Change of Heart

VisionofMilotic

VisionofMilotic

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    Is there an area where your beliefs evolved? It could be someone you knew whom you now hold a different opinion of for better or for worse, your views on religion, a political position, subject in school you thought you would hate but ended up liking or vice versa.
     
    I'm basically a completely different person than I was 7 years ago. All of my beliefs have changed ever since I went out into the real world and experienced what it's like. That said, I've still got a long way to go and there are still plenty of beliefs I hold that I haven't looked too far into, and should, but overall I'm pretty happy with how I am today and the beliefs I've hold as all of this evolution has come from looking into things with a rational eye (plus looking back on history, which I used to hate, has been eye-opening and enjoyable).
     
    I mean when I was in middle school I made fairly gross jokes (transphobic jokes mostly) because I didn't know any better. However obviously now my viewpoints and I have changed as a person and I know it's wrong to make those sort of jokes, especially since I realized I was lgbtq+ in middle school (thought I was bisexual, after graduating high school turns out I'm queer. If that word bothers anyone I'll censor it)

    But, yeah. Now I'm even trans myself and whatnot and uh. Always had a feeling something was different about me. Realized I wasn't cisgender in high school. But yeah. I just used to be fairly close minded in middle school in general I think. I'm not sure why that is. I think it's because a lot of the people around me normalized that behavior and those jokes because, middle schoolers. It be like that.

    However now obviously I know it's wrong and I stopped making those sort of gross jokes once I hit high school I believe.
     
    Honestly, I think my views have evolved less over the years than you might expect. Politically I used to be way closer to the centre, at least economically, but I've been really, really left since I was like fifteen so that's not a recent change that's for sure.

    I've gotten progressively more cynical if that counts? Or I was a non-practising theist as a kid and have long since become agnostic.

    idk. While I'm obviously very different as a person now than I was ten years ago, it's hard to pinpoint exactly what's changed. I don't think the fundamentals of what I believe in or value have shifted that dramatically over the years compared to others.
     
    Politically I'm still very much a moderate, but I have become more tolerant over the last year. I used to be fairly transphobic, especially around the concept of being nonbinary. That changed when I became friends with someone who identified that way. They let me ask questions on the subject and I could see how much coming out helped them.
     
    I used to be bothered by very feminine transgirls and see all extreme feminine or masculine expressions as harmful and unnecessary. Because why should they need to act so extremely femme in order to feel like a girl when I was AFAB and didn't act like that? Only seemed to harmfully encourage stereotypes among women, I thought.

    Then I discovered that it's not the rest of the world that's odd for some to want to be very femme or very masc - it's just me who is neither. Once I realized that and started embracing being greygender/agender, I could become much more respectful and accepting of people who have strong gender identities. How we feel and what we are and want to be differs sooo much between all of us, and many really do feel happy expressing their gender strongly. They don't harm me for being who they are, as long as they also respect that I'm not gonna be like that :catheart:
     
    the beliefs i hold about myself have changed as i've learned new things:
    age 5-12 or whatever: reject everything "girly" just on principle to the point of being disgusted by it
    age 14: "i think... im a gay guy in a womans body? no thats not a thing; that's disrespectful to gay guys u cant think that"
    age 20: YEAH EMBRACE THE GIRLY STUFF WOO
    age 25: oop im genderfluid that explains several things

    and really i suppose that's true for most beliefs/opinions; that they have changed in accordance to how informed i am. and will continue to change as i learn more. :) i could go ahead and pick out all the "problematic" things i thought at one point or another i suppose but that wouldn't do much for anyone. it's enough to be at the point where i challenge my own thinking before thoughts leave my brain & reduce the amount of negativity i put into the world as a whole

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    I used to think that J.K. Rowling was brilliant. That said I still enjoy the Harry Potter series, I just pretend that Terry Pratchett wrote the books now instead of she.
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    I understand the sentiment and reasoning, but one can't truly disconnect the author from the work, especially considering that Rowling's (extremely unfortunate) beliefs are peppered throughout the books and therefore the rest of the franchise. :( But if you are going to pretend someone else wrote the series, let it not be Sir Terry, who did his absolute best to treat everyone with respect.
     
    Aquacorde said:
    I understand the sentiment and reasoning, but one can't truly disconnect the author from the work, especially considering that Rowling's (extremely unfortunate) beliefs are peppered throughout the books and therefore the rest of the franchise. :( But if you are going to pretend someone else wrote the series, let it not be Sir Terry, who did his absolute best to treat everyone with respect.
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    That was more of an inside joke, that only one other person here would have understood. I do not appoint anyone else to her work, I just don't relate the series to her at all and I do not have a better way of describing how I feel in regards to that. Thankfully, her beliefs are easy enough to ignore, when reading through the series as I am currently.
     
    As embarrassing as it to admit, especially to those who've seen my beliefs on here. For a while in early 2010 I was an...anti sj person. Like I believed reverse racism was a thing so bad. It's so embarrassing but someone calmly explained everything to me and I immediately had a change of heart, and have held on to my leftist beliefs since.
     
    Let's start with religion, which used to be something I held on since... birth, I think, as I was raised by a very religious dad. Weirdly enough for a south american he isn't catholic, but he is still a christian. I don't believe in that stuff anymore.

    With religion came intolerance against the LGBTQ+ (and negating being bisexual myself until... last year?), and acceptance was something that actually took me time, especially with trans and non-binary ppl.

    My politic leaning went from far right, to far left, to centre with something more in the left which is where I'm now I think.

    I also used to be more of a pacifist, but honestly there are people who have to be shot at for them to listen. Just to be clear I'm talking about protests like what happened in Chile before the pandemic started, and not about literally shooting someone.

    I also thought justice and police force were the ones to deal with crime, but now I'm up to defend anyone who dares to pull out a Batman.

    I used to like chemistry and now I hate it, just as I used to dislike music and now I like it but not enough for me to put some time on it.
     
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    In compared to who the person who I was 2-3 years ago, I am a wildly different person, most due to me discovering more about the real world and actually thinking for myself instead of just following what my parents/similar authority figures told me. Some of the highlights include:

    Subconsciously changing from a devout Catholic to a deistic worldview, and then consciously changing from that to an atheistic worldview

    Becoming more supportive of LGBTQ+ community (instead of just disliking them for no clear reason), which was largely helped by making friends with individuals on the spectrum. This ultimately lead to me realizing that I'm Pan.

    Discovering and joining the furry fandom (which was a fairly important factor in many of these changes)

    Swinging from right to left politically

    Getting better at socializing and developing an actual personality

    Discovering new (and in so cases, rediscovering old) interests and passions that I have
     
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    So I always was pretty cold when it came to death. I didn't feel much unless it was someone I was EXTREMELY close to. Even when my grandpa died who was basically my dad growing up I didn't feel much. This was until recently. There was a girl that I went to corrections academy with and she was my roommate for the few weeks I was there. After I left I still somewhat kept in contact with her but not really. We were really cool for awhile but like people do, we drifted apart. She was about mid twenties. A couple weeks ago my other roommate at academy previously messaged me to tell me Kenisha had passed. Her car had broken down and she had got hit walking on the side of the highway by a passing SUV. For some reason, this broke me. I couldn't stop thinking about how young she was, how gruesome her death must've been, how her fiancé and family felt. I don't cry like ever. But I cried for almost a week straight.
     
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