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So I have more of a help me figure this out question for everyone.
If I had to describe myself I would say I'm quite old school in all of this. I grew up with He/She or Straight/Gay/Lesbian/Bi and that's pretty much it. My parents taught me well and never said anything bad about Gay/Lesbian/Bi people. My best friend is Gay and my Mom would always joke and say Oh yeah he's my favorite gay son and he always got a kick outta that. I also have a friend who came out as Non-Bionary and goes by Ash now instead of Ashley. And when I sent out cards I'm like well how do I address this and looked it up and found Mx to address it instead of Mr or Ms/Mrs.
My issue I guess you could call it is I have a hard time referring people as They/Them because I hear that and think of a group of people and not a single person as you would with He/She. I also don't believe that Non-Bionary should be referred to as "It" because they're not objects. Other than PC I don't really have access to a community where I can be more active in this. I'll look at people's profiles and if they have nothing listed anywhere I just go by what the name is and go from there. Maybe I don't talk to people one on one enough or don't pay attention to the finer details enough...I'm not sure. I know I made this mistake recently and needed to be corrected which I rather you do but afterwards went back and checked their profile and couldn't find anything that stated either way and just went with what I knew.
As an Ally to all I try to better myself and become better understanding of everything so any and all help would be great. :D
If I had to describe myself I would say I'm quite old school in all of this. I grew up with He/She or Straight/Gay/Lesbian/Bi and that's pretty much it. My parents taught me well and never said anything bad about Gay/Lesbian/Bi people. My best friend is Gay and my Mom would always joke and say Oh yeah he's my favorite gay son and he always got a kick outta that. I also have a friend who came out as Non-Bionary and goes by Ash now instead of Ashley. And when I sent out cards I'm like well how do I address this and looked it up and found Mx to address it instead of Mr or Ms/Mrs.
My issue I guess you could call it is I have a hard time referring people as They/Them because I hear that and think of a group of people and not a single person as you would with He/She. I also don't believe that Non-Bionary should be referred to as "It" because they're not objects. Other than PC I don't really have access to a community where I can be more active in this. I'll look at people's profiles and if they have nothing listed anywhere I just go by what the name is and go from there. Maybe I don't talk to people one on one enough or don't pay attention to the finer details enough...I'm not sure. I know I made this mistake recently and needed to be corrected which I rather you do but afterwards went back and checked their profile and couldn't find anything that stated either way and just went with what I knew.
As an Ally to all I try to better myself and become better understanding of everything so any and all help would be great. :D