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If they have a good personality, and they're kind and chilled-out and whatnot, then I'm set. For me looks are just a bonus - I don't particularly care about how someone looks but it's not completely unimportant. I couldn't date someone I wasn't attracted to physically, but I generally look at personality first.
 
Although I'd say that personality is more important for me, I won't pretend for a minute that it can completely compensate for looks. If you're going for a relationship with someone who you don't find at all physically attractive then you're gonna have some issues with that side of things. Of course it's important to be around someone who you want to be around, and of course someone with only looks isn't good for any meaningful relationship, but it works the other way too. Love their personality but aren't interested in them physically? Stay friends and look for someone else if you want a full relationship.
 
60% looks, 40% personality.

I won't be two faced when it comes with this. The right answer is obviously "personality > looks," but I believe for many people like myself there still needs to be a sexual connection with the person in question. The person doesn't need to be a 10/10, but I believe that you still need a physical attraction to the other person.
 
seeker said:
Before you find someone worth holding onto you should probably stop "looking for something in someone" to begin with.
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#deep

Maybe Gavin's got a point here. I could say I want such and such kind of person, but the one time I did fall in love all of those preconceptions fell out the fucking window and nothing mattered but her. I happily made all sorts of justifications and rearrangements of thoughts because she mattered more than my ideas and preferences. She was my preference.

Not to be sappy, but it's really sweet when your preference is ever-changing, stemming from another like that. Humans struggle with change and when you base your thoughts and actions off of another it makes adjusting to change so much easier.
 
seeker said:
Before you find someone worth holding onto you should probably stop "looking for something in someone" to begin with.
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this bothers me
so long as searching for a quality in a person remains a simple guideline and not a rulebook, I don't see the problem with it

as for my taste
while I'm yet to be genuinely physically attracted to anyone, I'm pretty vain and won't be interested in someone if I don't recognise them as good looking and with the potential for me to be physically attracted to them and want to do physical, intimate things
if I never have a sexual relationship again I'll be just fine but it's unrealistic for me to expect that of my partner so I'll have to meet them halfway and do my part as that's what a relationship is about

so with that in mind, naturally my main interest lies in their personality, emotions, etc
if I can remain interested in them for more than a month then I'll know if I want something more
 
God said:
this bothers me
so long as searching for a quality in a person remains a simple guideline and not a rulebook, I don't see the problem with it

as for my taste
while I'm yet to be genuinely physically attracted to anyone, I'm pretty vain and won't be interested in someone if I don't recognise them as good looking and with the potential for me to be physically attracted to them and want to do physical, intimate things
if I never have a sexual relationship again I'll be just fine but it's unrealistic for me to expect that of my partner so I'll have to meet them halfway and do my part as that's what a relationship is about

so with that in mind, naturally my main interest lies in their personality, emotions, etc
if I can remain interested in them for more than a month then I'll know if I want something more
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Oh don't worry about it, that was a throwaway post so I could test my avatar.
 
I'm going to echo a lot of what has been said here I guess.

Personality is hugely important to me. Honestly a person needs to have a personality I enjoy if there is to be any hope of romantic relationship between us. If I you have a personality I love then I'll even find you more attractive... but on the same hand if I'm not attracted to you at least a moderate amount physically good luck.
 
Appearances are what initially attract me to a person, and then personality is whether or not I desire something more with them.

So basically what everyone else has (mostly) said. However I do not doubt that this could change depending on the person I'm attracted to, so I'd say its 50/50
 
i really couldn't care less about the way other people look, so i'm down for personality.

the only thing i ask out of your physicality is that you to wash it regularly. that is all.
 
Alfieri said:
Although I've seen this topic a couple times here, I'd like to think my answer has been the same.

Looks are what get my attention, personality determines whether I stay or not. In other words, I believe personality is more important but I need to feel some sort of physical attraction to my girlfriend as well. A person can be the most genuinely nice and caring person ever but if I don't find them physically attractive then I just remain friends with them. However if there is a beautiful girl but she is rude to other people and doesn't give a shit about anything, then it drives me away.
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I think you said it all. :)
 
looks undeniably play a pretty huge part in my initial attraction to a person. I can't pretend that it doesn't mean anything. if I don't find someone attractive physically, then it's going to be very difficult for me to date them. However. That Being Said. if I become attached to somebody on, like, a simply-friends basis and really become close to them I sometimes just start finding them attractive over time. it's a weird phenomenon. I'm not sure if this is a thing that happens to others. so, basically, looks are more important to me at the outset, but as time goes on, Personality Reigns Supreme.
 
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