Would you ever adopt a child? Let's talk adoption!

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    I really want to adopt a child when I'm older, further into my respected/future/wanted career, and maybe adopt more than one child. I don't know how many, maybe three, maximum. But I want to adopt maybe a toddler as well as a teenager, that I'm certain.

    People don't advocate for human adoption that much. It's always dogs or cats - but they're both hard to take care of. I feel like animals are to humans, throwaway objects and when they get bored of them they just put them on the streets if they don't want them.

    With children they're like 'oh it's a commitment'. People hardly are jailed for animal abuse, but are punished for child abuse (well not all the time, and THAT makes me really angry). I'm a serious advocate for adoption. Wether it be from the US (they need homes too) or China, every child deserves a home.

    Russia and Korea (don't even think about adopting from North Korea, it's impossible to even get in unless you tour the place and are monitored 24/7 and are in a group of a 100 people or less). Adopting from South Korea you have to be married for 3 years or more, and you have to be a heterosexual couple, mostly Koreans consider adoption a taboo.

    Japan is also hard to adopt from but they do allow it I heard.

    Russians don't really like Americans adopting from what I heard as there was a problem with a foreign woman returning an adopted child or something. They were outraged, and rightly so.

    Places I would consider adopting from: Africa, Haiti, China, America, poor Island countries like Haiti (hard to name them off the top of my head). I've done research about adoption, and I don't judge about race or gender. I would LIKE a boy but whoever I fall in love with is who I fall in love with, and that child will be mine. I don't think people should set preferences so high when trying to adopt.

    Adoption - whether it's humans or animals can be a wonderful thing. Encourage people to adopt, even if you can't, or are too young or financially unstable to. Volunteer at a children's center or become a foster parent if you can! Do whatever it takes to help kids out. It's a great thing.

    Or heck, on the subject of animals, foster animals. That's a great thing too.

    What are your thoughts?
     
    Adoption is good for those that feel it makes sense to them. On top of saving a life from loneliness. Not everyone can afford to adopt, though. Human or animal.

    If you can make sure that you're financially stable and can provide a hospitable environment, then go for it. As for myself... it's a maybe. If my body won't work.
     
    i've never wanted biological children in my life
    adoption is the only way to go
     
    I don't want to have children at all, so I don't have plans to adopt.

    I assume it being "hard" to adopt in some places is more to try and make sure that the person/people adopting the kid can actually like take care of them remotely well (though the bit about straight couples only that some places have is a bit of nonsense), don't wanna send them from one crappy situation into another.

    Not sure why adopting would be taboo to some people.
     
    I dont think adopting should be taboo, but at the same time, I understand that many people prefer having their own kids. It just feels different I guess.

    Personally, I wouldnt be opposed to the idea of adopting.
     
    I don't want to go through the pain of pregnancy, myself, plus it runs in the family to have bleeding problems with it. I'd really like to give a kid a good home, but that's for when I mature more!
     
    It's not my preferred choice, because like many other people I feel like I wouldn't be as connected to them as I would be to a child that is of my own creation, but I am indeed open to adopting.
     
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    My friend H and her sister R were adopted as babies from China, and their brother W was adopted at 3yrs, also from China. My fiancé's family has adopted three children from India. The first girl T was 11mos old, the second girl S was nearly 4yrs. The boy M was 13yrs. Based on my experiences with these families over the last decade, I've come to a few conclusions.

    -> adopting young is so much better. W was the one to have the most adjustment problems of that family- he took nearly four years to settle into the routine of life. S was quicker to settle in, but she's still a terror. M, though... It's been eight months. His behaviour is almost exactly the same as when he arrived, except now that he's used to all the people in his life he's worse to them.

    -> adoption agencies aren't always 100% truthful. The agency for S neglected to tell the family that she was epileptic until the parents were in India to bring her back to the USA. The agency for M did not disclose any of his behavioural problems- the physical outbursts, the verbal abuse, the ODD, etc etc until again, the parents were in India. They also concealed these things by briefing M every time he was to video chat with his prospective parents, and having someone from the agency there at all times to direct him.

    -> adopting screws with the family dynamic. While this is true of having a baby too, it's far more altering to bring in a human with an established personality and viewpoint than it is to bring in a blank slate. R and W hated each other for years upon years and had to go to therapy for the better part of a decade just to deal with each other. S had always been the one to upset balances everywhere and still is, but M is far, far worse. M is on the verge of tearing apart a marriage that has survived virtually no money and five other children. Only one of his siblings even remotely likes him. The mother regrets adopting him. The father never wanted to in the first place. It is a Mess.

    idk, that's just a few things. as far as I'm concerned, I will never have my own biological children. if i want any children they will be adopted, and if I do adopt I will be adopting locally and not a child who is over 18mos.
     
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    I think it's one of those situations where I could never really comment on it until something came up that necessitated it for me. I'm a straight male in a long-term relationship and I'd hope that everything would be smooth enough for me to have my own kids. However, I probably would be open to adoption although I'd hope I'd never be in the situation to require to.
     
    I'm definitely considering it. While I'm just in college now, and things like this aren't going to be of a huge concern for years to come, I really don't like the idea of having my own child when there are thousands of children who are orphans, and may never know what family is like. Why populate the world more, when you can find a child already living and make them feel safe and happy? It just makes sense to me.

    Having a child of your own is different, I totally understand that. But idk, adopting just feels like the better idea in my case.

    P.S. Not allowing homosexual couples to adopt is just...cruel. If a homosexual couple is better off financially and emotionally than some straight couples with kids, why deny them and a child happiness?
     
    If I wasn't mentally-disabled/a child myself, I would consider adopting, yes. I think it's good to adopt because no child should be left behind at all. Every child needs to have someone in their life to raise them. Some of them are taken away from their parents because of certain circumstances, and that's usually hard for them to deal with... especially if they are very young. They don't understand why or what's going on. I also have to say too, that I'm all for homosexual couples adopting. I mean, wtf? It's not going to hurt the child to have two fathers or two mothers. Most children just want a family period. They aren't going to care who adopts them as long as they are adopted by someone that will love them, you know?
     
    I'm not against the idea of adoption on its own, but I have to admit I'm too selfish to devote that much resource (monetary and emotional support) to someone that I feel no connection with in the first place.
     
    Personally, I doubt id ever have a kid of my own doing, let alone adoption. I feel like actually being pregnant would establish the connection I'd need to like the concept of the child, and since you don't get that with adoption, I wouldn't feel like I could feel the required things?? Does that make sense?? Idk

    I'm more for pet adoption lol
     
    No I don't want children at all. I think adopting is a better alternative than having your own child, but I understand why many prefer to have their own.
     
    I don't particularly want children, but I would probably sooner adopt than try to have one of my own. I am rather annoyed, however, that in voicing this to family members when asked and they're like "oh but why not your own that you can look at and be proud that you made them and that they look like you" well. 1. I would need to apologize to that kid if I looked at them and saw they looked like me. 2. I may not be able to look at them and think "I made that" but I would be able to look at them and think "I made a responsible decision and didn't get knocked up."

    Joking aside though, I think adoption is a great thing, provided the right people are doing it (shitty people can adopt or make their own children, after all). People shouldn't be looked down upon for adopting a child -- if anything, I think it takes more to do something like that than have your own. And that's not a knock at the nine months of growing a child in a uterus and keeping it or anything, but the way people still seem to treat adoption as this throwaway option to gain a child simply because they wouldn't be from the fruit of your loins is just silly to me.

    Point is. I would hella adopt.
     
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