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Do I wanna know, if this feeling flows both way

Nathan

Blade of Justice
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    For those who have/had crushes, have you ever tried to know how they felt about you? Ever spit out your feelings to them? How did you do so?
     
    I do like runaround things trying to find out their feelings. I'll buy them little things and see how they take it and then see how they act when I talk about other guys and stuff. After a while I do end up spilling my feelings just straight up I'll start letting it all out and then usually get rejected.
     
    I am so passive about it. I've never actually said to anyone I'm crushing on that I like them. I ain't got time fo' that.
     
    I've told everyone I've ever had feelings for that I've had feelings for them it's really no big deal to me.
     
    I'll be honest and say I came off rather awkward with confessing my feelings for a crush freshman year of high school. Back then I was incredibly immature and didn't know how to handle very many things at all socially, but I'm still in touch with her and next week I'm taking her out to lunch on the day she's visiting Colorado from out-of-state. :3

    Sophomore year I did have a girl confess her feelings for me, and from that experience I can say I empathize greatly to those who have had to deal with awkward confessions of love. It was hardly bearable how she approached it :r
     
    I'm really digging that Arctic Monkeys title reference. Kudos ~

    I've always told people that I have crushes on that I like them. The only determining factor really for me is "when," as the right time in which you tell them can be quite crucial. Usually the later on I tell them, the better the chances are considering they've had time to get to know me whereas if you tell them right when you meet them that will just come off as creepy.

    Seriously though, there's no point in not telling your crush that you like them. You'll just be killing yourself inside by not having any closure to whether or not they like you back. As hockey player Wayne Gretsky simply put it, "you miss 100% of the shots you don't take," so take a risk and just go for it! (:
     
    That Gretsky quote was the quote of wayyyyyyyyy too many people in my high school year book... for good reason. It speaks volumes.

    I've admitted my feelings to every girl I've crushed on except one (grand total of five girls, including the missed one). Three times I've been rejected, with one of those relationships remaining intact. One was reciprocated, though the way I let my feelings show was... bold, to say the least. And then there's that one girl from high school who I really regret never asking out. I'm sure she would have said yes. I didn't bother, though, for reasons.

    There's also another girl right now actually. I'm not exactly sure whatmy feelings towards her are, but I'm trying to figure out if she likes me. Cause women are complicated.
     
    I let my feelings get bottled up inside me because...I get really scared of saying them to the guys that I liked/had a crush on. I was too scared of the outcome. In 7th grade I had a crush on an 8th grader, and without thinking I went up to the guy to tell him that I liked him...but later on it turned out that he already had a girlfriend and told me that I was ugly for him. Shot down in an instant. Then 8th grade came and I had a crush on a really awesome guy friend, he ALSO had a girlfriend as I spilled him his feelings. Shot down as well. 9th grade came, I was falling for a cute guy in English class, and I wrote him a love letter...he wanted to be friends first though, in which I accepted. Four years later he ended up being my first boyfriend.

    Due to the above, with every guy I developed feelings with, I always keep my emotions to myself because I'm too scared. I was mostly shot down by guys, and was broken hearted. It was the worst feeling yet because I felt that I wasn't good enough.

    I think I took the risk and "went for it" when my current bf told me that he liked me via text, and all the bottled-up emotions I had for the guy just....exploded like a soda bottle that was shaken up lmao. Of course, I said yes! I was pretty happy :)

    It's understandable that it could be anxious at first, but if you are feeling it towards that other person, go for it. It's an opportunity you will regret missing for the rest of your life.
     
    I'm very direct with my intentions and I will actively pursue until you give me a red light, and then it's not really a big deal I'll do my best to move on.
    I've been on the other side of this a bunch as well and there's nothing worse than someone being really subtle because they're too afraid of making a move. Seriously be open about your attraction to them but don't be overbearing and things will end well.
     
    I don't really tell crushes. I mean I haven't had one in a while because boyfriend, obviously, but the few guys I have dated it was clear to both of us that we liked each other so it just happened. Once I thought it would be an excellent idea to tell this guy that was leaving the school that I had a crush on him the day he left, but then he ditched on our meeting so I never did.

    Then he came back one day and made out with my sister so that was that.
     
    Hmm.. Ive told my ex and my current girlfriend I liked them, but in-between that, ♥♥♥♥ it.
     
    Hm, I've only actually gone forward with 2 crushes, one that ended up turning into a 3-year relationship, and the other recent one that kind of left our friendship at a stand-still \: I always tell myself, and the friends who encourage me to take action, that I will never take that step unless I know that my crush is at least interested otherwise I'll be too passive to do anything about it ;; Most recent crush though, I ended up telling him while he driving me home from badminton, and it was via a typed message on my phone...Safe to say that the whole situation freaked him out, and our friendship has changed unfortunately :c
     
    Yes, I have had a few crushes here and there. No I did not in any way express to them my feelings, and no I highly doubt they feel the same way about me.
     
    I had a crush at one point that I thought liked me back, but sadly they stopped coming to school as my feelings developed.

    I had a crush on my current partner for about a few weeks after I first met them, it went from a friendship to more pretty quickly. She was totally my type, and had my interests. Then one day she asked me, and I...well I don't know how to explain my happiness xD
     
    I had a crush at one point that I thought liked me back, but sadly they stopped coming to school as my feelings developed.

    This sounds like the plot to an anime. You didn't chase them and find out she was a magical girl and you had to become one to save her life? What kind of anime protagonist are you??
     
    Sad to see you go, was sort of hoping that you'd stay. Just continuing the song. :)

    Answer to both of your questions: No. Why? I don't want them to know, and I highly doubt that they'd confront me about it. Success! :D
     
    Only in early elementary school. I think I'd was open about those stuff. in high school and now in college not really. I had crushed but didnt fall in love for real. Once I do, for real, I'll probably do something about it :D
     
    Yeah, I always tell them. It's my opinion, it's better to just tell them, instead of running around wondering how they feel about you, and just hoping that they like you.
     
    I tell most people. I'm not someone that just keeps it to themselves forever, unless I have a very valid reason to do so. That would be if they don't swing that way, so essentially telling someone you're into them when they're not attracted to your gender is something I find pretty awkward and pointless. Other than that, if I have a crush that actually lasts for a few months or builds over time, then I usually do just tell the person I'm into them. However, I also make sure to let 'em know that I'm not trying to make things awkward, and that they shouldn't feel bad if they don't feel the same.
     
    When I was gross I would tell people and most would laugh in my face. I think that's partly why I don't confess my feelings first to people now even though I think I look much better. The last person I was attracted to was much older than me so I was afraid to admit something like that to them. But weirdly enough they ended up confessing it to me. I figure if a guy really wants you they will tell you eventually. I'm in no rush for anything to begin with.
     
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