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The End of the Line

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    How do you guys deal with your depression? Your sense of helplessness; being at your rope's end?

    Currently, with only a laptop/3DS for communication, the inability of joining the workforce to earn income, and receiving zero support, I'm... not doing so well. I only find solace once I reach the bottom of the bottle, and the only thing keeping me from suicide is curiosity in playing Pokémon Sun.
     
    The things that I do don't always help for someone else, but I'll suggest them anyway. I usually think of the positive things I can do in the future, no matter how far fetched they are, to drown out the negativities of today. No matter how bad things are, there's always a way out of them, you just have to look for them yourself.

    Think of it this way: Metal has to be melted down before it can be made into a sword. If life is getting you down, perhaps it is melting you down so that you yourself can develop into a stronger person. All it takes is believement in yourself. I know it's a lot harder than it sounds, trust me I know, but don't always look on the bad side, but for once look at the bright side.

    Hope this helps for anyone, I'm pretty bad at explaining things :)
     
    I used to cope with depression by escaping it. I would play games or watch streams constantly. I would avoid my cell phone at all costs. there were few people I was comfortable talking with. I would go for walks to get out of my apartment. honestly those walks were so sad I was always on the brink of breaking down. the thought of going back home to my apartment made me sad too.

    as far as countering depression and anxiety it really is a matter of pinpointing the causes and building the courage to change it. finding work gave me a boost in confidence. it gave me the confidence and strength to stop hating everyone and everything and start loving. I wanted to be kind to people instead of be resentful and angry and mean. find the causes and symptoms, and change them
     
    I found distractions, such as video games and anime, were counter-productive with dealing with depression.

    Talk to somebody like a counselor if you can, respected peer, friend, parent, family, anyone. Hanging out with friends is also great in general.
     
    I exited depression when I was 15 years old, after 2-3 years of feeling sad with my life. I don't remember how I did it, other than thinking constant positive thoughts and coming to realization that not everything that happens in my life is my fault.

    Counseling is a definite must; there was a point in my life where I saw both a psychiatrist and a psychologist at the same time to help me get through life.
     
    I remind myself that I've made many mistakes in the past and that thinking things can't ever get better might also be a mistake. I remind myself that I'm not being objective when I think that no one cares about me or that I have no worth. I use my own self-deprecating tendencies to tell myself: "Hey, what makes you think you're not wrong about this?"

    But on a more day-to-day level I use things to cope. I find things I'm looking forward to and I clutch on to them, even if they seem silly. Like yesterday as I was trying to sleep I reminded myself that in the morning I would get to have a shower and cereal. (Don't judge me on my love for cereal.) That helped me forget my troubles a bit and get me relaxed enough to get to sleep. And that kind of thing does help. Even silly little things are important if you want them and look forward to them.

    Nothing's foolproof though. You gotta find what works for you.
     
    i've become so numb due to my depression that i can't even cry anymore, i just growl like my cat does when she's grumpy
     
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    i've become so numb due to my depression that i can't even cry anymore, i just growl like my cat does when she's grumpy
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    I would take you home to be my pet cat whom I'd feed and pet whenever you wanted. Mostly cuz I'm the same way, but I growl like a dog instead.
     
    Well, that's a really hard question to answer. I've been struggling with depression for.. Well, as long as I can remember. When I was three, my mother had died of Ovarian Cancer and my dad had remarried, but ended up remarrying to an abusive stepmother. And after years, my depression got stronger and stronger, and each year I wanted to commit suicide. I wanted more than anything for my life to be over. My parents were abusive, hell, my dad even encouraged me to kill myself one time and my stepmother threatened to kill me herself, and last year I actually tried to do it. But I talked myself out of it and got the help I needed. And my parents actually ended up disowning me, and I moved in with my best friend at the age of 17.

    What I can only recommend, man, is a change in scenery. If you're feeling down in the dumps, there's something you're lacking. Something in your life you need but you're not getting. Whether it be love, money, attention, kindness, or even social interaction, there's something you need. You need to find something to keep yourself busy, around new people, and have your loved ones support you the entire way. Find a hobby, but do something you enjoy and can get recognized for. That's one of the huge reasons why I love YouTube, because I get to meet and play games with new people, show off my passions, vent in front of a camera, and it's really therapeutic. I don't know you well enough to offer advice, but I wish you the best of luck. :)
     
    Long wall of text cause I might as well get all of this out of my mind so I can feel a bit better.

    Honestly I'm at the point where life just kinda goes by for me. I have been depressed for like 4-5 years now, mainly as result of bullying by both classmates in both elementary/middle(fused here) and start of high school along with some parental abuse. Bullying has thankfully ended, while parents just gave up on me kinda. The only person who supported me through depression just started ignoring me, and I have no idea why, and ever since that I just kinda became alone and isolated(though I have been before that as well). I feel like I just see a lot of problems that have been slowly building up over the years are all crashing down on me atm, it's not the worst it has ever been, and I have been way more depressed in the past, but I just feel like I have been really stupid in the past and made every single worst choice possible, and while I could fix a lot of them right now I'm pretty sure my life is still going to end up really miserable. My parents also constantly yell at me for failing and if they see me sad they just tell me to grow up or stop being a baby, so yeah not much support I can get from my family, not to mention they always called my dreams unrealistic and that I could never do what I wanted to do (either game dev or just work with software).

    Aside from video games and music, one of the escapes I had (sleep) has also been negated by me having an episode of sleep paralysis, so for about 2 weeks now I haven't been able to sleep normally and have basically just had recurring nightmares over and over again, along with 1 minor cause of sleep paralysis again (though I was more calm that time thankfully, while the first time I went full on panic mode) right when I thought I was finally getting over it.

    Also I haven't really been able to cry in like at least a year, sometimes when I yawn I tear up a bit but that's probably because of my lack of energy (no motivation + not being able to sleep properly anymore) and I have noticed recently I have developed a weird habit of laughing at even the most minorly funny things, well I suppose it's not as much of a laughter as it is a crazy giggle. It does brighten my mod up a little so that's good I guess.

    Only reason I haven't killed myself honestly is because I am afraid of what happens after death, and also afraid of what would happen if I survive suicide. There was a fire accident on the same apartment floor like 3 months ago, we were trapped in the building and while there wasn't any immediate threat to us (it was thankfully on the other side of the floor) it really made me realize I wasn't as okay with dying as I thought I was, same for sleep paralysis sorta (though during it I started begging to do just so it would end at some point).
     
    there's a lot to say, but i just wanted to touch upon my own realization recently. when you're experiencing such sadness you let yourself become a victim. when you're in the victim role it's easy to continue to blame, sit in pity, continually punish yourself. when you're a victim you continually carry out your own pain against yourself. you continually pay for the same mistakes

    i realized part of moving past all the darkness was taking myself out of the victim role. i had to forgive myself and others, i had to stop punishing myself for what others said about me or what i thought about myself. yesterday i was a victim, today i am myself
     
    I have clinical depression, so there's a lot of times I have feelings of helplessness and such. Usually i can't really do anything but sleep it off ^^ But a nice nap really helps! It refreshes me and helps me clear my head.
     
    Viva los drugos! Muy bien, muchos gracias.

    Really. I'm on five of 'em. Four? No, five.Yeah. Five. The nightmares are real. Music is the saviour and distraction, a saint.
     
    Probably not well...

    Ignore it till I cant anymore. Drop stupid meaningless "hints" to people that I'm not feeling well. Realize nobody actually cares and all rl friends have already abandoned me anyways. Remove my presence from all forms of communication with teh interwebs and distract myself. (sometimes hit bottom and think about death, but never except that as the answer to the problem) Get over it for a while...

    Wash. Rinse. Repeat.
     
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    rhythm has helped a lot
    it took me a long time to fall back into a rhythm i would call 'having a life' since my steady decline over the last few years - culminating in a couple of suicide attempts and all the loveliness that comes with that. but one of the biggest things that has helped me has been the simple concept of maintaining a daily plan. start your day off with something you can say 'yes, i did that and i am happy with it'. before you do anything else, have something good to throw your weight behind. i chose to jog - 6am to 8am every morning without fail. a nice throwback to the rampant athleticism of my youth. if i can't do so because of work or (exceptionally) shitty weather or w/e, then i move it to the next possible time. having that period to myself before the hustle and bustle of the day, to reflect or be devoid of thought, whatever i want, is fantastic. i might feel shit during the jog - i still feel like killing myself pretty often. but having the knowledge that the first thing i did that day was something to improve myself... it makes me proud.

    however else you spend the rest of the day is up to you. there's a lot of time to fill and naturally not all of it can be entirely productive, nor should it be. downtime without punishing yourself is essential. but having that base activity of goodness is something i can't stress enough.
     
    I plop myself in front of the computer and either play some sort of driving game or play some sort of creative sandbox game building things. Occasionally I might draw.
     
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