dolls but don't worry, you're still a boy and that doesn't make you anything less manly." On the other, you might fit in with all the common stereotypes and still not feel right. I might tell you I don't wear dresses not because I'm a boy, but simply because my body structure doesn't allow me to (I guess that remark would be kinda fitting for people who identify as agender? But I'm not sure yet.)

Oh. Yeah, I don't know if I'm gender conforming, but despite this, I believe people don't need to conform to any gender, a person should be allowed to act or take characteristics from whatever gender they want to no matter what gender they are.

hi

Username: Palamon
Pronouns: he/him.
Gender: Trans masculine.
Romantic orientation: pan.
Sexual orientation: same as above, lol.
Relationship status: single.

As for coming out, I haven't come out to anyone irl except my friend. So, I don't really have a story about it. I can't really come out to my family because they'll try to deny my identity by saying "no you're not. You're straight." So, I won't come out to many people about being trans or pan.

Yeah I don't think I'll ever tell them about the agender thing, because they won't get it either. Not that it would change much because the neutral pronoun in spanish is the masculine one, but...

Username: Ninetales
Gender: Female
Pronouns: She/Her
Sexuality: Asexual (Primarily heteroromantic, though part of me feels more of an emotional attraction to women, despite only being physically attracted to men. It's a tad confusing, even for me.)
Relationship Status: Taken! <3

Coming out was certainly an interesting experience at first. There were some that didn't take me seriously, whilst others were immensely supportive! Regardless of what others may think, I'm confident with my sexuality and my womanhood and am very open about my asexuality, despite being in a heterosexual relationship.

Are you out, IRL? How did you "come out", if there was such an event?
Not really, but people around me, like my girlfriend or my friends, know about my stance regarding genders (video related, but please don't take it seriously).

I also don't know anyone from LGBT+ community in real life and my country isn't really LGBT friendly, so that also makes it harder for me to come out.

I had a cute 'girlfriend' in 8th grade. She was the absolutely best, inspired me to draw, got me into anime, did homework together... we talked and talked and talked on the phone constantly. She'd send me gifts of her art with rose petals in boxes and I'd buy her (albeit cheap) jewelry from a store she liked. We'd write love notes and poetry and everything you'd expect a young couple to do!

It.. didn't take long to realize that I was feeling more than just a friendship. I was head over heels in love with this girl! But, I had noooo idea what to do with these feelings or how to talk to her about it, so I asked a mutual friend who was bisexual. And she told me to just talk to her, ask her, and worry about the details later.

So I did. I told her I loved her. She said she's been waiting for me to say something for weeks now. We kissed and held hands and were inseparable! ..Until a month later she moved away and I never heard from her again. :(

I identify as mascinfernal occultgender. I've explained what that means more times than I can count in more words than I care to say, so I'll just leave it at that.
I love seeing people coming up with their own gender labels, or spending time searching through some of the most obscure and incomprehensible genders, just to find the one that suits them the most. I mean that.

Your gender is a defining part of yourself. Some people base their entire character around it. If you ask me, I think it's something worth putting the time investment into really figuring out. Kids nowadays will spend hours browsing through clothes and cellphone catalogues but won't spend an hour or two reading up on different genders in order to understand who they truly are.

 

[Janp]

I'm not sure if I already posted the answer to the previous question, so just to be sure:
Would you say you fit into typical gender stereotypes?
Depends. I'm more masculine than other guys around me. I never dressed in "female" clothes, which makes me wonder how would I look in them...

Are you a passive or active member of the LGBTQ+ community?
I follow few LGBT+-themed subreddits on reddit and few accounts on Twitter, but I don't post in them myself. There isn't really a local community where I live, so I only have those communities to connect with other people.

 

[starseed galaxy auticorn]

Username: starseed
Pronouns: She/her or he/him (mostly she/her)
Gender: Demigirl/person
Romantic orientation: Panromantic
Sexual orientation: Asexual
Relationship status: Taken

I'd like to join. :D

 

[Aslan]

Hi everyone who has joined recently, welcome :D

Answering the new topic, I would say I'm fairly active in regard to keeping up with LGBT media. I follow a lot of LGBT creators even before I found out I was also part of the community - Youtube is good for this! I also enjoy and will check out LGBT media whether it's recommended to me or through my own research - TV shows, books, movies. I think seeing representation in the media was helpful for me particularly when I was younger as it made me feel less alone and also accept/be happy with who I was when I was still in that icky sort of denial or fear phase. I would say I'm passive though otherwise - its part of being quite closeted so I don't get involved in real life events or talk about LGBT topics with people outside close friends who are also in the community. Honestly everyday though I feel like it's more exhausting to stay closeted so if I ever publicly outed myself, maybe I would try to more actively engage with the real life LGBT community.

 

[Caite-chan]

Are you a passive or active member of the LGBTQ+ community?

I would say I'm more of an in between. I keep up with the news and will read things here and there but other than that I wouldn't say I'm THAT active. I would think that if some real shit hit the fan I'd find out from my best friend. I don't think I'm totally out of the loop though.​

 

[Eleanor]

Are you a passive or active member of the LGBTQ+ community?
When it comes to irl, no one knows anything even about my involvement with LGBTQ+. I usually never bring up the topic myself, because I don't really feel at ease talking about that especially around certain people, and this probably makes me look like someone who's rather ignorant on these issues - which I actually don't mind that much.
Online this is slightly different, because I can get more involved, informed and show my support more openly! I still have many things to learn but I feel like I'm making progress :)
I still wouldn't think of myself as very active, though. I'm just... keeping a low profile I suppose.

 

[Fairy]

Are you a passive or active member of the LGBTQ+ community?

I'd say I'm pretty active irl. I sign the petitions, donate to local charity, and join the rallies when I can. I prioritize LGBTQ+ creators, support businesses run by LGBT owners / allies, and just do my best to give to the community over all. I also very openly and unapologetically wear LGBTQ+ supporting merch and rainbow paraphernalia, but I guess that doesn't contribute much.

Online maybe not as much? I'm not involved with Twitter and other platforms or circles that are heavily invested in LGBTQ+ issues. Just a personal preference. Also actions speak louder than words, imo, even though the words are very important too!

 

[Corrin]

I don't have any friends irl so I can't really go to pride or anything. It's best to go with someone to large events or to clubs because you never know, safety first.

And my family can't stand that I'm bi and gnc.

 

[starseed galaxy auticorn]

I don't have any friends irl so I can't really go to pride or anything. It's best to go with someone to large events or to clubs because you never know, safety first.

And my family can't stand that I'm bi and gnc.

Same. Many of my LGBTQ+ friends are online. I do have a real life friend that is, but we don't live close enough to each other. Before becoming pan, I actually told my dad about being bi. He was perfectly fine with it. My mom is the one that wouldn't get it. She grew up thinking stuff like that was taboo. Even now, she thinks she accepts it, but I think if she knew my sexuality/gender preferences... she'd be like "no you aren't you don't even know that stuff" or something. >___>

 

[Corrin]

Same. Many of my LGBTQ+ friends are online. I do have a real life friend that is, but we don't live close enough to each other. Before becoming pan, I actually told my dad about being bi. He was perfectly fine with it. My mom is the one that wouldn't get it. She grew up thinking stuff like that was taboo. Even now, she thinks she accepts it, but I think if she knew my sexuality/gender preferences... she'd be like "no you aren't you don't even know that stuff" or something. >___>

Oh, I don't have friends online either.
There's more lgbt people online which is reassuring though.

 

[Hyzenthlay]

Are you a passive or active member of the LGBTQ+ community?

I'd say the most active support I've offered is voting yes to gay marriage in Australia. Multiple times actually, because I got to vote on the behalf of a few others!

Otherwise there really isn't much you can do in my small town and I'm not a fan of large gatherings/parties, so I likely wouldn't attend a parade etc. for that reason aha. I'm more of a passive member but I'll still do my part when I can! Like with voting. :)

 

[Vulpix]

Username: Foxy
Pronouns: She/Her but don't mind They/Them
Gender: Female
Romantic orientation: Panromantic
Sexual orientation: Pansexual
Relationship status: Casually seeing someone? (It's complicated..lol)

Regardless to what I talked about in "stereotypes" below, I am still struggling a tad bit with my identity. I feel like I look the way I do based on trends and fashion. But if I'm being honest with myself, I've always been attracted to Androgyne and have felt a strong pull towards being Androgynous. After cutting my hair short, it's like I'm feeling closer to being the true me. Unfortunately my wardrobe remains very girly since it's a little hard to afford some new masculine clothes. But when the time comes, I will surely feel it out.


Are you out, IRL? How did you "come out", if there was such an event?
Yes, I am. Growing up with two wonderful moms helped me not to be afraid of what others think of me. I think watching my mom love another woman while growing up is what changed everything for me. I first kissed another girl when I was 16 or so. I was heavily confused for awhile, and started dating girls. I tried to explain that I was bisexual but something about it didn't fit just right. I started finding my self attracted to all genders as I got older. Love, to me, did not stop at someone's gender. I met someone else who was Pansexual(never heard the term before) and they explained to me what it meant to them and suddenly that's what clicked with me. I started openly telling anyone who asked that I was Pans around the age of 20 (am now 26). But thanks to my parents for giving me the courage to love like I do and not to worry about judgement.


Would you say you fit into typical gender stereotypes?
Growing up, I was a tomboy. And when I first started becoming confused about my sexuality, I would dress more boyish. But now, I'm a very materialistic female. Probably your average "basic white girl" stereotype. So I would say, yes. lol

Are you a passive or active member of the LGBTQ+ community?
I used to attend Pride every year with either my parents or my friends. My parents like to travel to LGBTQ Conventions and work at them, so sometimes I would tag alone. Where I live now, I don't really have a big pool of IRL friends, but back home I would say about 80% of my friend group were LGBTQ and we would always be out doing stuff for the community.

 

[Corrin]

If I can get someone to agree I'll see if I can go to Pride. I'm getting out more now so hopefully I'll develop some friendships. NS has a pretty good LGBT pop.

 

[MadisonSteel]

Username: MadisonSteel
Pronouns: She/Her/Hers
Gender: Trans Female
Romantic orientation: Biromantic
Sexual orientation: Asexual
Relationship status: Single

I'm out to my parents, sister, most friends at school, and a few relatives. I'm involved in some LGBT stuff like my school's club and sometimes pride. I'm not really very actively part of the community though. I'm not really out, but I also don't really hide it either. Kind of an open secret that I'm trans.

 

[Neb]

Username: Neb
Pronouns: Any
Gender: Fluid (questioning)
Romantic orientation: panromantic with a preference towards girls and NB people.
Sexual orientation: Pansexual
Relationship status: Single

Are you a passive or active member of the LGBTQ+ community? Despite being raised by lesbian parents, I never really knew about the community until my teen years. When I came out as pan I got some pushback at school, so I kept it to myself. Only recently have I started to walk flamboyantly. I'd like to wear dresses outside of pride events, but I'm still too afraid of harassment. To show my support I change my online persona every June.

 

[pastelspectre]

Are you a passive or active member of the LGBTQ+ community?

Would say I'm active, I think..am pretty vocal about supporting lgbtq stuff, even on family Facebook where have some close minded family members added.

Am pretty vocal about it.. online but being vocal irl is kinda scary

 

[Eleanor]

This may be pretty random but... starting today, it's Ace Week! Or Asexual Awareness Week if you will. It will go on from October 25^th to 31^st.
That said, and given that there are a few ace people in this group also, why not discuss about this orientation a bit more? Something that I feel like asking, in particular, is... how important is it for you to come out as asexual, demisexual or graysexual? Who, in your opinion, is really worthy of learning that aspect about yourself?

I've always been uncertain of this actually. I feel like my asexuality would really impact only my future partner's life and relationship with me, and... not to be the devil's advocate here, but asexuality is just not something that can be spotted, like for example two men holding their hands can be interpreted right away as them being gay. (And yes I know this is just an assumption people make and probably shouldn't, but I guess this is the kind of world we still live in today). And yet, being able to raise awareness on asexuality as a whole, being just proud of my asexuality, and in a way letting my potential partner already know what my boundaries are, seems equally enticing. I feel like this kind of thought process could be applied to some other identities or orientations too, so I'd like to hear some of your thoughts on this if you don't mind!

That said, happy Ace week everybody!

 

[Fairy]

This may be pretty random but... starting today, it's Ace Week! Or Asexual Awareness Week if you will. It will go on from October 25^th to 31^st.
That said, and given that there are a few ace people in this group also, why not discuss about this orientation a bit more? Something that I feel like asking, in particular, is... how important is it for you to come out as asexual, demisexual or graysexual? Who, in your opinion, is really worthy of learning that aspect about yourself?

I've always been uncertain of this actually. I feel like my asexuality would really impact only my future partner's life and relationship with me, and... not to be the devil's advocate here, but asexuality is just not something that can be spotted, like for example two men holding their hands can be interpreted right away as them being gay. (And yes I know this is just an assumption people make and probably shouldn't, but I guess this is the kind of world we still live in today). And yet, being able to raise awareness on asexuality as a whole, being just proud of my asexuality, and in a way letting my potential partner already know what my boundaries are, seems equally enticing. I feel like this kind of thought process could be applied to some other identities or orientations too, so I'd like to hear some of your thoughts on this if you don't mind!

That said, happy Ace week everybody!

Yes! Happy Asexual Awareness Week! I'm so glad we're able to have time to observe a lesser understood orientation. I can't answer any questions about being Ace/Aro, but I'd certainly love for those who are to share their stories. :)

edit: sorry for the double notif i had to fix a typo ;;