CiCi
[font=Satisfy]Obsession: Watanuki Kimihiro and Izu
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I've got an interesting physiology that makes this debate a bit tougher. I can't have any form of female birth control outside of the expensive and intrusive tubal ligation (which doctors typically won't perform on a childless woman my age anyway). All female birth control otherwise involves hormones which can help regulate a lot of women. For me, however, the hormones make me go, for lack of a better word, insane. Crying, lots of screaming, mental breakdowns, reckless behavior, and everything in between; I've been on several different kinds of birth control and I couldn't handle any of them. Pills, shots, insertions... They all made me go crazy and lose my mind. It felt like I was bipolar or psychotic. And it was horrifying because for a while I thought I was just going insane and didn't relate it to my birth control.
I tried them for months to "get my body used to it" and all it really did was screw me over harder. After a year of birth control, I found that I just couldn't do it. And I'm too afraid of those psychotic breaks to even fathom trying birth control again any time soon. So my only option is condoms. Which are reliable about 70% of the time, depending on the condom. I'm lucky that my fiancée and I have found ways that work for us but I have to wonder how many other women suffer through this as well. Because I love sex and I'm sure other women do, too, but then we have risk pregnancies because of our problems with all this hormonal birth control.
That being said, I would get an abortion if I found out I was pregnant. I simply cannot, with all my anxiety and depression issues, carry a child that would mess with my hormones. So in that way, I am pro-choice. But I'm also not pro-abortion, either. If you're going to get an abortion, you should do it as early as possible. After 20 weeks, the fetus is, debatably in some circles, viable and you often have to start taking limbs off of forming embryos in order to perform an abortion. Whether or not this equates to sentience is yet to be fully tested.
I think the morning after pill should be cheaper (if not free). I've seen them at the store -- where I live, one single pill was 60 USD. That's ridiculous. (And no I don't count it as an abortion). Contraception should never be so damn expensive. There's too much poverty and bullshit in the world for someone to feel forced to carry a kid because they have no other option. Better sexual education is a must. Not just "this is a penis, this is a vagina, they make babies", either. We need to teach kids what having a child entails, not just how to go about doing it. It clearly prevents nothing the way we're teaching it now. Teen pregnancy is just as prevalent (if not more so) than ever.
I wish pro-lifers would be a little more actually pro-life, rather than just anti-abortion. Someone up above (can't remember who since there were so many comments I read through) mentioned how kids and the welfare state get screwed pretty hard by the same people who oppose abortion; and it's true, and a messed up situation. Kids shouldn't have to suffer at the hands of people who only do things because of religious obligation rather than their own true morality.
There's also a debate on whether or not fathers should have a say in abortions. This is very grey for me because women are the ones that have to go through the pregnancy and the birth, whereas dads get to sit by and wait. I think it's pretty messed up to force a woman who has no desire to be pregnant to go through with it anyway because he disagrees with the abortion, but it's also messed up to abort a baby against a father's wishes. It comes down to sex ed, and learning not to impregnate someone who has no desire to start a family with you. Basically, don't have sex with just anyone because you're horny and don't cum inside of your female partner without their full consent and understanding that they probably will get pregnant.
It's a pretty nasty situation all around and I wish people would learn to be more responsible, especially when it comes to picking partners. If you impregnate your girlfriend of 4 months and she gets an abortion and you're mad about that, you should've made better choices. Same with getting pregnant by your on-again off-again boyfriend and carrying it to term despite that he doesn't want to become a father; you can't force him to be one; clearly the people involved should've made better choices.
Anyway, that's my response that's far too long so no one will read it, thank you for coming to my TED-Rant.
I tried them for months to "get my body used to it" and all it really did was screw me over harder. After a year of birth control, I found that I just couldn't do it. And I'm too afraid of those psychotic breaks to even fathom trying birth control again any time soon. So my only option is condoms. Which are reliable about 70% of the time, depending on the condom. I'm lucky that my fiancée and I have found ways that work for us but I have to wonder how many other women suffer through this as well. Because I love sex and I'm sure other women do, too, but then we have risk pregnancies because of our problems with all this hormonal birth control.
That being said, I would get an abortion if I found out I was pregnant. I simply cannot, with all my anxiety and depression issues, carry a child that would mess with my hormones. So in that way, I am pro-choice. But I'm also not pro-abortion, either. If you're going to get an abortion, you should do it as early as possible. After 20 weeks, the fetus is, debatably in some circles, viable and you often have to start taking limbs off of forming embryos in order to perform an abortion. Whether or not this equates to sentience is yet to be fully tested.
I think the morning after pill should be cheaper (if not free). I've seen them at the store -- where I live, one single pill was 60 USD. That's ridiculous. (And no I don't count it as an abortion). Contraception should never be so damn expensive. There's too much poverty and bullshit in the world for someone to feel forced to carry a kid because they have no other option. Better sexual education is a must. Not just "this is a penis, this is a vagina, they make babies", either. We need to teach kids what having a child entails, not just how to go about doing it. It clearly prevents nothing the way we're teaching it now. Teen pregnancy is just as prevalent (if not more so) than ever.
I wish pro-lifers would be a little more actually pro-life, rather than just anti-abortion. Someone up above (can't remember who since there were so many comments I read through) mentioned how kids and the welfare state get screwed pretty hard by the same people who oppose abortion; and it's true, and a messed up situation. Kids shouldn't have to suffer at the hands of people who only do things because of religious obligation rather than their own true morality.
There's also a debate on whether or not fathers should have a say in abortions. This is very grey for me because women are the ones that have to go through the pregnancy and the birth, whereas dads get to sit by and wait. I think it's pretty messed up to force a woman who has no desire to be pregnant to go through with it anyway because he disagrees with the abortion, but it's also messed up to abort a baby against a father's wishes. It comes down to sex ed, and learning not to impregnate someone who has no desire to start a family with you. Basically, don't have sex with just anyone because you're horny and don't cum inside of your female partner without their full consent and understanding that they probably will get pregnant.
It's a pretty nasty situation all around and I wish people would learn to be more responsible, especially when it comes to picking partners. If you impregnate your girlfriend of 4 months and she gets an abortion and you're mad about that, you should've made better choices. Same with getting pregnant by your on-again off-again boyfriend and carrying it to term despite that he doesn't want to become a father; you can't force him to be one; clearly the people involved should've made better choices.
Anyway, that's my response that's far too long so no one will read it, thank you for coming to my TED-Rant.