it depends on the design usually. i think in most cases the girls win bc of krys and rosa whose designs i like a lot. i have never played as calem in XY bc i think he is just. the ugliest protag lol. i think i mostly go with the guy in dppt. idk it just really depends, esp if i already have a team planned.
anyway, i never use my real name, i usually use al/alli/allison, whichever i'm feelin the most, but like for gen 7 and 8 i feel like my protags are more like ocs at this point. i didn't name my guy in moon an al variant, his name is konani and he has a very feminine team and i didn't plan that at all lmao it just ended up that way. allison in sword is similar, her team is all punk-y except for alcremie and she dresses in all pastels. it's hilarious. since customization tbh i think my characters feel more like their own than before. but i never really make my characters a version of me per se, aside from using my nickname for some. i usually don't even pick my skin tone tbh just bc the different option is there. so it's like why not. it's just fun to create new characters in latter pokemon games tbh. like i don't even know the canon names bc you can customize them and make them your own character so like who Cares what their canon names are honestly lol